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Does anyone else sorta get told that they find you interesting/mysterious?

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#1 ·
At least, initially? Cause I tend to think I look that way but am actually not... haha
 
#8 · (Edited)
I've been told that I give the impression of the dark mysterious guy, or the dark intellectual type of vibe.
Remarkably, they get this impression before they speak with me. Huh.

But this type of feedback usually comes from more educated or learned people. People who don't have a college degree as a rule don't like my style and often criticize it. So to each their own.
 
#9 ·
Dear lord....yes. So many times I have had strangers walk up to me and say, "Something told me to come over to you and say...."

I have had people tell me I am one of the most interesting, mysterious, magical, spiritual, intriguing, loving, caring, blah blah blah person that they have met. I always felt I was extremely unique and weird. I never met anyone like me. And if someone was close to being like me, I was so excited to meet them.

I used to work as a Defense Contractor where a polygraph and clearance was mandatory.

My boss, who ran the company, was extremely complicated to read. I can usually read people so very easily. I couldn't read him at all. The only person I have ever met that I couldn't figure out, actually. (Come to find out he was trained to be unreadable).

One day we were going through my feedback and he said, "I cannot read you at all! You are very mysterious!" I started to laugh. This was before I knew I was an INFJ mind you. I knew I didn't let many behind my walls (and have been fascinated to learn about myself and how spot-on it is to my personality). My husband always said he didn't know what I was thinking (and it frustrated him).

Well, I didn't realize my boss had the same problem reading me. And I said, "Well you are the first person I haven't been able to figure out!"

Come to find out. We were so alike in that way. We both had premonitions, same beliefs, etc.... And we became friends. After that conversation, I began to be able to see behind his barriers. I understood him. He is 25 years older than me. I think he understood me more too. (Did I ever get pissed off at him. Heck yes. But at least I knew where he was coming from now).

I then realized after taking the Myers Briggs why the polygraphers had such a hard time reading me. They kept thinking I was hiding things. Was it the layers I have that protect my heart? I don't know. It totally pissed me off whatever it was that the "F" word started flying out of my mouth. I am a kind person and I was shocked at my reaction and kept apologizing for my mouth.

They were getting close to not passing me and I had had enough and told them this was all stupid and they were missing out on a very trustworthy hardworking person. I was furious. Well that infuriated them even more. They started yelling at me.

They were frustrated with me and they had to get the head guy in and I had to come back the next day.

He was very firm with me if I didn't pass, I would be giving up a chance of a lifetime. I was pissed. I wasn't doing anything but telling the truth. Thank God he could read me right. But it took all day long. Two whole days where they finally could read my poly.

I am a very hardworking individual. I give 1000 percent and was an asset to their organization. So yes. People found me mysterious.
 
#11 ·
Few things irks people more than to encounter someone who is not an open book let alone one that is not understandable or in some unknown language.
 
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#15 ·
Used to. Lately I put a simpler face forward, and I’m better at making people laugh. The more you talk the more people already think they know what you’re about and the curiosity breaks down. If you simplify your thoughts/opinions down, well, people have heard it before. I’d be lying if I said I didn’t miss people saying such things, but overall it’s much less exhausting this way. They don’t attempt to break the facade anymore because they see what they expect to see. I’m tired of people thinking me alien, or putting me on a pedestal. This way I can communicate with the general public and they don’t feel like I think I’m better than them as much, and when I go home I can devote time to the connections that are here to stay. Makes me wonder how my mother was when she was young. Perhaps she came to the same conclusion.
 
#19 ·
Yeah I feel you anywhere that isn't my home I feel out of place, I don't really know why and I don't think I have anxiety. People don't really say I am mysterious but occasionally people say i am insightful. Adults tell me that being different is good but that never seems right i feel that being different rarely gets you ahead, only isolated.
 
#17 ·
I hide my mysteriousness from others.. not on purpose.. just.. I know most people dont care to hear what I have to say. but people can find me fascinating when I open up.. but sometimes the words just wont come out right and I just sound crazy. I think I overwhelm people when I talk about what I want to talk about.
 
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#22 ·
People have described me as mysterious, reserved, aloof. I also have an eccentric offbeatness to me, and it seeps through once people get to know me. People often think I'm strange, and I've been called quirky once I do let what's inside of the shell show. I don't get directly involved in a lot of situations, kind of being part of the group, but an outsider of sorts if that makes any sense, being in the world of my head, trying to figure things out for myself.

I am generally quiet, especially IRL, and people find me hard to figure out. I don't open up to people off the bat which goes into why people perceive me that way. I listen more than I talk, and much prefer it that way than the other way around.
 
#32 ·
In person, I generally just get told I come off as quiet ("the quiet evil" :laughing:) which doesn't really have a positive connotation like interesting/mysterious does lol. I don't really get off on being some enigma to people though. I prefer to be understood and to understand.
 
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