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This is a discussion on Is it bad to die a virgin? within the Generation Y Forum forums, part of the The Generations category; Originally Posted by dvnj22 I'm not asexual or anything, I have sexual desires. I feel no need to act on ...

  1. #111

    Quote Originally Posted by dvnj22 View Post
    I'm not asexual or anything, I have sexual desires. I feel no need to act on them though. my dr. says i have low testosterone, so maybe that plays a part. I think the biggest thing is how weird I feel, I'm not asexual, I like women, yet i don't want to have sex with them unless I love them, but I'm too lazy to find one I love, plus too insecure.
    Awww, that's sweet! we need more people like that. And "lazy"? Ah, is that really what it is? :) If I were you (I don't know anything about you, but bear with me), I think it'd be best to just focus on personal goals, acheivments; friendships; growth; adventure-then maybe you'll find a companion to accompany you that may (ultimately) result in sexual contact built on a strong foundation? this is what I truly hope for everyone :) And the insecurity thang? I've been there :) Someone truly worthy won't care 'bout that!
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  2. #112

    Here's the relieving news - dying feels much better than popping your cherry. At least from the descriptions of virginal women.

  3. #113

    Quote Originally Posted by Fern View Post
    As Harvey Dent so eloquently observed: "You either die a virgin or live long enough to see yourself become a harlot."
    Hmmm, I think I missed that in the movies.... Must of been in the comics. :)
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  5. #114

    Quote Originally Posted by dvnj22 View Post
    Hmmm, I think I missed that in the movies.... Must of been in the comics. :)
    Oops, sorry. I forget that everyone isn't a comic book nerd like me

  6. #115

    There is a lot of pressure in society to not be a virgin. People naturally have the urge to have sex. What you are feeling is your body's urge to have sex being repelled by your mind.. you may think you aren't good enough, you don't look attractive enough, you want to wait etc. but these are just thoughts. What you really want is to have sex, so if you get the urge to have sex with a girl, go after her.

    The best advice I can give.

  7. #116

    Quote Originally Posted by dvnj22 View Post
    I think I have a good chance of it happening to me. While I would like to have the experience I don't think my life would be unfulfilled without it. I have great relationships with my sisters and I have some good friends. I've accomplished a lot in my own right as well in related towards mental illness. I have many interests I am a musician, I read, write poetry etc. I also don't want to have sex just to have it either. I would never go to a hooker or have a one night stand.

    a lot of people have made fun of me because of this though. I wonder is this really a big deal? Or is this just people being stupid?
    Some people want to put others down to bring themselves up. They think they're trying to help you, but what they really are doing is validating how pointless their lives are by pretending to be the "expert" of yours.

    You're the own expert of your own life. Some people see that, and they want to take it away from you, because they are unhappy and feel powerless.

    When unhappy people see happy people, and they don't know how to handle self-empowerment for themselves, they need to judge you as being deficient. In turn, they become more deficient, and the cycle continues because there's no revelation to find (sorta like watching a dog chasing its tail).

    Inside, you know what makes you happy. You know what works for you. You have the courage that those people lack. I say, embrace yourself and what you're all about, be proud, and let that light shine because only you known your own truth and that truth speaks to you in times of doubt, sadness, loss, happiness, and bliss. It is always there inside of you to guide you. You're doing great so far! You feel fearless, and that's all that matters..!!
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  8. #117
    Generation Y

    As men are expected to be sexual aggressors and initiators, society sort of virgin shames men who are virgins by giving them lonely, depressing lives or deaths. I fear virgins like me, esp men over 20 will be rejected by a woman who would freak out that I am still a virgin in my mid twenties.
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  9. #118

    There's nothing bad per se, but if it makes YOU feel bad then it could be... You have to decide which is more important: Waiting to do it with a person you love (like, even lust?) or just get it out of the way with anyone no feelings attached (given you don't really care anymore and just want to do it to get the 'virgin' off you. You would also have to decide if you want to lose it because you actually want to or if you're just conditioned into thinking you have to lose it.

  10. #119

    I think that the preoccupation with sex is a little overboard, at least culturally. Is it bad to die a virgin? How about is it bad to die without having accomplished something, or forgiven someone who you felt wronged you, or having truly helped someone, etc. etc.? As I'm dying I'd like virginity to be the least of my concerns if possible. Although it wouldn't apply to me anymore anyway. But my sentiments were the same before I made my sexual debut, so to speak.

    My belief is that virginity exists ONLY as an outdated social construct anyway. Some social constructs serve valuable functions. Others are just archaic remnants of dumber times past.
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  11. #120
    Generation Y

    Quote Originally Posted by Gossip Goat View Post
    There's nothing bad per se, but if it makes YOU feel bad then it could be... You have to decide which is more important: Waiting to do it with a person you love (like, even lust?) or just get it out of the way with anyone no feelings attached (given you don't really care anymore and just want to do it to get the 'virgin' off you. You would also have to decide if you want to lose it because you actually want to or if you're just conditioned into thinking you have to lose it.
    I would much rather have it with someone I love or lust than a meaningless fling with no strings attached. I feel that I am conditioned into thinking I have to lose it by society. People around my age are already married or engaged, some of my Facebook friends. As I said, men are expected and conditioned by society to be sexually active and sexual initiators. I read some articles about how men who are virgins past 30 are seen as "something is wrong with them".


     
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