I also think the lense I broke/had repaired last year is still shit, repaired or not. A lot of blur and photos blown out with light, which is the same problem it had with the broken elements. (Only more so.) So. A good lense for stills or landscapes, not so much for sports. I'm going to need to get a new one for that, I suspect.
Oh, and I'm recovering quite well, thanks!
My experience has been lot of emotional instability... so totally relate to that. Also a lot of emotional manipulation and serious amounts of cling and neediness. (If you ever read a list of the signs of emotional abuse, the other side displayed more than half... and used those frequently.) Completely irrational thought process... it was just... wow. And I had never in my life had to deal with someone that was so emotionally unstable (for lack of a better term)... so, it was extremely overwhelming.
Of course, tossing my extremely INTJ ass into the mix really didn't do anything at all to help...
Yes, indeed However, why do I have to be that exception?! It seems as though life would be much easier if I could just "be" without all the.... hmmm.... "me" ness .[/quote}
Better than minion(s) than the fearless leader... says the fearless leader!
I think that is a perfect idea, actuallyStill thinking on it... perhaps I will. Perhaps I won't. Time will tell.. I would def ask you questions... and prolly quite often so there goes the two shits theory as I can give you about 100 shits and I am betting possibly more .
And, I know what you mean about the fading out. I started a thread a couple years back. I seem to be the only one who posts to it anymore.Yah, that is pretty funny about the religious tweet-sters. My best guess is they hope to "save" your sorry atheist assAnyone is welcome to follow my Twitter. I don't base my opinons of people on their religion (or any other arbitrary set of circumstance, for that matter) and though I am an Atheist (and strongly so), the vast majority of people I know IRL, including my family, are Christians.. JK about the "sorry atheist" part . I feel you though... they come out of nowhere. Vultures I tell ya.... lol.... I'm Christian... just not mainstream Christian.... so I have no clue how they manage to find me and I def don't need or want most of what they're selling.... [that's not even mentioning my "political" views, which are grounded on the crazy theory that individual liberty supersedes the majority's belief system] But...I look at it like this.... they've opened my door at their own risk.... my guess is that they will eventually run away screaming in horror... so I say "come on down".... amuse me.... I need some laughter in my life. That said.... I would just like some run of the mill followers that genuinely want to know me and I them. That would really make my day.
I'm not a Christian basher. (I will however, call you out if you're being ridiculous... but that expands well past religion, as anybody who knows me will tell you! ) Be as damned Christian as you want to be. It's all good.
I'm just... it baffles me how these people find me (are they looking for Atheists?) and what leads them to think that I believe as they do... cuz my assumption is that, somehow, they think that I think like they think. (Confused yet? ) And then... I wonder how surprised they are when they start running across the Atheist tweets? Enquiring minds need to know these things and yet, I have no answers...It is good to find someone who you are able to synch up with... and that, in the relationship, allows you to bring out the best in each other. That's the way it's supposed to work. I'm glad you've found that!Ultimately, I believe it was my INJFness that ended the marriage. To a degree, I let my unrealistic expectations of relationships determine that outcome. I'm married to an ISFP now. WOW! That's a whole other kind of train wreck! LOL! But, I can say that having a teammate rather than an opponent is much more conducive to my end game! I still struggle with the whole "letting people walk all over me" part. My solution.... stay away from people. LOL! My hubs basically forces me to stand up for myself. It's almost like a mother putting her foot down with a stubborn child. It's quite funny really. But, it is certainly one of things I most appreciate him for. I know that no matter what he always has my back.... and makes me have my own back too.
One other suggestion, if I may? Be an ear. Having been involved in a very bad car accident years ago, I can tell you that the very first thing that goes away is the ear. The accident, the injuries and the recovery are going to be very upfront and personal for your coworker for a very long time...while it fades to the wayside for everyone else. (Including those closest to him.) If he wants to talk about the accident, the injuries, the recovery process... lend an ear (preferably without letting your eyes gloss over, lol). People really don't want to keep hearing about it, in my experience, long before he'll be done talking about it.If you're in the relationship, then... by all means, put forth a proper effort, or what the hell are you even doing? But also know, there comes a time when reality needs to factor into it all... if shit ain't working, then move on.I usually disagree with compromising in most situations. It neutralises but it also inhibits both sides. I don't agree with that inhibitory boundary, not even for the sake of agreeing with each other. I feel it stops the individual to become more of them.
So if it doesn't feel right, there shouldn't be the need for trying hard to make things work..? But I keep hearing these words..
"..But love is above that."
That being said... I imagine the INTJs and ISTJs have some similar issues when it comes to getting along well with... well, anyone, lol. Your ISTJ sounds a lot like me. And... I don't consider myself unhealthy, by any stretch... I do know I can be exceptionally difficult for people to get along with sometimes. I can be quiet dickish when that mood strikes... usually, there's some provocation that's come from without that's prompted a dickish response... but sometimes, just dickish because.
And often quite unintentionally dickish. I certainly have my moments. I can be very... forthcoming and perhaps a little less polished in my delivery than most people are used to, lol. And when I'm exasperated by someone else's idiocy, I have a very hard time keeping unfiltered comments from leaving my mouth. (I did not call the director of my facility an idiot during our 2 convos regarding her being an idiot... nor did I call her ridiculous... I told her she was behaving in a ridiculous fashion and that what she was saying was illogical, untrue and... probably a few other things, I don't recall... I was annoyed. But, had she not been the director of the entire facility, she'd have heard far more honest words/opinions... trust me, lol.)
