[INFJ] Trauma and the INFJ.. Does this help create the INFJ in real life?

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This is a discussion on Trauma and the INFJ.. Does this help create the INFJ in real life? within the INFJ Forum - The Protectors forums, part of the NF's Temperament Forum- The Dreamers category; Have you been subject to lasting shock as a result of an emotionally disturbing experience or physical injury? This would ...

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    INFJ - The Protectors

    Trauma and the INFJ.. Does this help create the INFJ in real life?

    Have you been subject to lasting shock as a result of an emotionally disturbing experience or physical injury?

    This would be traumatized. I have. Before I knew about mbti and types etc.. I thought the only person that could understand life like me would have to have been traumatized at a young age. Deep pain that never came to a conclusion... I learned hey this place is evil and it happens.. Im over it now, I think or the walls are just high enough now. Im not going to share what happened and dont want you to either.

    I dont want to pry into your life. I really dont want anyone to get hurt here.. I would just like to put it to rest in my mind.

    Do you think the INFJ was/is hurt?
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    Meaning, were INFJs something else before their trauma?

    Trauma changes people in strange ways. I tend think of MBTI as your "default setting" however, present before and after, though you may not make use of it. My trauma made me more J-ish. I don't know if that's because I was J to begin with and it got reinforced, or the something that happened made me think that J was better. I used to test as P a long time ago as a kid, but I've also heard that J is one of those traits that only starts showing up more and more once someone matures. Also, my childhood was not a very good environment for me to be my true self in.

    For now? I still feel the pain. I don't know it's something that I'll be able to ever shake off entirely. It still affects me in ways I'd rather it didn't.

    But for changing my MBTI type? I'm not sure. I could argue for both ways, but I'm going to say it's an inborn thing that doesn't really change at the core. You can cut your hair short or tie it back in a ponytail to make it look different, but its still the same hair.

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    INFJ - The Protectors

    Taking the personal stories out of my original post, trauma has helped force me out of my shell against my will; again and again and again. I don't want anyone to pity me so I am not sharing the stories here, in this post. Yes it does help..Surviving/experiencing traumatic experiences sparks accelerated growth in my opinion.
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    My mom is verbally abusive, which I count as trauma. I'm not sure if that made me INFJ or what, but I don't think you can attribute trauma to the forming of an INFJ. We'll see though.
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    I have gone through periods of very emotionally tough times, yes. How this would effect my type, I don't know. It would be curious to see a confirmed parallell, but how does a thought processing function like Ni even come into picture in that case?
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    I tend to think we stay with the same type despite trauma -- it's just certain types are likely to react in certain ways. Though by no means does everyone within a type react the same. Maybe sometimes we come across as a type we aren't due to trauma?
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    Everyone here has very good insights into this topic. Thank you. I like the idea that we are born this way.. and believe that also. BUT when I was younger. It felt like I was alone not physically I have siblings.. what I mean is emotionally? mentally? I found no one around me could see pain in others.. or understand the depth of stuff like me. As I grew and understood emotions I felt others emotions. (empathy) I do recall having this perspective before trauma entered my life. But I also know that after the cold water surrounded it was my personal perspective was concreted in.

    I think what I am getting at is that in reflection I believed we all started the same.. we determined our prefences and the strength of them by our reality and experiences. This was a backward logic starting at.. Im alone. no one understands me working to the earliest memories I could recall. Fast forward to late 20s and discovering MBTI and other classifications. I learned we are born like this... but that still has some conflict with the trauma theory.

    It is evident that an INFJ could feel traumatized easy but I wonder are we all traumatized?
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    Quote Originally Posted by TxWolves View Post
    It is evident that an INFJ could feel traumatized easy but I wonder are we all traumatized?
    If being traumatized was a prerequisite for being an INFJ, then that would surely be much more well known. However, looking at this forum, obviously a lot of us have had different kinds of problems -- social isolation seemingly being a big one.
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    INFJ - The Protectors

    My parents were violent. One day the sun shines, the next day....

    I know it helped developed my ability to deal with ambiguity.

    And it goes on, and on....

    If everyone disclosed whether some trauma happened we might find a trend.
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    My trauma was in all forms ^^, but that part of my life is over and am quite happy now, i don't feel the pain of my past anymore. But I also grew up very quickly because i was never really treated as a kid and never really experienced the happiness of being a kid and by the time i was able to have that chance i was a teenager ^^'. I believe INFJ's are born as a rough outline of an INFJ and the rest is "Shaped" by our experiences ^^
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