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    Hi @Penny . Actually, it sounds like you're in a sweet spot. I think the slacker label is a bit of an unfair characterization for us Gen Xers. In your case it's not like you have major ambitions and you've been too much of a slacker to pursue them. You have accomplished what you set out to accomplish. You have simple needs now and you're content. That's pretty cool. For me, I'm still twitchy. I've been an entrepreneur pretty much since I got out of college. And while I've launched some interesting projects and initiatives, I feel like they haven't been an authentic expression of my values and mindset. So I'm now after that "one" last initiative I can push in my second half of life with enthusiasm and joy. And I'm thinking it might just have to do with helping other folks in Gen X achieve some of their goals and dreams, which is one reason this group interests me so much.

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    @BMill Thank you BMill, I do agree that in my daily life I am far from a slacker. I think all those things you mentioned about Gen X-ers in your opening post apply to me as well. Your initiative sounds very interesting. How do you think you will go about it besides posting on forums? (If you feel like talking about it..) Thinking about writing a book or making some motivational videos? I'd read it. I love reading self- help type/motivational/instructional books. A speaking video sounds fun too though I personally am not much for lectures though lots of other people do seem to like that kind of thing. I could imagine a regular kind of video too. That I'd probably watch.

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    Hi @Penny , Thank you so much for your thoughtful replies! I've made some shifts in my life over the last couple of years. Both personally and professionally. After 49 years living in the states, I moved to Tokyo with the family. Quite an adventure. And I'm also shifting into a new career after 25 years in public relations and entertainment. I've long been fascinated by the field of psychology. I earned my masters years ago and then promptly did nothing with it. Recently I added a coaching certification to try to jump start that part of my life. The more I've been reading about Gen X and midlife, the more I think our experience with it is unique, owing to some developmental challenges we faced along the way. And with all of the attention on Boomers and Millennials, we are largely ignored. So mentors are in short supply. As I said in my opening post, I love "us." I love our pop culture experiences. I love our independent nature. And I think we're in a great position to contribute something special over the next decade or two. And I'd like to help. Yes, a book is definitely on the radar. Perhaps a podcast (since people really seem to love those). Perhaps an online course. Some personal coaching, group coaching. Maybe even a large event (since that's a space I've been in for a long while). Again, I really appreciate your feedback. Right now I'm in listening mode. I really want to know what Gen-Xers are thinking, feeling and want most in the second half.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BMill View Post
    Hi @Penny , Thank you so much for your thoughtful replies! I've made some shifts in my life over the last couple of years. Both personally and professionally. After 49 years living in the states, I moved to Tokyo with the family. Quite an adventure. And I'm also shifting into a new career after 25 years in public relations and entertainment. I've long been fascinated by the field of psychology. I earned my masters years ago and then promptly did nothing with it. Recently I added a coaching certification to try to jump start that part of my life. The more I've been reading about Gen X and midlife, the more I think our experience with it is unique, owing to some developmental challenges we faced along the way. And with all of the attention on Boomers and Millennials, we are largely ignored. So mentors are in short supply. As I said in my opening post, I love "us." I love our pop culture experiences. I love our independent nature. And I think we're in a great position to contribute something special over the next decade or two. And I'd like to help. Yes, a book is definitely on the radar. Perhaps a podcast (since people really seem to love those). Perhaps an online course. Some personal coaching, group coaching. Maybe even a large event (since that's a space I've been in for a long while). Again, I really appreciate your feedback. Right now I'm in listening mode. I really want to know what Gen-Xers are thinking, feeling and want most in the second half.
    I would probably read a book personally. group coaching sounds interesting. Have you thought of starting a Meetup group? maybe it would take off.
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    Quote Originally Posted by TranquilMindGun View Post
    My head is starting to slowly wrap around being older. In my head for many years, I still thought the 90's were mere years ago. However, i'm not completely without concept of time. I know. I KNOW. Bore me with details why don't you. ::sigh::

    In having children, I really had to be selfless, and in age, I've learned i'm a bit selfish, with my time and energy. My eldest is out of the home, however I have a 13 year old. I look forward to when I have a bit more independence away from just being 'mom' and can downsize to a tiny shack in the woods or small art studio in the city, take on less responsibility towards others, look forward to having more ME time to be mad in thought and inspiration while painting. If anyone has ever seen the scene in Back Beat where Stuart Sutcliffe is just all up in his dank studio in deep thought and paint everywhere on him, on the canvas, on the floor... madness, utter madness. I want that. Bourbon nearby. Music always playing. Thought. Feel. Paint. in that order, at the same time, at random...as much as humanly possible. small breaks to make $$$ to pay rent, bathroom breaks, occasional shower, maybe eat a few times a week and if i'm lucky, a muse to screw and siphon off some creative 'juices.'

