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    Article; 5 misconceptions about Introverts

    I found this article online, thought it was interesting.


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    1. If a person is introverted, it does NOT mean they are shy or anti-social.
    This is probably THE biggest misconception that extroverts tend to have when it comes to introverts.
    And you canít really blame them for having that kind of misconception.
    Extroverts tend to have to drag introverts to parties, to convince them to go and sell them on attending social engagements. When introverts politely decline, extroverts automatically assume that something might be wrong so they always ask if everythingís all right and of course, everything is all right. Itís just a common misunderstanding. When extroverts see a pattern like this developing, they automatically assume that introverts are shy or anti-social as that can be the only logical explanation to them.
    Whatís more, when extroverts try to engage introverts in small talk, it seems like they hit a brick wall.
    Add to that, most extroverts see that introverts tend to be fond of engaging in solitary activities such as reading, writing, and daydreaming.
    Well, if it walks like a duck, talks like a duck, it must be a duck right?
    Wrong.
    Introverts have more brain activity in their frontal lobes and when these areas are activated through solitary activity, introverts become energized through processes such as problem solving, introspection, and complex thinking.
    Extroverts on the other hand tend to have more activity in the back of their brain, areas that deal with processing sensory information from the external world, so they tend to search for external stimuli in the form of interacting with other people and the outside world to energize them.
    Thereís a deeper science to this that involves differences in the levels of brain chemicals such as acetylcholine and dopamine in extroverts and introverts, but I wonít get into that.
    The bottom line is that introverts are just wired differently than extroverts. Thereís nothing ďwrongĒ with them. They just become energized through different processes depending on where the majority of their brain activity takes place.
    Granted there are introverts who may be shy and anti-social, but thatís just a coincidence that perpetuates the myth that ALL introverts are like that.
    Youíll find that all introverts are fine just the way they are until people begin to subtly suggest otherwise.
    2. Introverts tend to dislike small talk.
    If you really want to engage an introvert in conversation, skip the small talk. Introverts tend to love deep conversations on subjects that interest them. They love to debate, go past the superficial and poke around the depths in peopleís minds to see whatís really going on in there. Most, if not all introverts tend to regard small talk as a waste of time, unless itís with someone new they just met.
    This characteristic probably contributes to another misconception that extroverts have of introverts - the misconception that all introverts are arrogant.
    Why?
    Because extroverts notice that introverts donít talk that much with other people. Therefore, extroverts assume that introverts think theyíre too good to talk to others, hence arrogant and thatís hardly the case.
    Itís just a matter of preference.
    Extroverts thrive on small talk.
    Introverts abhor it.

    Thereís nothing wrong with either choice, itís just a matter of preference.
    This brings us to the third point.
    3. Introverts do like to socialize Ė only in a different manner and less frequently than extroverts.
    Yes, itís true. Contrary to the majority of public opinion, introverts do like to socialize, but again, only in a different manner and less frequently than extroverts.
    Introverts love anything that involves deep conversation. They get energized by discussing subjects that are important to them and they love see what and how other people think, to connect the dots, to dig deep, to find root causes, to use logical thinking via debate in conversation, etc.
    And whatís more, introverts can do a lot of things extroverts are naturally good at - give great speeches, schmooze with everyone, be the life of the party, charm the socks off of total strangers - but only for a short period of time. After that, they need time for themselves which brings us to the fourth point.
    4. Introverts need time alone to recharge.
    Extroverts tend to think introverts have something against them as they constantly seem to refuse generous invites to social engagements. Introverts do appreciate the offers, but itís just that they know it will take a lot of energy out of them if they pursue these social functions.
    They need time alone like they need food and water. Give them their space. Thereís nothing wrong with them. Theyíre not depressed and theyíre not sad. They just need time alone to recharge their batteries.
    5. Introverts are socially well adjusted.
    Most introverts are well aware of all the social nuances, customs, and mannerisms when it comes to interacting with other people, but they simply donít choose to socialize as much as extroverts, which makes it easy for extroverts to assume that introverts are not socially well adjusted, as they have not seen much evidence of them interacting with other people.
    This just exacerbates previous misconceptions and gives way to labeling introverts as nerds, geeks, loners, etc.
    Itís easy to understand why society tends to value extroverts over introverts. Human beings have lived in a tribal society so having to interact frequently with people came to be a regarded as a very good skill when it came to survival.
    But because of this high value placed on extroversion, introverts tend to feel trapped and find themselves in a catch 22 situation.
    Do introverts stay true to who they are and risk social alienation and isolation or do introverts conform and join the extroverted side, pretending to be somebody theyíre not just to fit in?
    This is precisely why I wrote this article, because if the extroverts can become more educated about introverts, introverts will be able to feel free to stay true to who they are, and thatís a good thing from societyís point of view.
    Trying to ďturnĒ an introverted person into an extroverted person is detrimental because it gives off a subtle suggestion that there is something wrong with them, hampering their self worth and esteem when there is absolutely nothing wrong in the first place.
    Thereís nothing wrong with introverts.
    In fact, introverts are the leading pioneers of advancements in human civilization. Albert Einstein, Issac Newton, Charles Darwin are a few introverts that come to mind, just to name a few.
    And for those of you not interested in science, but pop culture, youíll be surprised to see a lot of well known names in Hollywood are introverts as well. Julia Roberts, Steven Spielberg, Christian Bale to name a few as well.
    And for those interested in sports, Michael Jordan and Tiger Woods come to mind as athletes who are introverts as well.
    Introverts have a lot to bring to the table. They have an amazing ability to discover new thoughts, an uncanny ability to focus, to concentrate, to connect the dots, to observe and note things that most people miss, to listen extremely well and are often found having a rich and vivid imagination too.
    The more extroverts become knowledgeable about introverts, the less tension and misunderstanding there will be among the two.
    So if youíre an introvert reading this, send a copy of this article to all your extrovert friends so they can get a better idea of what youíre all about.
    Itís time to finally clear the air."
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    Thank You..

