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    ISTJ - The Duty Fulfillers


    Dealing with people who talk and talk and talk...

    ...and talk and talk and talk and talk and talk and talk...

    Quite frankly, I can't stand this. I've realized lately that 3 of my friends are like this. These people don't even pause for me to respond to what they are saying. There is no flow of conversation; just being talked at. I end up extremely drained after spending even a couple minutes with them. I think it's because it's too much to take in it once, I tend to pick apart what people say piece by piece, and when it moves too quickly with little thought, it's overwhelming. And it's the overall lack of concern for the other person. I've never gotten even a "How are you?" from someone like this.

    Do you know people like this? Do you have the same reaction? Have you found a way to cope with them? I'm starting to think I really shouldn't have them in my life; I don't really benefit from being around them.

    Please note: I've known extraverts like this and I've known introverts like this. I don't believe this is a type related thing.
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    INFP - The Idealists

    Those are my favourite kind of people!! keeps the conversation flowing and I don't have to worry about awkward pauses or running out of things to say because they just bring up random stuff anyway. So long as they allow you to speak as well and listen to what you say.

    Where as Quiet guy attempting to talk with other quiet guy generally doesn't work out too well in my personal experience.

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    ISTJ - The Duty Fulfillers


    Quote Originally Posted by Raain View Post
    Those are my favourite kind of people!! keeps the conversation flowing and I don't have to worry about awkward pauses or running out of things to say because they just bring up random stuff anyway. So long as they allow you to speak as well and listen to what you say.

    Where as Quiet guy attempting to talk with other quiet guy generally doesn't work out too well in my personal experience.
    I usually like talkative people since, as you said, two quite people tends to create an awkward silence. I consider this different from being talkative however; I'm referring to people who do not pause, and do not listen to the other person. They literally talk to hear themselves talk.
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    Unknown Personality

    I know what you mean. Doesn't sound like you get much out of those friendships. Myself, I'd find a way to avoid friends like that. But people who talk like that, I seldom attract them as friends in the first place. Because from the first time they meet me I give them clear signals that I don't want to listen to them. I don't think I'm rude, but I definitely don't encourage them.
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    INFJ - The Protectors

    "Yo, shut your face for a second."
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    Quote Originally Posted by ohTOMICho View Post
    "Yo, shut your face for a second."
    I totally see your avatar telling this to people.
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    I generally like people who are more talkative than me, since I'm a bit quiet. Though, I don't like people who don't give me time to talk at all and only talk over me.
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    INFJ - The Protectors

    I've been around people like this...then when you try to get a word in edgewise, you feel rude for interrupting.
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    INFJ - The Protectors

    Funny. I was just ranting about this.

    I got stuck with an incessant talker just yesterday. You could've stood there for hours and he'd have just carried on into the early hours of the morning. There was no end to it. I felt like running away at full speed.
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    I think I'm surrounded by quite a few of these incessant-talking people. One happens to be my sister. I was on the phone with one for an hour this week (my daughter's dance teacher, asked a simple question, didn't get a very simple answer). I have closed the door to a couple of others who were just not only incessant-talkers but NEGATIVE/energy-drainers. I am better at not picking up the phone or agreeing to get together with people like this unless I have the energy reserves and truly want to talk to them. But once I'm in the situation I feel oh-so-trapped!
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