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Bypassing lack of willingness to take action

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#1 · (Edited)
The greatest problem I have faced in my life is not having willingness to take action. I have realized that cause of that problem is considering our emotions, feelings and thoughts.

Well, our brain reacts to external world by producing our emotions, feelings and thoughts and if are considering them, we will always find a reason why we shouldn't do something.

However, if we bypass consideration of our emotions, feelings and thoughts we will bypass lack of willingness to take action. Here is a diagram that shows how we can accomplish it:

The key is in something I call Decider state and it represnets process of being with your internal world and defining what needs to be done in the same time:

  • [being with your internal world] What you do is literally being with everything that is currently part of your internal world. That means that if you are feeling anxiety, be with the feeling of anxiety, if you are thinking on something, be with your thoughts, etc.
  • [defining what needs to be done] What you do is, depending on situation, consciously using your Sensing or iNtuition to connect to external world and then, depending on situation, consciously using your Thinking or Feeling to process information you have recieved that way.
Once you have used Decider state to find out what needs to be done, you simply execute it before you end up considering your emotions, feelings and thoughts and get prevented from executing it.

P.S.: The reason behind putting symbol of Zener diode in a box that represents Decider state on the diagram is because Zener diode stabillizes voltage and being with your internal world stabilizes person's internal world.
 

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#3 ·
Actually, if you do something only when you are motivated to do something, it will sure be more enjoying to live, but if my technique is able to make you take action it can be helpful in many aspects of life.

Well, when it comes to work, if you want to stay employed, you may have to do things that you may not be motivated to do. However, keeping a job can provide motivation to do those things.

Also, my technique can be helpful in relationships. You can be so much attracted to some girl, but you still can't take any action. You probably won't say that it is due to the lack of motivation, but because of some fear.

On the other hand, you have said why would you be more motivated? Where does your motivation comes? From your emotions, feelings and thoughts or from somewhere else?

In other words, if you can bypass your emotions, feelings and thoughts, you will not have to worry about your motivation. You will be able to take action no matter what.

More, since you are also consciously connecting to external world in order to consciously define what needs to be done, this beats all morals and social norms. Your action will be based on present moment, not on some moral or norms.

By the way, the behaviour I have presented here is not what most of the people consider normal human behaviour, it is a behaviour that will be closer to Nietzsche's superman.
 
#5 ·
It's not motivating at all. The technique is designed to be impersonal: you bypass your emotions, feelings and thoughts.

Well, although I act as INFP on a daily basis, I tend to achieve an ideal of being unstoppable while responding to everything as it should be responded to. It is more like having power and enough wisdom not to abuse it. Here is excerpt from some book that explains it well:

What does it mean to love? It means to see a person, a situation, a thing as it really is, not as you imagine it to be. And to give it the response it deserves. You can hardly be said to love what you do not even see. And what prevents us from seeing? Our conditioning. Our concepts, our categories, our prejudices, our projections, the labels that we have drawn from our cultures and our past experiences.
 
#9 ·
Emotions, feelings, and thoughts are not possible to bipass long-term. This would make you ill in every sense of the word. You'd be in a dissociated state all the fricking time. That state is useful to humans for short-term crisis but not useful or sustainable in everyday living.

A lot of doing just involves getting into a routine of doing something. Delegating behaviors to the unconscious minimizes "decision fatigue", a very real phenomenon. Having to make decisions about a task is often more psychologically taxing than the actual task itself.

If you want to accomplish more in life you just have to add one small self-helping behavior to your lifestyle. Then after a few months, add another. If the gap between how you are now and how you'd like to be is large, it can take many years. It's worth it though.

You might read somewhere that it takes twenty-eight days to form a habit. That's false. A habit, depending on it's complexity, will take anywhere from three months to a couple of years to form.
 
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#10 ·
Id like to test this on myself. I can pretty much remove myself from reality. In this state I ignore or become numb to crisis. I'm unwilling to deal with shit. Basically, living in an indecision loop. So, if I'm in this mindset how can I be with anxiety or whatever? I dont fully understand what's triggering the decider state.
 
#11 · (Edited)
What is triggering Decider state is accomplishment of the act of being with your internal world while defining what needs to be done.

As for being with anxiety or whatever, when you are really being, you are desire-less, you don't have wanting and not-wanting, you are perfectly fine with everything, including anxiety. That's why it is called being, you are like a plant, free from desires, you are just being. Therefore, the only answer to the question "How to be with anxiety or whatever?" is you just be with anxiety or whatever.

By the way, tomorrow I will make a blog post on my Personality Cafe blog about being and desiring and how they relate together.
 
#13 ·
All I can say is a lack of motivation is probably one of the best things that's ever happened to me multiple times. If I had the willpower to commit with past plans of actions, I would still be stuck in them even though now I see them as kind of stupid and pointless.

I have no problem with going the organic route. I call it living from within, or passion. It's not about forcing yourself or tricking yourself to do things. It's about doing the things you find naturally please you.

Now, the hard part about that is, it may not be what you think. You may think, because of your conditioning and parents and such, that you should be a certain way and do certain things. Those are the things you'll lack willpower for. Some might say this is the super-ego of Freud. While I don't think you ever totally get rid of the super-ego, it is better to live from the ego. I mean, in Freud's sense of the word.

Think of it as living from the self vs. living from the Self. The self is your reflection in society, the narcissistic illusion of how you might appear to people and what their vision of success for you is. The Self is that spontaneity within you. A very simple but relevant example is getting out of bed, or sleeping habits in general. These days I simply sleep when I am tired, and I wake up when I'm not (unless I have some obligation). That leads to some awfully weird sleeping habits, but it works for me. Someone living from the self in this case would be trying to sleep in well-defined hours of what they think they should be doing, like sleeping exactly 8 hours or getting up before noon or whatever, even if they are super tired, because of a sense of.. one might say guilt.
 
#14 ·
Good point, but how can we deal with conflict between self and Self? If you are living from the self, you will feel a lack of living from the Self and if you are living from the Self, you will feel a lack of living from the self; mind always finds something that he doesn't see as how it should be. The only way I have found to avoid this conflict, is being state of consciousness and, although it doesn't work well for all people, it works perfectly for me.
 
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