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    Couple of weeks ago I was thinking that I might have a cybersex addiction. Or at the very least, be abusing the internet. So I read the first chapter of a book on cybersex and could relate a little bit to what was being said, but not a whole lot. A few days later, I go and see a doctor and she thinks that I am dealing with burnout. At first, I wasn't sure about that. I thought that maybe I just wasn't doing my job properly. Reluctantly I took time off of work. As part of my treatment, I decided to do some sort of book to try and help myself out. I read one chapter of a burnout book and could really relate to what was being said. So I purchased the book, and am working on the exercises in it. I think the using the internet was a way to cope with the burnout, all though not a good one.

    I am glad I didn't immediately buy the book on cybersex and start going down that path for my well being. I think part of it is my whole life is surrounding by addiction as I work in the field, so I thought some sort of addiction must be the problem. Also, just everywhere I look now, it seems like everything is blaming all problems on addiction and/or mental health. I also think that in some way it would have made it easier on me to have an addiction as than it gives me an excuse. Now, I know I need to make changes at work and other areas of my life and that will be hard for me. I am going to have to go outside of my comfort zone. This will include trusting that other people can help me and setting boundaries. It will also involve slowing down the pace of my life and saying no.
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    Quote Originally Posted by lifeisanillusion View Post
    Couple of weeks ago I was thinking that I might have a cybersex addiction. Or at the very least, be abusing the internet. So I read the first chapter of a book on cybersex and could relate a little bit to what was being said, but not a whole lot. A few days later, I go and see a doctor and she thinks that I am dealing with burnout. At first, I wasn't sure about that. I thought that maybe I just wasn't doing my job properly. Reluctantly I took time off of work. As part of my treatment, I decided to do some sort of book to try and help myself out. I read one chapter of a burnout book and could really relate to what was being said. So I purchased the book, and am working on the exercises in it. I think the using the internet was a way to cope with the burnout, all though not a good one.

    I am glad I didn't immediately buy the book on cybersex and start going down that path for my well being. I think part of it is my whole life is surrounding by addiction as I work in the field, so I thought some sort of addiction must be the problem. Also, just everywhere I look now, it seems like everything is blaming all problems on addiction and/or mental health. I also think that in some way it would have made it easier on me to have an addiction as than it gives me an excuse. Now, I know I need to make changes at work and other areas of my life and that will be hard for me. I am going to have to go outside of my comfort zone. This will include trusting that other people can help me and setting boundaries. It will also involve slowing down the pace of my life and saying no.
    Is your sexual activity something that is negatively affecting your day to day tasks and something you can't stop?

    I'm sure you know this criteria because you work in the field. Sometimes it takes some outside clarity to make it obvious

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    I've been trying to figure out my MBTI and Enneagram type off and on for years. I go through periods where I go around and around in circles and beat the topic to death, and if I do I settle on something, I start questioning it all over again and I'm back at square one. I think it's so important for me to figure out this "puzzle" that is me, so to speak, so that I can find my true identity. Not that MBTI and Enneagram are necessary to have a sense of identity, but it would help me understand myself a little better, and studying the Enneagram and having my correct type, would help give me insight into my problem areas so I can work on myself and grow into the person I'm meant to be.

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    INTJ - The Scientists

    I survived the grievance hearing and won as well. So that's awesome.

    It was... comical, surreal... and kinda of Law & Order, honestly. And boring to a degree, but mostly I think that was because I was tired and had little attention span if things weren't involving me directly. Thus, I was fidgety like a 5 yr old. *shrugs*

    I left work, went to have some breakfast and then drove downtown to the parking complex that is for the government building I needed to be in. Got a great parking place since the building wasn't even open when I arrived around 0630 or so. Sat myself in that parking lot for about 2 hrs or so. That was fun. I could've taken a nap... but I couldn't.

    1) Traffic noise. It is downtown, after all.
    2) Not really safe to be napping about in a parking lot downtown.

    I listened to music and played games on my phone.

    Met my attorney inside. Saw Sam and the director in there with their attorney. We sat about, in our own little groups, and chatted with our attorneys for a while... and then it was time.

    It's like a court proceeding that is not a court proceeding. It's a legal hearing, though, just the same. It is a board made up of several different people from several different areas of the government + plus people chosen by labor... since it deals with aspects of jobs performed by people who are typically union members.

    There are opening statements. My attorney gave his first... which basically said my agency fucked up. Then the agency's lawyer came up with their opening statement which was basically to agree that they fucked up.

