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    So, how are you handling midlife?

    Hello everyone.

    This is my first time joining any sort of online forum. And I've really been enjoying reading through some of the threads and posts.

    My reasons for joining are really two-fold.

    1. I'm going to hit 50 next year and the mid-life transition has been tough for a number of reasons that I'm sure many of you understand. So, I'm interested in connecting with other fellow X-ers (and those on the borderline) who are experiencing some of the same challenges I am experiencing. Plus, I'm from the states and currently living overseas which can be a bit isolating. So an online forum seemed to make sense.

    2. I love my generation. I really do. I feel we get overlooked sitting between the two biggies (Boomers and Millennials). And any time I do see mention of "us," usually it is in reference to one of the old stereotypes (slackers, cynical, etc.). I've never identified with these descriptions. And I don't think most of my Gen X friends and colleagues do either. We have a ton to offer. Creativity, independence, humor, a great work ethic. We can use tech. But we also know when to put down the phones, look someone in the eye, and engage.

    Now that we're in our early 30's, 40's and 50's, we're getting the chance to use these positive attributes (and others) to lead institutions and movements. (And create them!!) As I push into my second half, I really want to focus my life on working with X-ers to help address they key challenges we face. And this means gaining a better understanding of how others in my generation are feeling.

    So, that's why this thread asks, how are you handling midlife? What concerns you most about the future? What excites you most about the future? What do you want to get accomplished in your second half? Do you feel ready to lead?
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    So, that's why this thread asks, how are you handling midlife? What concerns you most about the future? What excites you most about the future? What do you want to get accomplished in your second half? Do you feel ready to lead?[/QUOTE]

    once I turned 50 all my functions equalled out
    I became more calm/relaxed
    Than my eye sight turned to shit

    what excites me about the future- technology, technology, technology
    what do I fear about the future-the way the gov't uses the tech to spy on its own citizens

    lead? I'm too tired and beat up to lead
    accomplished-i'm just killing time until time kills me

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    Generation X

    My head is starting to slowly wrap around being older. In my head for many years, I still thought the 90's were mere years ago. However, i'm not completely without concept of time. I know. I KNOW. Bore me with details why don't you. ::sigh::

    In having children, I really had to be selfless, and in age, I've learned i'm a bit selfish, with my time and energy. My eldest is out of the home, however I have a 13 year old. I look forward to when I have a bit more independence away from just being 'mom' and can downsize to a tiny shack in the woods or small art studio in the city, take on less responsibility towards others, look forward to having more ME time to be mad in thought and inspiration while painting. If anyone has ever seen the scene in Back Beat where Stuart Sutcliffe is just all up in his dank studio in deep thought and paint everywhere on him, on the canvas, on the floor... madness, utter madness. I want that. Bourbon nearby. Music always playing. Thought. Feel. Paint. in that order, at the same time, at random...as much as humanly possible. small breaks to make $$$ to pay rent, bathroom breaks, occasional shower, maybe eat a few times a week and if i'm lucky, a muse to screw and siphon off some creative 'juices.'

    Kiss my white slacker ass.

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    Hey thanks vinniebob, yeah, totally with you on the mixed feelings on tech. Love it. Hate it. And scared how the government will use it. I am hoping to experience the same relaxed response to turning 50 that you had. My main concerns now have to do with staying healthy so I can enjoy the later years. I beat my body up pretty bad early on. My wife and I love to travel, and I want to be able to do it until, as you say, time kills me!

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    TranquilMindGun, loving the art shack. I've got a similar fantasy, only it involves scotch instead of bourbon. And writing instead of painting. But close. Very close. Thanks for responding.
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    Hi @BMill . How am I handling midlife? Honestly midlife is handling me. I am just trying to roll with the punches and go with the flow sort of. Not too excited about the future, just getting through day by day. Future's looking good but things don't always happen as planned so feel a little uncertain about it. What do I want to accomplish? Huh. I guess I'm not that ambitious. There are a couple projects I can think of that I won't get into on here, but nothing past maybe 6 months or so. As far as leading goes, it would probably be like the blind leading the blind, but I just do my own thing and see what happens. You have definitely given me something to think about though. What do I want to accomplish in life before I kick the bucket?

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    I've got my black socks, converted my boots into sandals and my daily exercise consists of shaking my fist at the kids traipsing around the yard.

    or in other words, I'm running right on time with the midlife crisis to revert back to an emotionally and mentally stunted state of the teenage life I probably didn't have.
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    Thanks @Penny . I can definitely identify with feeling a bit out of control. It's hard to think "big thoughts" when you're in survival mode. If you have another second for a follow-up, what do you think you'd need to happen to feel a bit more certain about the future? And any insights on the bucket list? Appreciate your thoughtful response.
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    @Rift . Hey, that's how I work my biceps too! Damn kids. Thanks for the reply.
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    Quote Originally Posted by BMill View Post
    Thanks @Penny . I can definitely identify with feeling a bit out of control. It's hard to think "big thoughts" when you're in survival mode. If you have another second for a follow-up, what do you think you'd need to happen to feel a bit more certain about the future? And any insights on the bucket list? Appreciate your thoughtful response.
    I don't know, the way I think nothing is ever certain. It doesn't bother me that much though because i feel I have the inner fortitude to deal with whatever situation comes at me so that makes me feel secure in a sense. Don't really have anything for a bucket list. I've pretty much done everything I wanted to do/accomplish, have traveled my fill, read enough books, seen enough movies, expressed myself in full measure.. I guess I am just coasting the rest of the way. I suppose I will just live my life to the fullest as I always have and just do what makes me happy. I am easily pleased, appreciate simplicity and have more of a peasant state of mind than a lord, so again ambition is lacking. Call me a Gen X slacker. It wouldn't be true technically but the attitude is there I guess. I think I have accomplished enough in my life to be content with it. I am only 43 too so the world is still wide open and who knows what the future will bring?

    eta- What about you? Anything on your bucket list you'd like to share?
    Last edited by Penny; 12-03-2018 at 02:29 AM.
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