was thinking about asking my infj friend if she wanted to be more than friends but Iím not sure how to go about it.
A little background.
We both go to the same college and have known each other for around half a year. Weíve become very good friends in that time and talk pretty much every day for extended periods until we both say good night and sleep. There have been many signs that are positive, but Iím slightly apprehensive since infjs tend to be friendly with everyone, but I think I may be treated slightly better.
Ok, my plan was to tell her after hanging out at some point. Iíd wait until towards the end to leave and give her space if needed. I want to try and build up to that by weaving in a more serious tone but Iím not sure if I can manage that. I wanted to say something like:
Hey Iím really glad weíve become friends and clicked so well bc I didnít think Iíd meet anyone as cool as you here. I really value your friendship and I donít want anything to change but I wanted to tell you that I like you as more than a friend. You donít have to say anything and Iíll leave now to give you some space but I didnít want to leave over summer without telling you how I feel.
My problem is I want to ask her how she feels, but I think that may put her on the spot and I donít want to do that. She has been known to panic in the face of social confrontation and makes a panic noise. I'm not sure if doing it like this, no matter how subtle will make her extremely uncomfortable. What I want to know, is this a good way to go about it? Also, how will I know if she does like me back? From my research, Iíve found that even if they did like me, they may not immediately tell me.