Are there any other INFJs out there with an XSFJ mother?? I have a rather bitter ISFJ mother who tends to be a "loose cannon"... all the time growing up she would yell at me for doing things that I was never taught or told what I should do and not do. This has continued up to now (I'm 23, almost 24) and even today she calls me to leave a voicemail message yelling to me about how I parked behind her in the driveway and she wants to leave and doesn't have keys (there were some in the house and she eventually found them before I got there.... but still, this gets old).
She never really does anything meaningful in her life or seem to find anything that makes her happy... just always complains and it makes it more difficult for me to enjoy life at times. There are many times where I'll go into my INFJ counseling mode and make an insightful comment to perhaps get her to think about what she's complaining about but it never gets anywhere. I just have no hope that any insightful thing I say will sink in.
Then it drives me crazy how she never calls me for anything important... like if a relative has died or is in the hospital.... instead, she would rather call me to tell me how a credit card bill in the mail came in and I need to pay it.
Agh, if it wasn't for my father I would have lost my mind a long time ago. Its like the classic SJ life cycle.... they always seem to start at a young age good and achieve dreams early but then when middle age comes around they're just in a rut and there's no getting them out.
So aggravating.... can anybody else relate or tell me how they've coped??
P.S. (Sorry mostly venting) Then it bugged me last night the comment she randomly made (after a few hours that I had been home) when she had been talking health stuff with my dad and she started on this rant about how these magazine health articles are a bunch of crap, basically. Then goes on to say how if one article was right that overweight women are more likely to get breast cancer that her mother should not have breast cancer and that my dad's mother should. My dad did not say any response and he then took the conversation into asking how my week was... but intuitively I knew though he was empathetic of my mother that he was still not pleased with the comment she made. Of course, I felt the same way because... well, both that she was referring to are my grandmothers and I love them both because they have both taken care of me well in their own unique way.