[INFJ] Angry (Warning: empath stuff. Preferably needing intense empaths advice)

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    Unknown Personality

    Angry (Warning: empath stuff. Preferably needing intense empaths advice)

    When a person, regardless of how much I care for that person, sends me TOO MUCH (and I literally mean, TOO FREAKING MUCH) needy energy, at times my 'energy centre' feels disrupted.

    I tend to get angry and a bit irritable lately, I feel even more withdrawn than my usual introverted self, it's like I want to scream,’ I wish everyone can leave me alone!’’ even to friends and family. Then I start wishing I can feel even more disconnected from everyone else and the world around me. Then I start wishing I can find the ‘’kill too much emotions’’ switch.

    I usually care about him and I want to know if he’s okay, but lately his energy is too freaking much. I metaphorically feel like I’m ‘drowning’.

    I already emailed that I want space, dammit!! I don’t dislike him, it’s just the energy can make it hard for me to tell which ones are my feelings.


    P/S Please don't judge me. It's empath stuff and it's hard. I posted this in INFJ sub forum because I figured a number of INFJ's can be good at this haha
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    INTJ - The Scientists

    this sounds like a guy who likes you and you sound like you're just not that into him. well, if you emailed him already about how you feel and that you need him to sod off for a little while, what exactly concerns you? He will not be surprised when you ignore his calls or not answer his repetitive emails, but he might get a little hurt. you should have a heart to heart chat with him and tell him kindly to piss off and stop wasting his time with you.

  3. #3
    Unknown Personality

    Quote Originally Posted by DreamTheater View Post
    this sounds like a guy who likes you and you sound like you're just not that into him. well, if you emailed him already about how you feel and that you need him to sod off for a little while, what exactly concerns you? He will not be surprised when you ignore his calls or not answer his repetitive emails, but he might get a little hurt. you should have a heart to heart chat with him and tell him kindly to piss off and stop wasting his time with you.
    I do like him, and I do care, it's just I need space lately.

    He does give me lots of space, it's just I pick up on that 'needy' energy from afar that can be overwhelming. As an empath, I tend to pick up on energies, especially from people close to me, even friends.

    Ahh sorry now I don't know if I should've made this thread. I don't really want him dissed..It's just..The empath thing is very hard for me to explain *sigh* I just want to know how to control the ''get away from emotions'' switch so that I can properly assess my own feelings instead of only the feelings of others.

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    ENFP - The Inspirers

    Needy people are needy. No matter how much you give them, they will expect more. If you can't handle that, and obviously you can't (maybe an ExFJ is better opt for this), then get out while you can.

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    Unknown Personality

    Sorry..sigh Maybe I'm incapable or incompetent sometimes when it comes to real human connections...

    I at times just want unusually long periods of space from family and even someone I care about a lot in real life.. It's just me

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    INTJ - The Scientists

    I do like him, and I do care, it's just I need space lately.
    Do you like him as a friend or something more? Does he like you as a friend or something more? Your post is vague about the relationship status. I think that even you're not sure of the status, but he probably has an idea opposite to yours and that's bothering you right now. You don't want to get in too deep with some guy but you've already passed the point of no return ( in regards to his feelings and expectations/view of you) and suddenly regretting it.

    Now, I'm no expert but it looks like your empathy has given you the proverbial puppy who followed you home that you had a nice time with initially but now you realize that he's just too much of a pain for you to handle and you can't keep him.

    If you're an overly empathetic person, just remember that some people are puppies and will follow you home and stay outside your door when you pay some attention to them until you let 'em in or you call the pound. They think you have a genuine interest in them.

    I can relate to where you're coming from regarding empathy and how people mistake it as an opening into your life. It used to bug the hell out of me, so one day I said,

    "Screw this, I don't need my empathy to invite losers into my life that take my kindness and use it against me for their personal gain."

    It happened way too often and I had to cut down on being the shoulder to lean or cry on. My marks went up, I became healthier and I don't feel like I'm being an insensitive douche nozzle. I figure it isn't my fault what a person's situation is and that I'm not obliged to listen to them or help them but I will understand where they're coming from and that's it. Leave me alone, I'm busy. That's a problem us feeling types have and we all know it.

    Being too nice will bite you in the ass in the long run.

    I could be wrong about your situation, izzie, but that's my opinion on empathy and how I deal with those feelings now.
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    INFJ - The Protectors

    hmmm i don't know you well but maybe you need to focus on you before you focus on others. if you can't control your empathy then you might screw it up when mister right comes along. take time to really figure YOU out and find the valve to your emotional inflow. plus your young you have plenty of time for guys.

    oh yeah FIND A TREE!!!! find a tree in the woods away from people and sit with your back against it. let your senses open up and listen to nature. try to sit there peacefully for 3 hrs. bring a book and get lost in it. keep your back against the tree. maybe nap against it. just give it time to absorb your stress. if you are truly empathic and the woods are not dead from people and development, you should be able to 'sense' birds ,crickets, squirrels, etc. feel free to leave if you feel bears or other large animals you don't want to be near.

    nature can be really cool to someone who can listen to it. i have been able to pet dear, had squirrels land on my head and for hours stay on my shoulder, not scare off armadillos, stare at foxes, have neighbor's 'mean' dogs not bark at me. you get the drift. you can pull a snow white without singing. you can use it to detect wild animals and avoid them. i have avoided snakes and an aligator or two that way. i'm from FL so aligator avoidence is good.

    isn't it interesting that the early japanese, early europeans and american indians all mention listening to the "spirit"
    of the woods and animals.

    i am not some new age type nor do i try to be or believe in mystical powers. i do believe that extra sensitivity is scientificly possible and i have benefitted from it.
    Last edited by anapuna; 11-11-2010 at 01:27 AM. Reason: added disclaimer
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    Unknown Personality


    So basically even when he isn't in the same room as you, you can sense his 'needy' energy and you need him to stop needing you?
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    Unknown Personality

    I can sense energies from afar, especially with people who are close..It's complicated and it is part of empathy, but I'm learning to control it.

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    Unknown Personality


    Is there a reason he is feeling so needy? Maybe if you can find out why he is giving off this energy you might be able to help him relax?


     
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