    Then myself and my attorney had to get up and talk about what happened. Well... I talked, my attorney prompted. Then the agency's attorney asked me like... two questions. Which were mostly for clarity... and that was that. Then my attorney had Sam and the director (in that order) up on there and grilled the fuck outta them.

    This was the amusing part. When Sam and the director were up there speaking, the suddenly seemed to forget everything. They couldn't remember if staffing has changed in the past several years, couldn't remember what staffing numbers were like two years ago, as opposed to now, couldn't remember this, couldn't remember that...

    I was just sat over in my seat shaking my head. I had expected outright lies, since it is the nature of both of them... but perhaps that whole being under oath thing changed their nature from lying to memory loss, deflection and avoidance... cuz that's what both of them did for pretty much every question that was asked of them by my attorney.

    Sam even forgot how sick I was... he said he assumed I was "better" because I stopped puking and went back to work.

    Uhm... I stopped puking... 3 hrs later, mind you, because there was not a fucking thing left for me to puke. And I returned to work because I wasn't given an option, you fuckwit.

    But... he also had to take all the blame for being wrong, violating my rights as an employee, violating the union contract, etc and so forth because the director sure as fuck wasn't going to take any of the blame for it, despite it actually being all her fault. (Sam is a fuckwit, yes... but this situation put him in a bad place where no matter what he did he was going to be in trouble and that's because of the director, not of Sam's own doing.)

    When the director was up there taking questions my attorney at one point had to ask her the same question five times because she would go off on some tangent or another about something wholly unrelated to the question... and when she was done, he would have to tell her that all that was well and good, but she'd not answered his question. She answered a lot of questions he never asked (and had no reason to do so) and rarely answered the actual questions he was asking. It was... amusing... watchig her squirm and avoid the questions.

    The surreal part is this board of four people (one was absent) said that there was no evidence that this issue was caused by poor staffing or that the building was now or had ever been poorly staffed... despite all evidence to the contrary.

    It was not unexpected, mind you... just... it's just a shake your head moment, you know?

    Also somewhat surreal that one of the members of the board (the only female), whilst speaking directly, pretty much said that while the agency was wrong and violated the contract, I didn't deserve any form of compensation because I was at work and as such, I got paid my wage and therefore, I didn't deserve anything else.

    Fortunately, the three male members of the board thought that was ridiculous. And so, it ended up that I got 8 hrs of sick pay added to my balance and I will get 4 hrs of pay added to my next check and the director will write a formal apology letter to me with copies to be added to my personnel file and to the union's files as a memoriam in case these knuckleheads pull the same shit at some point down the road, there is proof of them admitting they were wrong and issuing an apology.

    All in all I gained about $500 from all that, so it's all good.

    I'm quite sure, after my attorney raked them across the coals and them obviously not having any answers (that weren't incriminating) and being made to look foolish in front of the board... I'm quite sure I'm off the ass kiss list now. Because they were made to look foolish and obviously guilty... when you work somewhere for 26 yrs (the director) and 16 yrs (Sam), in administrative positions yet, and can't remember if you've had staffing changes over the years? You look silly saying shit like that. Silly and dishonest.

    I mean... I wish I could've taken video, particularly of the director. 1) She talks like a Valley Girl (always). 2) She was pretty much lying on the podium. 3) Not answering the questions asked. 4) Flailing dramatically whilst evading. 5) The looks. I'm not even sure how to describe them... she'd look at my attorney with these... looks... that were obviously for dramatic flair.

    Anyway... if I'd have been able to take video and would've then be able to share it with you, you would not have believed that this woman, based on her body language alone, was the director of anything. And then add the words and what not to it? It's... pretty stunning and I'm actually somewhat embarrassed for our agency that this is our leader. You know? It's that sort of bad.

    After returning home, I had the pups out to play until chow time. By then, I was running out of steam. After chow, I went and slept on the couch for a while so the pups could play some more down here in the cave. (They had all been sleeping in my mom's room when I returned. My mom was sick, so the pups were cooped up in their crates until I got home at nearly noon.) Eventually went to bed, thinking I'd wake up at some odd and early hour of the morning... but I was so tired that I slept right through till about 1030.

    That doesn't bode well for me tonight and my return to work, eh? I'll try to catch a nap later on, but... how well that works out is hard to say. And you know that if I don't get any more sleep tomorrow morning will be the morning I catch mandatory overtime... right? You know it will... cuz that's the way the world works.

    And as of the time I left work yesterday morning there had been a need to call for overtime for five days in a row, soooooooo...
    (Mind you, there's NO evidence at all that the facility is understaffed!)

