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This is a discussion on Friendships with other MBTI types within the INFJ Forum - The Protectors forums, part of the NF's Temperament Forum- The Dreamers category; @ raschel My extroversion and introversion are not balanced but because of my strong Fe, many people mistaken me for ...

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    @raschel My extroversion and introversion are not balanced but because of my strong Fe, many people mistaken me for an extrovert because I talk a lot with my friends (not so much with people who aren't my friends). I used to also participate in class discussions and raise my hand a lot (thus earning a teacher's pet status which was useful because they wrote me excellent recommendations for colleges & for work later on). I think the assumption that Intuitives will find another Intuitive to be a kindred spirit to be somewhat of a stretch. You have to factor in how sociable this person is. Are they concerned with other people? If they are an intuitive but the most isolated/loner/homebody type, hey... they will not have a response to meeting a kindred spirit. If there is no desire for relationship, doesn't matter if they are the most compatible person on earth for you. You get what I'm saying? I found that out with INTJ's. They were the loners. They might have only 1 person to celebrate their birthdays with simply because they aren't a "friend" to others, so why would others be a friend to them?

    At work, conversation is SOOO much easier for me than any other realm. First of all, simply how much time you spend at work versus everywhere else. Second, because I wear clothes that sparks conversation, people approach me and compliment me on my clothing. They also like the decorations I put on my desk and will talk to me about those. It's like generally presenting yourself in a way that you will attract people based on curiosity. (How to overcome fear? Curiosity) I've found that even if someone was very timid, their curiosity would still cause them to want to speak to me. (Thus making me approachable even to the most shy, mousy people on earth)

    As for your definition of friendship, depends on what you are looking for. I know that males and females define friendships differently. Many married men only have 1 true friend (their spouse) and so when they get divorced they are devastated. I obviously don't live with any of my friends, although it's important that for someone to be a friend I must have at least set foot in their house. If they only want to meet me in a public place, we haven't yet crossed over to friendship. As close as a lover?? Unfortunately, my friends don't believe in that kind of commitment outside of a romantic relationship where an engagement and jewelry is involved. I used to be very committed to my friends until I realized that they could live without me and didn't really care either way... so I had to adjust my expectations and my commitment to them as well. Now, if one of my friends wants to hang out I will not hang out with them unless I have nothing else on my schedule. (Because they will be more inflexible about which days they can hang out and only present me with like one or two options) When I can see this bias where they are not willing to inconvenience themselves for me, then I cannot sacrifice for them. (Note that I am still willing to inconvenience myself for them, which is still an unbalanced relationship where I give more than they are willing to but somehow that's the selfish society we live in nowadays)
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    Not a specific MBTI type (although probably more NFs and NTs than other types), but a lot of enneagram type 9s.

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    @Leahomme I see what you mean on the intuitives. Perhaps the INTJ I met was also like that. I meet quite a few people like this at work, I don't know what type they are, but I find them interesting just because I tend to socialize perhaps to the point of thinking I should do it--but if they get away with not doing it, then I would like to do that too.

    The "can live without me, and don't really care either way" disturbs me lol but I get it..
    I suppose your Fe had developed through lots of practice? As you were able to find stronger relationships such as those you mentioned, certainly would be a safe way to strengthen it.

    Besides that, I guess it's just a fact it takes some risk and time. Like I see my coworkers and there can appear to be cautionary signs, but then for one person, I found a whole other side I didn't expect (she was friendly, which doesn't show externally exactly). I often hear ENFPs can be considered flaky to INFJs, for me this one I've met is the most relatable person I've met in so many years. But I do feel like she can turn on me any second lol. I would have to run after her or stand my ground, which is like all I do at work--it just gets so weird or exhausting i want to just stop speaking sometimes. I actually rarely speak outside my dept.

    I used to have a job where we only had a dress code but you had total freedom within that, and I loved it. Here we actually have specific items. =( But maybe one day I will try some place like that again. I think that I gain attraction anyhow just by rumours or reputation, as talk spreads throughout the company pretty quickly. People are always talking about people, especially the managers.
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    I'm a walking contradiction. I crave friendship and, at the same time, I've always felt like a total hermit alien.

