As you might know, I recently posted, talking about an INFJ 8 I met who was interested in pursuing a casual and temporary relationship.
However, she was definitely more romantic and intimate than I'd expected casual to be and we've been developing feelings for each other.
Well, recently, this girl decided that instead of escaping to an overseas internship as she planned, that she was going to stay somewhat local (an hour north to work in an organic farming and sustainability internship). This would keep her close enough to me for us to stay together.
I was pleased, but shocked. I didn't expect her to change her plans.
But even more shocking was when she asked me to join the internship with her. She said that internships like this were "amazing for couples". Understand, this has come completely out of nowhere.
Now I'm very confused. After spending all this time warning me not to get too close, and that she wanted to go away, she's staying close, and she wants me to live and work by her side? It's gone from expecting no commitment to asking for a rather heavy commitment all at once.
I have a summer job lined up already, and the money I'd make would be extremely helpful in establishing my independence. If I stay and work here, she'll be an hour and a half's drive away.
If I go with her, the internship is unpaid, looks pretty interesting on a resume, and seems like it'd be far more enjoyable.
But then she tells me that she will still "probably" move to California when the summer is up so that it might just make "final separation all the more painful".
I adore her and I'm falling in love with her, but hell, I'm baffled, and this feels like a terrible trap.