This is a discussion on Getting back in touch with Fi as an INFJ within the INFJ Forum - The Protectors forums, part of the NF's Temperament Forum- The Dreamers category; Meditate...
There are exercises around if you just google it. Look up how to get in touch with what I am feeling. You can sit quietly and listen(meditation), you can do writing exercises, you can recite it as a mantra throughout the days until the answers come to you (what am I feeling? What am I feeling? what am I feeling? pretty impossible to ignore when that's all you're asking yourself for 3-4 days straight, then an answer comes, or several)
It doesn't matter what label you give it, if you can't feel emotions, that's a problem. I suspect that you actually do feel emotions (you showed exasperation on this thread, for example) but you have lost touch with them.
This could be a result of stress, fatigue, trauma, grief, or of focusing too much on what everyone asks of you. It is also a symptom of depression. (If it had been happening your whole life, it could be a symptom of psychopathy, but that doesn't fit you.)
I think the meditation suggestion is good. Also, try spending some time just having fun, doing something physical or creative that you enjoy. Don't analyze, just experience. You might be surprised to find that you have emotions after all.
I feel like maybe I'm drawn to melancholy and negative emotions because it perhaps gives an illusion of more depth. So for a time, creativity in certain areas increase and this oneness of feeling self seems present at the surface.
Happiness though is so easy to go with and lose the self. It really does seem like such a superficial experience. And that's not meant in a bad way. It's just fun and spreading cheer, wanting goodness. It's weird though that that brings an emptiness with it too.
These crazy paradoxes everywhere; we never escape.
But if you ever asked or insinuated otherwise, I'd profess how deep I am. But who I really am? IDK, maybe the pool is shallow yet connected to a drain that goes somewhere unseen.