I recently moved to a new town for a job change. The change overall has been a very positive one, but my previous job was on a college campus and so Community was much easier, since it sort of ďjust happened.Ē In a new, small town, it is difficult to find community places to meet people.
This difficulty is especially pronounced when it comes to dating and relationships. I keep feeling a draw to trying to make things happen with women I know from my previous location, but thatís two hours away and probably not very realistic. Iíve had a semi long-distance relationship in the past, and though the distance was not the reason it failed, it did make it more difficult.
Because I live in a small town, even meeting single women is a problem. Iíve become involved in the Chamber of Commerce, but practically every woman I know there is outside my age range or married. I guess I have two questions:
1. What are suggestions for meeting single people in a small Midwest town? Bars really arenít my scene, and I tend to just get overwhelmed by the noise and other stimuli, so canít function well even if I do go there. It isnít easy to find other places to meet people.
2. If I actually do manage to meet someone I am interested in, what suggestions do you have for overcoming my analysis paralysis? As soon as I meet a woman I check to see if she has a ring, and find it hard to approach someone as a person without tying to figure out if there is any potential compatibility before even saying anything! Not conducive to meeting people!
Bonus question: is it a bad idea to do anything with people I am interested with from my previous location? Part of me feels I am just living in the past if I do, and refusing to move forward with the current reality, but on the other hand having those connections built, even from a distance, provide a lot of answers to my issues I am having in my new location, since I already know people somewhat.