What I’m writing about today is not new, but something I revisit from time to time. I don't know if it's the INFJ thing or the result of a love deficient childhood, but I tend toward an external locus of motivation. I think and act as if my well being depended upon finding a significant other and that finding this love relationship is the answer to healing all my wounds.
I do experience long intervals of time when I find satisfaction with a more solitary life, but sometimes…
I’m aware that when I get involved with someone, I tend to dive into it at the sacrifice of everything else… as if this new person were my life line. My secondary function -- Extraverted Feeling (Fe) -- goes into overdrive and I easily lose myself. I don’t know if it’s fantasy, romantasy or escapism, but I want to find a balance to this all-or-nothing conundrum.
INFJs are known for being idealistic. For those of you in a relationship, how do you cope with this tendency to lose yourself? Is there a cure?