    Kiss my white slacker ass.
    That all sounds so good. no bourbon for me because I don't drink but... a life of art and music is as good as it gets.
    Don't worry about being a slacker. It's healthier than being a workaholic by far. I know from experience because I am the prototype slacker model.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Little Drummer Gnome View Post
    That all sounds so good. no bourbon for me because I don't drink but... a life of art and music is as good as it gets.
    Don't worry about being a slacker. It's healthier than being a workaholic by far. I know from experience because I am the prototype slacker model.
    anything you say with dancing veggies alongside, i'll surely will be in agreement.

    Maybe...maaaaaaaaaaabye when I was in my 20's I could have been a workaholic, but definitely not these days, it's as if I need downtime, from my downtime. "leave me alone...i'm trying to NOT think!"

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    Quote Originally Posted by TranquilMindGun View Post
    anything you say with dancing veggies alongside, i'll surely will be in agreement.

    Maybe...maaaaaaaaaaabye when I was in my 20's I could have been a workaholic, but definitely not these days, it's as if I need downtime, from my downtime. "leave me alone...i'm trying to NOT think!"
    trying not to think
    that's a INTJ's dream
    I need to be doing something constantly
    I cannot lay around doing nothing
    after my first cup of Joe and smoking a fag I'm ready for action
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    Quote Originally Posted by vinniebob jolnir langbaror View Post
    trying not to think
    that's a INTJ's dream
    I need to be doing something constantly
    I cannot lay around doing nothing
    after my first cup of Joe and smoking a fag I'm ready for action
    Where the fuck is the off button?!

    I can't. I can't. I feel I've done a marathon some days and my body hasn't moved anywhere but from the bed to the toilet. I can barely keep up with my lips...wait...stop, or rather my lips can't keep up with my brain and I end up sounding like mushmouth from fat albert.

    I'd like to say i'm productive as yourself, however in being overwhelmed by my own thoughts, I never seem to get much accomplished. I need lists. Life is more orderly with a list, for me. But then I can't stand those self appointed rules. "Here, this list will help you get shit done." "Fuck you, we don't need no stinking list, lists are for suckers!" See...my dilemma? I can certainly go fuck myself.

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    [QUOTE=TranquilMindGun;42903263]Where the fuck is the off button?!

    I can't. I can't. I feel I've done a marathon some days and my body hasn't moved anywhere but from the bed to the toilet. I can barely keep up with my lips...wait...stop, or rather my lips can't keep up with my brain and I end up sounding like mushmouth from fat albert.

    sorry I couldn't resist
    I remember watching this on Saturday morning cartoons
    remember those
    Last edited by vinniebob; 12-10-2018 at 12:41 PM.
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    Quote Originally Posted by TranquilMindGun View Post
    anything you say with dancing veggies alongside, i'll surely will be in agreement.

    Maybe...maaaaaaaaaaabye when I was in my 20's I could have been a workaholic, but definitely not these days, it's as if I need downtime, from my downtime. "leave me alone...i'm trying to NOT think!"
    My older sister was a super workaholic. She worked nonstop... morning, noon, and night. I remember being horrified. My parents said that it was good that she worked so much because she was well paid. I never could figure out where she found the time to enjoy that money. One time, she called on the phone and she just ordered me to put dad on the phone. I said, "Hi, how are you doing? What's new?" She said that she was too busy to talk to me. She didn't sound like a happy person.

    I never wanted to be a workaholic because... short attention span. As an adult, I was diagnosed with a collection of sensory issues, learning disabilities, and ADHD. All of that makes life challenging but interesting at the same time.

    Thinking is definitely over rated, but I'm an ESFP... so... lol.
    Have a great day! Thank you for chatting with me, and here's another dancing veggie:
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