    Indeed, some fundamental misconceptions are detailed wonderfully by this post.

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    Quote Originally Posted by avalanche183 View Post
    2. Introverts tend to dislike small talk.
    If you really want to engage an introvert in conversation, skip the small talk. Introverts tend to love deep conversations on subjects that interest them. They love to debate, go past the superficial and poke around the depths in peopleís minds to see whatís really going on in there. Most, if not all introverts tend to regard small talk as a waste of time, unless itís with someone new they just met.
    This is one of the biggest factors that makes flirting/dating difficult for introverted men since we're the ones who are supposed to initiate. I am amazed at how easily entertained people at my work are while engaging in random, inconsequential dialogue. I'm sure most of them are ES types. I envy their feeble little minds that are so captivated by sensory stimuli. No offense to our ES population here in the forum. I'm sure you're all an exception to the majority.
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    Thanks, that is true indeed.

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    Great article Avi. And highly appreciated. As an introvert you probably have to stand a lot of myths. People seem to think we are socially retarded, so thanks. =)
    tinker thanked this post.

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    Quote Originally Posted by avalanche183 View Post
    4. Introverts need time alone to recharge.
    I think that's the point which is the hardest to be understood by extroverts.
    Anyways a great article! :)
    angularvelocity, dizzygirl, tinker and 1 others thanked this post.

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    As an extrovert, I find point 3 most interesting. I have worked in sales environments with salespeople who had introverted personalities. At first, I found that hard to believe but the truth is that the introverts who wanted to have such a career were very successful. What's more, they rarely made the same mistakes twice, so they had a very quick learning curve. I've also found that introverts tend to be a little more accepting of my ENTJ, straight to the point communication style. Trust me, that last point is very much appreciated. Thanks guys.

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    This was very helpful. As an introvert living in South America, i really do have trouble explaining why i dont want to go to the party. Ive been called everything from arrogant to low profile to bitch. Im gonna post this on facebook :)

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    i have seen various posts and i have heard that freud thought introversion was some kind of mental illness, either from birth or gained as we grow up. i find this very interesting, albeit controversial. i can see why especially extroverts can see introversion as something of an illness or oddity, but also i can see that introversion has a huge advantage in being able to function alone (especially reading and working on complex stuff for a long period of time). it would be interesting to debate this in a sort of darwinian perspective (allthough i think "darwinian" is a word that get used too much and wrongly in most cases)
    Angel1412kaitou thanked this post.

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    This thread wins. I found the article durring my early research into typology back in december, but I hadn't yet joined any forums on this stuff. I found a very interesting article, but I can't relocate it. And because Frued thought that being an introvert was a mental illness, I'm now going to summon him back from the dead and kill him myself.
    Last edited by Trope; 08-18-2009 at 03:22 PM.
    Inner Cosmos, Chilln, barbalootSuits and 12 others thanked this post.


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