Haha, I just watched the Eminem video - "This hall pass gives Eminem and his boyz the right to do whatever the hell they want, whenever the hell they want. Signed the superintendent of the Universe." XD Eminem cracks me up how he's so zen and seemingly serious but then he'll just like confidently and convincingly flip into some ridiculous character out of nowhere. It's funny that he said he misses having the Backstreet Boys to rip on, lol - like our motivations and behavior as humans is its own little eco-system that gives us something to do collectively too.
I think remembering that can bring us back to a more childlike place that's actually *less* childish than taking everything so seriously all the time. But then, survival and stuff...we're more attuned to the importance of that as we get older I guess. (Which is what I've been preaching. I'm having a really difficult time getting to the bottom of what I believe in, lol). I remember feeling warm though when I left a job where I was pretty much the resident flake and subtle drama queen, but then getting a forwarded email from a friend where my partner (who would give me a hard time) said that he missed me...coupled with a picture of us at a happy hour with a triceratops photo-shopped over his head (I used to say he resembled one). Sometimes we don't appreciate what someone provides until it's gone.
Maybe what we preach seems hypocritical at times because it's composed of the lessons we've had to learn. It's not so obvious to us.
It's good for everyone to have their "things" though. Otherwise life starts to feel like the ending of "Being John Malkovich" where anyone can access his mind, and he literally sees himself in everyone else (the world is full of nothing but John Malkovich doppelgangers). That tends to invite either extreme complacency or competition, I think. (Plus when everyone is allowed to have their thing they tend to balance each other out - people aren't using their "cards" against each other, it's more about playing them at that point. Reminds me of the scene from 30 Rock where Tina Fey pretends to think that she's a hologram of Princess Leia to get out of jury duty, but everyone else is crazy too so it doesn't work, haha):
I found this the other day - "Batman and Personality Disorders" - about how the comic heroes or villains are archetypes for different classifications in the DSM IV.
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Batman and Catwoman are the most interesting to me. It's like they've tried to adopt the anima/animus but have done it in a totally unbalanced way. Batman is categorized as Schizoid and Catwoman as Borderline. Both have difficulty holding stable relationships. They've become the complete opposites of what the stereotypical "masculine" vs. "feminine" is supposed to be (he has a rich fantasy world and a virtuous relationship with the collective while she is more unstable, instinctual and impulsive).
I went to a therapist a few years ago who recommended that I read "The New Personality Self-Portrait" by John M. Oldham and Lois B. Morris. It ascribes the disorders a personality style. So the sickness is only a neurosis of the type. I like that a lot better than the standard DSM IV. It balances weaknesses with strengths. Borderline is "Mercurial" - people with this type tend to value intensity, romantic attachment, a lack of inhibitions, an open mind, alternate states of consciousness (they can easily distract themselves from reality), and value putting their heart and a lot of energy into everything that they do. At their worst they have an identity disturbance, are prone to rage and become arrogant and stubborn (I actually tested as this personality type so I laughed when I read the Batman thing. I've always liked Tim Burton and Michelle Pfeiffer's portrayal of Selina Kyle turning into Catwoman):
I love when she comes in (she's rockin' the injury over the left eye too) and says "Honey I'm home...Oh, I forgot, I'm not married" before flipping out, haha. The story of feminine resurrection is always so much darker than that of the male. Both her and Batman have had to face the abyss though - no children or spouse to help them through.
I wonder if Elizabeth Gilbert was this type too (Eat, Pray, Love). She has a really hard time being alone but turns to having "a relationship with her pizza" lol. Sensory experiences. It's like I've been having a relationship with my imagination, and the world as a whole in that way.
It's funny that you posted the video of Andy Warhol eating the hamburger, because it made me think of the scene from HIMYM where Marshall is describing the best hamburger in New York. The whole thing is so over the top, like an Herbal Essences commercial, lol. If I do choose to have a relationship with food it's something like that, haha. Maybe I could use more Warholian exercises. That casual focus. Mine is either hyper or nonexistent.
HIMYM The Best Burger in New York
Obviously being completely delusional isn't a good thing though (a little bit is probably fine :P), and it's pretty much what I was getting pissed about before in other people. I was watching "Frequency" with Jim Caveziel the other day, and he played his character with so much heart. A blue collar police officer for the homicide division of the NYPD. I've always felt an aversion to people who take everything so seriously (I like to do it in spurts - read a book about how animals are tortured in slaughterhouses, cry, throw it against a wall, patronize people who haven't done the same online, become vegetarian...and then go play the Sims or something), but it's cool when they, like, take their jobs seriously that involve making sure that justice is served for things like murder.
Still though, what if there really is something to whatever we focus on becoming reality? I think digging into motivation is important there (that is this worth it question, asked personally, free from society's views). Yours and other people's. You read a lot about what personality types mesh or don't mesh - but I think people more get along or don't based on what drives them (you're not going to take the metaphorical stairs if there isn't a destination that you care for or don't enjoy the climb...unless it's by force).
This is something I'm trying to remember to come back to. I'm so all or nothing with it. I let people get away with the worst crap if I think their heart is in the right place, or I get overly mad if I think it isn't, even if they're being appropriate and mannerly (which *is* often commendable and can show respect and decency...although I still hold that it can show cowardice at times too).
