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    Common INFJ resentment?

    Is this a common issue amongst INFJ's (I suspect it is)?


    We feel as though we had been so accommodating and giving to people when they needed us..That although we don't want to get hypocritical about it and we want to be better in spite of our flaws, somewhere deep deep deep deep deep deep deep down inside/at the back of our minds --we secretly harbor volcanic-like anger/resentment that might outpour if provoked, over the fact that we don't feel appreciated enough?

    It's like that for me and in my relation to my Fe at times.
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    INFJ - The Protectors


    I don't know i don't really do anything for anybody. Not tha tI don't want to it is just that life is different in the real world than on a type logic page. I don't go around saving everyone from themselves. i just live my life. I don't feel resentment because I am the way I am?

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    INFJ - The Protectors

    EDIT: Thank you for starting a Thread for us INFJs to share feelings on about serious issues. I feel I shouldn't say more about the friendship gone wrong, thus I removed this post. Though I felt better getting it out.
    Last edited by Female INFJ; 01-29-2011 at 04:32 PM.
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    INFJ - The Protectors

    Oh my goodness, I know what you are talking about. What's worse is that I usually go into a friendship (or relationship) so excited because it's so rare that I seem to click with people, and before I know it my boundaries are being stepped all over and I grow resentful.

    I get really mad at my friends when they don't realize how much I do for them, and basically take me for granted. I used to have a creative partnership with a friend that only ended in shambles- she ended up pegging me as the "organized, get-thing-done" person between the two of us, so while she was able to spend her free time doing anything she wanted, I was stuck with the brunt work of sending and keeping up with countless emails, revising our scripts to her liking, and compromising some of my key artistic visions. In case you were wondering, all of this drama was so that we could put on sketch comedy shows together at a theater we worked at, proving that even the most fun work can be made into hell when you're the one stuck doing all of the hard work to get it made.

    We're still in the same improv troupe, though, but now our relationship is far more...professional. That is, until she says something heartless again (she makes stabs at me for being a self-professed "hippie", always saving her "hummus" jokes for when we're on stage). But she is an ENTJ so that can be expected
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    INFP - The Idealists

    I feel this all the time as an INFP. Then again, I don't really buy the whole unsubstantiated theory about the Fi/Fe stuff anyway. I process all my feelings externally.
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    Ooh admittedly I haven't read into the link, CynicallyNaive. Don't worry though, I'm not one of those who think MBTI answers most things.. :) If you think you're INFP, then you know yourself better than others.

    As for me, the pattern I just realized that I overused my Fe in the past towards people who took advantage of me - was one of the things that brought me to the conclusion that I'm more INFJ.
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    INFJ - The Protectors

    Quote Originally Posted by izzie View Post
    Is this a common issue amongst INFJ's (I suspect it is)?


    We feel as though we had been so accommodating and giving to people when they needed us..That although we don't want to get hypocritical about it and we want to be better in spite of our flaws, somewhere deep deep deep deep deep deep deep down inside/at the back of our minds --we secretly harbor volcanic-like anger/resentment that might outpour if provoked, over the fact that we don't feel appreciated enough?

    It's like that for me and in my relation to my Fe at times.
    Absolutely 100%. Guess it's good we can control our emotions so well, almost like Vulcans :P

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    INFJ - The Protectors


    YES. But I never bring it up or complain about it because that would just unleash a shit load of repressed things; it would seem to come out of nowhere and people wouldn't understand that. And I don't like nagging about my feelings in general.
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    Quote Originally Posted by diverged View Post
    YES. But I never bring it up or complain about it because that would just unleash a shit load of repressed things; it would seem to come out of nowhere and people wouldn't understand that. And I don't like nagging about my feelings in general.
    Yes when I unleash it, I hate it when I'm being misunderstood.

    I especially hate it when people talk to me like I'm a broken child that didn't analyze my emotions when I do analyze my Fe, I just struggle with it. Makes me want to slap them for being stupid.
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    I resent being a total B**** to those who didn't deserve it. I resent a lot of things. Too many to list. I resent so many things it is almost self-hatred.


     
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