Why do so many adults have an unhealthy personality?

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    Why do so many adults have an unhealthy personality?

    I don't get it, when people are younger, they are more innocent, charming, have a good bit of life but when they get older, they start to develop prejudices, unhealthy attitudes, hatred towards people, the list goes on. Now I realize I may be naive being only about 20 years old but why do I only know of may'be 5 adults that have a healthy personality.

    Although I love my family, each person has really bad flaws with their personality. I never want to become like this, how can I keep my personality healthy as I get older?

    There is maturing, but there is something I call "rotting" which is where a person's personality turns sour which alot o people seem to call "maturing".
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    The reason young people are more innocent as you put it is cause they dont think about things not related to them or their own little world. And when you get older you got to deal with outside things to survive and a lot of those things suck and its either toughen up or fall. Its not like it always makes you "rotten" as you say but some people get some real shit cards in life and have to deal with it.

    Of course this isnt true for everyone since some people have good lives and experiences. And some people just have crap personality's and thats it.

    My advice is to stay positive about life and all granted not everyone can do this. And it will also depend on what you go through as your going through your life as well.

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    Quote Originally Posted by isingthebodyelectric View Post
    Lack of individuality mostly.
    Do you mean adults or children?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Patrick_1 View Post
    Do you mean adults or children?
    Maybe both. A lot of children don't seem like they are encouraged to be themselves when they're young. Parents seem to like raising them to be lemmings.
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    Quote Originally Posted by isingthebodyelectric View Post
    Parents seem to like raising them to be lemmings.
    And our factory education system doesn't help either to say the least.
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    Quote Originally Posted by isingthebodyelectric View Post
    Maybe both. A lot of children don't seem like they are encouraged to be themselves when they're young. Parents seem to like raising them to be lemmings.
    Ok, I agree that everyone is in some way pressured against being an individual but don't you think that's being hard on parents? Parenting is probably really difficult and most people just want their kids to be happy as themselves. I would say it's institutions like school and work that are forcing people to change who they are. But maybe this is a Fe vs Fi argument?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Geoffrey Felis View Post
    And our factory education system doesn't help either to say the least.
    >You just beat me to it :)
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    As people grow older their negative experiences accumulate as emotional baggage. The older a person is the more probable it is that he or she will be exposed to a traumatic experience also. The negativity truly does build up in a person's system like a snowball rolling down a slope and it alters attitudes and behaviors. For example, people who have received pronounced or continued mistreatment at any point may develop an unhealthy attitude towards others. Those who endure loss may not trust as easily. Being subjected to an injustice may cause one to become bitter. Some people even turn to substance abuse to avoid bad memories, which only compounds their problems.

    The point is that living longer also means theoretically having more unhappy experiences and even as adults getting closure on these experiences without having to experience a negative impact that can be stored by the brain and nervous system and recalled at a later time is extremely challenging.
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    Quote Originally Posted by pianodog View Post
    I don't get it, when people are younger, they are more innocent, charming, have a good bit of life but when they get older, they start to develop prejudices, unhealthy attitudes, hatred towards people, the list goes on. Now I realize I may be naive being only about 20 years old but why do I only know of may'be 5 adults that have a healthy personality.

    Although I love my family, each person has really bad flaws with their personality. I never want to become like this, how can I keep my personality healthy as I get older?

    There is maturing, but there is something I call "rotting" which is where a person's personality turns sour which alot o people seem to call "maturing".
    you can't keep your innocence, you will understand in 20-30 years from now, life has a way of catching up to you and then handing you your ass on a platinum platter
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