Anyway, that made me think again of that "everyone has their reasons" bit, and I softened against this paranoia and anger I've felt over the "elite" for years now (like it's a giant army composed of conspiracies, haha). The dude I worked for wasn't a terrible person (God, I've edited that post like 10,000 times), but I think my point was that his types can be really offensive (makes me think of Good Will Hunting - don't be so sure that you're smarter than that janitor...or that as the janitor, you aren't smarter than the professors. Don't be afraid to do things your way and with (authentic) confidence). Of course there's gonna be anger and counter-patronization, but what, am I living by "If you're not with us you're against us?" That's always been a good way to do things right? Lol. So, I'm letting it go.
Lost played with all of this a lot - what with the "Others" (the plane everyone was on split in half before crashing and there were two camps of survivors, and then islanders as well - but then they started playing with time travel so were the islanders somehow the survivors too? I loved that show, haha - not sure you've seen it so if you have no clue what I'm talking about I apologize, lol). I also loved the relationship between the characters of Locke and Jack.
It was kind of that blind faith, blind hope thing we were talking about way back. Locke had blind faith in God after he was pushed out of a window and became paralyzed (everything happens for a reason). Very similar to the Catwoman scene, actually, only it was more like she was the opposite and had it up until that point. "I mean it's not like you can just kill me." "Actually, it's a lot like that." After he was murdered on the mainland though he started to find a balance on the island.
Jack had a hard time believing because he felt responsible for everything (what if everything isn't happening for a reason? What if it is on me to save this life? I liked another theme of the show - "Whatever happened, happened" - which helped characters like Jack from having a pseudo crisis about reality every ten minutes. His hope was always present but never really directed at anything).
Locke and Kate also had an interesting connection. His line was always "Don't tell me what I can't do!" and that more or less seemed to be her motto too. She was probably the most empathetic and helpful character, but she was also the most rebellious. At one point she defied Locke (who was somehow in charge) and called him a dictator when she was punished for it, and he told her if that were the case he would shoot her. He said there was no point in having rules if everyone just always broke them.
It made me think of my New Age retreat, and my problem with it. When asked if I believed in a punishing God my answer was no...but I don't believe that means that we can all just do whatever the hell we want with free will either. Cause and effect makes sense. They were constantly trying to improve upon that cause and effect in the show though. (At one point the character of Juliet - a part of the other camp - was about to be executed for shooting someone, but Jack negotiated with them. "We're pretty strict about killing one of our own" - so instead she's just "marked.")
I do still believe in believing though (lol) - in those best case scenarios. It's the only way you're ever going to trek into the unknown. Otherwise you live by "curiosity killed the cat", you never do anything, and the world is full of crap reporters who focus on sensationalism instead of truth.
"Becoming fearless isn't the point. That's impossible. It's learning how to control your fear, and how to be free of it."
I love this picture of April O'Neil in a padded cell (just found out that Michael Bay is doing a Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles remake too (pretty excited about that :P), with Megan Fox as April. I guess they made up, lol):
I like that she's with Michelangelo too - the party turtle, like just having a good time intuitively and sensing wise is demonized as insanity.
So with all of the Lady Gaga talk and my continual preoccupation with comparing everything to Harry Potter (btw, did you know that JK Rowling just said that Harry should have ended up with Hermione and she regrets not doing that? o.O) I thought about the Hufflepuff video that came out around the time when anyone who got sorted into it on Pottermore would get pissed off and start a new account to try to get another house, haha (apparently that was the house JK Rowling got though when she took the test).
Sorted this Way instead of Born this Way, lol.
I like how the girl winks when she says that she was born to behave. So yea, rules are made to broken, but they're still necessary. Otherwise we totally could devolve into a Bioshock nightmare full of psycho and sociopaths.
It's interesting what the badger represents though:Aggressiveness, Reliance, Self-Expression
The power of the Badger totem is its aggressiveness
and the willingness to fight for what it wants.
This aggression can also be turned
to healing - for Badger is the keeper
of Earth's healing herbs.
Badger people are quick to express their feelings
without concern for the consequences.
They are often healers who have the courage to use unconventional methods.
Badger has the ability to persist to find a cure.
Badger people are often leaders and bosses,
the one who will get the job done.
If you have a Badger as a totem, you will likely be solitary
but comfortable being alone.
You are comfortable in your own skin and very self-reliant.
Badger anger can get your out of apathy,
but be careful not to cut yourself (or others) to ribbons.
Badger is a powerful totem when used properly.
Like Hufflepuff is more the defender of the physical, whereas I saw Ravenclaw as more intuitive (wouldn't it be awesome if JK Rowling came out with a series focusing on these houses instead of Slytherin and Gryffindor?)
I saw the movie "Epic" yesterday (it was like "Honey I Shrunk the Kids" meets "Avatar" - only everyone flew around on hummingbirds instead of dragons, lol) and I thought that it reconciled what is usually seen as imaginative with what was more realistic pretty well. The main character's dad is obsessed with the fairy realm. He goes into simultaneous realities existing spatially and when he does see the fairies they look like holograms because they're moving so much more quickly than he is (he appears as going in slow motion to them). The fairies joke about how they screw with him before his daughter alerts him to their whereabouts. Then with the proper technology they can all communicate. I thought it was a cool way of looking at some of the weirder crap I posted, haha.