The lovely thing about you mature female INFJs... many of you, that I've talked to directly (via PMs or off site) have done me a great service by actually taking the time to explain why an INFJ might react this way or that or what the hell they were even going on about (I have no clue about 110% of the time, lol)... and some have done a fine job of drawing parallels between those feeler INFJ feelings and things that I've actually experienced (for different reasons, usually) so that I can make that feels connection that is often completely lost on me. Doing that has allowed me to use empathy from my own experiences and apply it where I'm not so empathic because I don't have that experience to draw upon. (If any of that makes any sense?)
Anyway... youse all been helpful, is what I'm saying.
The dog show was a bust, really. Small event, most of it the foo-foo show dog nonsense. (With the perfectly coifed pooches being held to their breed standard and what not.) I much prefer the obedience/agility trials and shows to this foo-foo nonsense.
Partly because this foo-foo nonsense has ruined some breed of dogs (in the US, at any rate) by breeding them to be... monsterous examples of the AKC's "breed standards"... I also feel like a great many of these people couldn't give two shits about their dogs. I saw large RVs in the lot with as many as 15 dogs in pens outside. These are not beloved pets, by and large. They're ribbons and $$$s and not much more.
I find it disgusting.
Outside of one ring there was an older lady (by older, I mean older than me and my mom) who had a smooth coated collie. Lovely dog. Until it barked. Just a wee little raspy noise came out of it. After the lady left, my mom asked why the dog barked like that... thinking it must be sick or it must've barked itself hoarse...
Most likely, it's because they've cut his vocal cords, mom.
And I told her that because... most likely they've cut his vocal cords. He doesn't need to bark to look pretty after all.
Devocaliztion, they call it. I'm not a fan... let's just leave it at that.
We eventually found the agility event... and it was ok. Small event, though, so it wasn't that much fun. Far better, however, than watching foo-foo dogs being pranced and posed about, though. (Only just.)
Sat through that until my butt hurt (a few hours) and then took mom to Sonic Drive Inn for chow. Watched the boy wait staff there as he repeatedly nearly killed himself trying to roller skate in taking orders and delivering food.
Now... for you cross the ponders... a Drive Inn is an eating establishment where you (typically) order at and eat in your car. These establishments were extremely popular in the 50s & 60s in the US... even McDonald's started as this type of establishment. (And effectively ran all the others outta business by the 70s...) Sonic is the modern version of the drive in. Though most Sonics I've been to have at least a few tables inside the establishment, most dining is meant to be done in your car or at tables outside.
And... back in the day, your wait staff roller skated. Why? I have no idea. Easier on the legs and more fun to do? Perhaps. Most places, including Sonic, don't require you skate any longer. It is, however, optionally at Sonic. Some do skate (usually females), but most do not.
So, you have this young lad with skates on. I'm pretty sure, judging by how well he was doing, he'd probably never had skates on his feet before in his entire life. Every step... we watched, waiting for him to flail helplessly to the ground... often with a tray full of food in his arms... he never did... fall, I mean. But he flailed. A lot.
For his entertainment value alone, I tipped him. He seemed surprised. (most do not tip at fast food places, after all.) But, I figured he deserved the $3 (or whatever it was left as change from my $20) since he entertained me for a solid 15 minutes. Besides, the probability of him busting his ass before the night was over was pretty high.
After that I came home and tried to nap. That didn't work. Tried to watch Netflix, but it was being quite wankish... so I had to work on fixing that issue. Then... I watched The Inbetweeners movie... which sucked nuts, mostly. Series? I recommend. The movie? Not so much...
Then I started watching The Walking Dead... cuz I remembered, finally, that the new eps were up. I mean, I knew that already... but I kept forgetting to watch. So, there ya go. I watched that until some football came on... Then I watched that... then, after the game, back to TWD.
TWD marathon until 0330, basically.
One comment, one question concerning all that. Comment: The Governor story line is fucking boring as hell. I get that we're building up to a war or some shit (it's not exactly unobvious), but seriously. BORING. Fuck all boring. And the Question: Why the fuck is that wanker Rick still alive? I really don't like him. He's such a fucking pussy... he irritates the shit outta me.
I don't know where I left off. Netflix will tell me when I come back. I fully intended to watch more tonight, but... have all these damn photographs to sort through and edit and all that nonsense. So... yeah. Didn't have time for any more TWD.
I still have to play the second episode of the game through. I need to do that soonish.
But I've got so much shit going on right now. Three classes to sort through, photos to sort through... may be a while before I have much time to do a whole lot of gaming, I'm afraid.
And now it's almost time to go to work. Yee. Haw. Damn weekends need to be longer. Seriously.
So... I guess it's time to end this ridiculously long, multi quoted post and get myself ready to get to work. I have mucho studies to get after tonight. Finish my homework for musculoskeletal anatomy and start for the terrorism/psych of CJ courses. So. Much. To. Do. I hope I don't get overwhelmed before I'm released from modified duty... a lot of work, not a lot of time.