I am an INFJ and my husband is ESTJ. It would seems that I am all about nurturing, while he is an enforcer. He isn't really into communicating, can be brash and insensitive, whereas I am very sensitive and so he upsets me all the time and leaves me feeling very frustrated as he cannot deal with my emotions or needs.
For instance, as soon as I gave birth, the nurse said he didn't have to hang around, and he literally ran out the room. I thought he was joking, but 5 minutes later he hadn't returned. My legs were so numb I couldn't even wash myself. There are so many things I don't undrestand about him, whenever I say something deep or meaningful he just runs away - but this morning I was upset, and said I wasn't sure if our marriage could work, and he just went hmm mm and went off.
MB profile also says that sex wise, his type just see sex as a physical thing - for enjoyment (v true) whereas for me, sex is about love, romance, bonding. I don't know how to work around our differences. I do love him dearly, but at the moment we ahrdly ever have sex and that is an issue for both of us, but I cannot have hollow meaningless sex.
For instance, as soon as I gave birth, the nurse said he didn't have to hang around, and he literally ran out the room. I thought he was joking, but 5 minutes later he hadn't returned. My legs were so numb I couldn't even wash myself. There are so many things I don't undrestand about him, whenever I say something deep or meaningful he just runs away - but this morning I was upset, and said I wasn't sure if our marriage could work, and he just went hmm mm and went off.
MB profile also says that sex wise, his type just see sex as a physical thing - for enjoyment (v true) whereas for me, sex is about love, romance, bonding. I don't know how to work around our differences. I do love him dearly, but at the moment we ahrdly ever have sex and that is an issue for both of us, but I cannot have hollow meaningless sex.