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This is a discussion on Infidelity. within the INFJ Forum - The Protectors forums, part of the NF's Temperament Forum- The Dreamers category; INFJs, what are your views on this? I know that any type can be unfaithful, but I was just wondering ...

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    ISFJ - The Nurturers


    INFJs, what are your views on this?
    I know that any type can be unfaithful, but I was just wondering if INFJs are more likely to be faithful/unfaithful than other types.
    I'm extremely loyal and faithful, but I think being a Type 6 has something to do with that :)
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    INFJ - The Protectors

    I am extremely committed and faithful in a relationship, and have no tolerance for people who are not. For me affection is sort of leveled, it is an expression of care for another person. I hug people, because I care about them, I hug and kiss my best friend (on the cheek mind you) I hug snuggle and love my children a lot, because they are the two people I love most in the world, with only one exception and that is my fiancé, he is the man I love most, and the man that I save that ultimate expression of love for. When someone goes around just boinking people it means nothing, and you lose that ability to really express that level of affection. Now that is just how I feel about things, and I know people to whom that means very little, I know some people that look at it as nothing personal at all, and I guess to each there own, but to me that is a little repulsive.

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    INTJ - The Scientists

    I thanked the post above due to gratuitous use of the word Boinking. How wonderful!

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    INFJ - The Protectors

    yeah I am full of funny little goof ball things like that!!! One of my most common that people laugh at, is when I say something just "burns my biscuits", I guess it is just a southern country girl thing
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    ISFJ - The Nurturers

    I will die before I'm unfaithful. It's not because I'm a prude, it's because I have respect for other human beings. Especially a human being that I'm in love with. I'm probably going to get a grilling for saying this but I will anyway. i don't believe that you can truly love someone if you cheat on them, because that just makes you selfish and selfish people can never love anybody as much as they love themselves.
    It does a lot of damage, believe me. It messes with your head and can ruin future relationships because of insecurities. Same goes if you're the cheater. You're punishment is that you judge others by your standards and will be paranoid that somebody will do the same to you.
    So in a nutshell, it's not worth it.
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    INFJ - The Protectors

    Well you are not going to get heat from me on that I totally agree!!!
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    ISFJ - The Nurturers

    People always have a go at me for it.
    I even got someone who said the only reason I hadn't cheated ever in my life weas because I was too ugly to get someone.
    Well I was under the impression it didn't matter what you looked like. If you're gonna do it and you're gonna put it on a plate...
    I mean look at celebrities who have cheated. Not all of them are good looking.

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    INFJ - The Protectors

    This is just my opinion but I think people that need many multiple partners are looking for satisfaction from status, you know a kind of mentality that if I have more notches on the bed post then I must be important? Or it is a power thing to see if I can get all of these people to want me. So on and so on, and for those people it is not an expression of love, and may never be. To me that is sad but if it is what floats there boat so be it, but the horrible thing about that is when they try to have a relationship and misrepresent themselves, and end up hurting someone who is monogamous and devoted, that is not cool, and Holly you are totally right it has nothing to do with looks, there are girls who look at guys as trophies and guys that look at girls like that, and they do not care one bit what the person they are doing the mattress mambo looks like, they just care that they can put another notch on the bed post. Shoot I knew guys that used to compete and see how many girls they could poke in a night, they would call them double baggers and stuff but so long as they had the most they thought they were so cool. I thought they were disgusting. I knew girls who were like groupies and who used to compete to see who could sleep with the most guys in a certain profession, or who could do the kinkiest stuff, that always kind of freaked me out too, but to each his own. I kind off feel sorry for those people because I think they are missing out, or course maybe they look at me the same way.

    From your pictures I think you look very pretty so your friend was a real ding a ling for saying that, and does not deserve to have you as a friend and is probably no friend at all. I think when you find some one capable of loving and being devoted to you, then you will find more beauty in the world and within your self than you ever realized was there, and she is a turd for what she said!!!!
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    Unknown Personality

    seems to me the observation that values play a large role in these activities is pretty valid, and the only reason you would get a "grilling" for that stuff is that the truth hurts. My thought on the matter was they they were self serving knuckle heads, and i consider many people just that and passed it off as something society "gets" that i sigh and turn away from but both of your words shown the intentions behind the self serving, moral shattering acts, and i thank you for it.

    No need to sigh at ourselves in any way for being a prude, its merely a consciencious objector. Possibly the only one with a good head on their shoulders.

    To clarify my words a knuckle head is someone who's not necessarily stupid, just does some incorrect things I cant approve of.

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    ISFJ - The Nurturers

    It was actually a male, who was bloody ugly himself so I took no notice :)
    I stand by my values, nobody will persuade me otherwise :)

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