    Not much else going on in my neck 'o da woods. The heat wave is over. Thankfully. That certainly allowed me and the pups to be outside much of the day yesterday, playing... and allowed us to turn off the ac last night and sleep with the windows open. It was quite a nice break, if you must know. I hate the cold with a passion, but that kind of heat? I can do without that as well.

    I have no plans for my days off. Tried to make plans with RN for Friday, but she has a wedding, so... I guess we'll keep our record of not hanging out this summer intact. Not much we can do about it with our conflicting schedules and what not. Next week, I have a photo shoot... so that'll nix hanging out then as well.

    Oh well.

    It should be nice this weekend so me and the pups will be able to patio perch and what not. That's not at all a bad way to spend the weekend, honestly... one of my preferred ways, truth be told. I don't have to be social, I don't have to leave my house (yard), don't have to even get dressed iffin I don't wanna. Hanging out with my favorite lads and getting my game on. What's not to love?

    Speaking of my favorite lads... a while back I realized the wee pup has a middle name. I realized this when I was scolding him at one point in time and I said his name followed closely behind by another name, his middle name, that I didn't even know existed.



    James is his middle name, so you know. Both of the pups have 3 letter people names. I guess, whilst I had my dad voice on and was scolding the wee pup... well, I guess three letters wasn't enough to properly scold with, so I added five more. I had no idea the wee pup had a middle name, let alone that it was James, until that moment.

    Funny that. The big pup doesn't have a middle name, despite also being three letters long. Not sure why that is... maybe because his three letters are the shortened form of a much longer name and thus normally wouldn't have a middle name with it, whereas the wee pup's name in all forms, is only three letters?

    I dunno. It's just... one of those silly things that happened for no reason and is surprising to one's own self when it happens.

    I'll leave you with this...



    That's one hell of a way to come out, Eugene.
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    Quote Originally Posted by DrEquine View Post
    Is your sexual activity something that is negatively affecting your day to day tasks and something you can't stop?

    I'm sure you know this criteria because you work in the field. Sometimes it takes some outside clarity to make it obvious

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    No to both. But thanks for your thoughts. You are right, sometimes outside thoughts make things clearer.

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    What do you guys think of parallel Universes?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Klaro26 View Post
    What do you guys think of parallel Universes?
    The likelihood of parallel doesn't make sense. Since for something to be both parallel and infinite, they must be EXACTLY parallel in order to never intersect. If they do intersect, they aren't parallel. It's more likely they intersect.
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    Quote Originally Posted by WritingLove View Post
    The likelihood of parallel doesn't make sense. Since for something to be both parallel and infinite, they must be EXACTLY parallel in order to never intersect. If they do intersect, they aren't parallel. It's more likely they intersect.
    Interesting perspective. And where do you think they might intersect?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Klaro26 View Post
    Interesting perspective. And where do you think they might intersect?
    Suddenly your question demands an increased effort to respond. My initial thought is the musical vibration or heartbeat being a combination of multiple frequencies mating. That's supposing the universe is not visually limited with concrete borders. If you would imagine north America and all its borders, the borders don't actually exist. They exist only in theory. The landmass is actually one big thing. At least from an objective standpoint. So when multiple universes intersect, where do you draw borders between them? I think that's why the Greeks had MULTIPLE gods. Yet we transitioned to a singular god. The same could be said with the multiple universes theory transitioning into a singular universe where it all overlaps into one.
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    I always find it tragic and also amusing that today's leading intellectuals, the physicists, attempt to explain literally everything in the reductive terms of materialism and empiricism. If something does not exist in the sensory world, they say, then it does not exist at all.

    But how on earth can you base your entire understanding of literally everything on such a plainly foolish assumption? Ultimate reality and the origin of the universe surely has absolutely nothing to do with the senses, with matter, with the approach of materialism and empiricism. All these things existed BILLIONS of years before even the most primitive sensory organ developed, for fucks sake! Everything the physicists observe today, the fabled laws of the universe, existed billions of years before any sensory organ existed to gather empirical data. So how can you be so narcissistic as to imagine that the senses reveal ultimate reality? Any approach based on the senses, such as those of materialism and empiricism, is false because the universe did not begin with the senses. Therefore there must be a 'mental,' that is, wholly non-physical and non-sensory, reality that physics can never ever understand unless it abandons its core assumptions. Which the physicists won't ever do. You'd have an easier time of it convincing the Pope that Jesus was not divine than you would persuading a physicist that not all things that exist are empirically detectable.

    Mind does not come from matter; matter comes from mind
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