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    How do you measure success?

    Something my mother said to me the other day inspired me to make this thread. We were having a conversation about how I feel like a spare part because I've dropped out of school, I have many personal problems and I'm trying to figure out what I want and where I should go. I was feeling like I was a failure and my mom said:

    "Everybody measures success by different yardsticks. You should never measure success my somebody else's yardstick."

    And it got me thinking, how do you measure success?



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    Quote Originally Posted by HollyGolightly View Post
    Something my mother said to me the other day inspired me to make this thread. We were having a conversation about how I feel like a spare part because I've dropped out of school, I have many personal problems and I'm trying to figure out what I want and where I should go. I was feeling like I was a failure and my mom said:

    "Everybody measures success by different yardsticks. You should never measure success my somebody else's yardstick."

    And it got me thinking, how do you measure success?
    I think that if you are happy what you are doing and living the lifestyle that YOU want then you are successful.

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    The moment you know you don't need to measure success, you're successful.
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    From someone that has a library full of self help books, I will tell you that your mother is dead on. Nobody can give you the magic formula for success in your life. It comes directly from you.

    It took me a long time to realize what I wanted from my own life. At first I was driven for money, cars, homes, women, etc. The whole American dream was pounded into my head from many wasted hours watching television.

    What I've found thus far in life is that there are a few constants that will help guide your decision making. The only way you'll be able to see what those constants are in your life, is to clear your mind and drop all vices.

    Quit smoking, drinking, television, movies, games, and all other garbage media/addictions that the mainstream markets pound into your head through their hypnotic advertising. I'm not saying you have to quit these things indefinitely, it just means that to see these constants, you need to be free from synthetic mind altering substances/mediums. Many people are addicted to these things as they are unable to feel satisfaction in their lives without them. This is a dependence state of mind that keeps people in an endless spiral of fogged focus.

    Once you've cleared your mind of these mediums, you'll likely feel bored or anxious. Training your mind and body to find it's own legs in this society is difficult without these things. Eventually, something miraculous will happen; you'll awaken.

    This awakening is very similar to one that Terrence McKenna describes in his research regarding the reset mind. Once you have a mind open to all possibilities (a reboot for example) you'll be able to see what REALLY gives you emotional highs and lows.

    These constants are:
    Happiness
    Purpose
    Enlightenment
    Perception

    Why do I call them constants? They are constantly interacting with one another through every phase of your life. When you are "clear" as Joe Vitale would say, all of these constants become parallel to each other. Your measure of success becomes irrelevant.

    Happiness is obtainable right now. You control your state of being. Many people choose to be unhappy as they are not clear in their minds about the next constant. Synthetic happiness is possible, yet is nowhere near as satisfying as true unforced happiness in your life.

    How do you get to a level of true unforced happiness? Through purpose. I hate to sound like Rick Warren here, but if you haven't read "the purpose driven life", I would highly recommend it to anyone in a situation such as yours. He's a bit of a religious fanatic, but I find most of these guru types have some level of spirituality that seems a little overbearing in their works. Find common ground in the lessons regardless of your religious affiliation and you can learn a lot from it.

    Purpose is where success is measured in your mind. It explains why many millionaires are miserable, yet some homeless people are inspired. When you are doing what you are supposed to be doing in your life, you reach a state of enlightenment (the next constant) and your perception changes (the final constant).

    Enlightenment is when you come to realize the beauty in everything around you. It comes from a secondary intelligence that seems to beam thoughts and feeling directly into you. You get a sense of being and complete acceptance/responsibility for everything in your life.

    Enlightenment changes your perception. Things that once looked dark or confusing all form together in perfect symmetry. You move to the outside of mainstream and become a human being at his or her fullest. You'll notice all the negative people in your life seem to move away. Everything you ever wanted to do or be capable of no longer seem like dreams. Where the road was curved and broken, a straight freshly paved one is put in it's place.

    So, happiness is from purpose, enlightenment and a change in perception. Purpose is from enlightenment, a change in perception and causes happiness. Enlightenment comes from purpose, perception and causes happiness. Perception comes from an understanding of purpose, teachings from enlightenment and causes happiness.

    Purpose, Happiness, Enlightenment and Perception all in harmony = Success and beyond.

    Some may disagree with me, but this is how I live my life. Best of luck to you in yours.
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    Does anybody think success has anything to do with academic achievments, having a good job, wealth etc...or is it just someone being completely happy...even if they don't seem "successful" to others?

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    Quote Originally Posted by HollyGolightly View Post
    Does anybody think success has anything to do with academic achievments, having a good job, wealth etc...or is it just someone being completely happy...even if they don't seem "successful" to others?

    Personally I do not think that how many letters you have after your name, or how much money you make has anything to do with how successful someone is. Unless of course you are playing by our screwed up societies rules and expectations.

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    Personally, I feel that the reason I am not successful by my standards is that I have been ineffective at promoting spiritual growth, both in myself and in others. I couldn't care less about money or prestige. I just want to make a positive difference in people's lives.
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    i feel successful, when i'm here now. a rare thing i've been working on for sometime. the moment i am not here now, i start to think ...about being sucessful...lol, or about how much of a failure i am.

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    Quote Originally Posted by snail View Post
    Personally, I feel that the reason I am not successful by my standards is that I have been ineffective at promoting spiritual growth, both in myself and in others. I couldn't care less about money or prestige. I just want to make a positive difference in people's lives.
    Posted via Mobile Device
    well from what i've picked out of your posts snail, your presence is enough to move me a bit higher.

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    Quote Originally Posted by HollyGolightly View Post
    Does anybody think success has anything to do with academic achievments, having a good job, wealth etc...or is it just someone being completely happy...even if they don't seem "successful" to others?
    I would consider myself successful if I had this, but I actually enjoy it. Being materially successful is success nontheless. Mental and Emotional success is far different.


    The whole "only fake and sheepish people would measure that success" is total bullshit. If YOU consider it success, it's success. If someone else also considers what you've done successful, I'd take that as a compliment.


     
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