Hi, just confirming that 4 and 4 romantic partners are disastrous for others as for me? Is it ok for friendships?
I had a heart-breaking time with someone special (former best friend) who I deem to be a four. Worse part is I did it to myself because I knew he was polyamorous-don't-believe-in-relationships that due to self-esteem and Four probs but expected him to want to be exclusive. It tore me apart on a deep level because, yeah, I have been with many types/ppl and break-ups always make me bleed but he really understood my dark side and I understood his... his dark side scares me even. Anyway, his depression brought me down not up and I had to end it before it got bad because all I want is someone to be strong and loyal to me and he is against monogamy and I knew that before we became intimate accidentally. (I know I am dumb.) (Alcohol.) (...Four.) He felt bad about it, and wanted to stay friends but I couldn't. It numbed the pain for a short while but then the immediate, extreme downward heavy feelings of rejection and depression (I don't use this word lightly) were unbearable.
Do 4 friends compete for individualism? Tragicness? What about the melancholy factor? Or is it good because we all exist in our other reality? How about growth among 4s?