I have an 8 months old baby nephew. His parents divorced, so he'll spent 2 weeks at my house and 2 weeks at his mom's house, every month.
My mom is an ESFP, and I notice our differences in nurturing the baby.
I realize that I don't talk much to him. When it's time to play, I pull out all his toys, teach him how to play with it, and just watch him playing with his toys. I also love to take him doing outdoor activities together, like take him out for a walk. When we meet the neighbors, I will introduce him to them and let them talking to him. I take him around the neighborhood, watching people and the cars in the street, tell him the names of everything we see, singing happy songs, etc.
So there's a lot of physical activities together, as my way to "bond" with him emotionally.
My mom is different. She likes to talk to him and playing with him all day in the living room. But she never take him out. There's a lot of emotional connection.
My mom get panic very easily. There's a time where he accidentally fell off from the bed, and my mom got so panicked and hysterical, she made the baby cried for 1-2 hours.
When the same thing happened to him while I was around, I quickly took him from the floor, and gently caress him and said: "It's okay, everything is fine."
He stop crying in less than 30 seconds.
From the emotional or mood side, he's more expressive when he's with my mom. He laughed a lot, cry a lot. He show lots of emotions in a day, but generally is more cheerful and active. And he becomes very clingy/spoiled with my mom, like he would cry if my mom put him on his baby seat, or he want my mom to carrying him most of the time.
When he's with me, he gets more calm/quiet. He didn't cry and he didn't talk much. He laughed, but generally his mood is more stable and passive. He's not clingy with me. He also didn't cry or angry when I put him on his baby seat (though he'll cry if he got bored).
I wonder how far the nurturing style affecting the functions development of a child...
So mothers, how do you nurture your children?
What's your nurturing style?
How far do you think it's affecting their personality?