    I was born into a family of extroverts, and the kids I knew from school and the ones in my neighborhood were probably extroverts of some kind for the most part. The introverts that I was curious about felt out of reach, minding their own business, like me later in life.

    My whole life I've been working on myself, but the past few years have been really intense as far as personal growth goes. Because of that, I just have no desire to 'hang out', and people naturally go their own way when you stop joining social gatherings. There is a dear friend I never lost touch with though. She's an ISFP - a little too S and a little too P for me, but still a lovely human being. :)
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    @Divine I know what you mean about being part of a family of extroverts and the kids from school were too. I hear similar things about when people are Intuitives born into a family of Sensors, etc. The part that most people don't realize is how important it is to find a person who can act like a family member who is an introvert or intuitive so that you are not always feeling different/left out/invalidated.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Leahomme View Post
    @Divine I know what you mean about being part of a family of extroverts and the kids from school were too. I hear similar things about when people are Intuitives born into a family of Sensors, etc. The part that most people don't realize is how important it is to find a person who can act like a family member who is an introvert or intuitive so that you are not always feeling different/left out/invalidated.
    Yes! You know what, growing up it felt like a curse because as a child it's emotional torture to feel so different from your own tribe. Now I know that there was a purpose to this. It forced me to withdraw and figure myself out. Times of heavy hermit-mode introspection paid off.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Leahomme View Post
    I have noticed recently that I have accumulated quite a few friends who are ISFP's. They now make up 50% of my friends whereas in the past I had maybe one ... far between making another ISFP friend.

    I am just curious as to if anybody else has noticed this that they have more friends of one type than any other. Do you have friends who are INTP's mostly? or ESFP's? I'm looking more for responses about friendships and not romantic relationships, so please just comment on the friendship aspect. Thanks!
    ISFPs and INTPs are in "benefit" relations with INFJs so it's perhaps the easiest types to make friends with for INFJ, also on basis of common introversion.

    Here is the entire chat for relations between INTJ and the other MBTI types: INFJ Intertype Relationships
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    Quote Originally Posted by Leahomme View Post
    I have noticed recently that I have accumulated quite a few friends who are ISFP's. They now make up 50% of my friends whereas in the past I had maybe one ... far between making another ISFP friend.

    I am just curious as to if anybody else has noticed this that they have more friends of one type than any other. Do you have friends who are INTP's mostly? or ESFP's? I'm looking more for responses about friendships and not romantic relationships, so please just comment on the friendship aspect. Thanks!
    I've a good friend who's INFJ (guy). We were co-workers and I guess we just hit it off. I listen to him (rant) a lot, and I kinda understand where he's coming from - which I suppose he appreciates?

    I'm not sure if I can answer your question though, since I am not INFJ... and I don't really know his friends. But I have friends of all types. Mostly introverts though... Es annoy the heck out of me after a while.

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    I get along with just about any type as long as we have common interests. I've found one of my favorite types is INTJ because they're fairly similar to INFJ's but just different enough to keep things interesting. That being said, they only make up a small portion of my friend group because they're so rare.

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    @alittlebird I love your avatar!! (I know that is off subject, but I find that ISFP's like cute things and we share that in common) AND @Lucan1010 your avatar is hilarious too!! Okay, back to the topic... OKAY, so I have a new question for you all... what amount of tolerance do you have for liars? For example, I know that people defend lying in all sorts of ways (ie. they were embarrassed! or They thought you'd never find out!) ... but at what point when you catch someone repeatedly lying are you like... okay look... we cannot hang out in the same tribe anymore because trust is important. (Small things indicate that there could be issues with lying about big things as well in the future.) In my experience the ones who tend to lie to me are the Perceivers and the Sensors. Sometimes the Sensors don't even know what the truth is (ie. claim to be good, but are doing something very evil)
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