fair enough-- and you're right on all counts. i certainly didn't mean to speak for all 4w3s, but i can see why you'd think i was 'painting with broad strokes'. i'm mostly speaking for myself, but i imagine there are other 4w3s out there who can relate to what i'm saying.
it sounds like you have your act together which is awesome. i'm also a bit surprised that you're a 4w3sx which is what i am, too, and 4w3sx usually do care about how they look, or what people think. maybe you're just more evolved and i need to take your life class. i say that with only the tiniest (tiniest!) bit of snark-- i definitely only blame myself for all of the above.