[INFJ] will you like someone just bc you're lonely?

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    INTJ

    will you like someone just bc you're lonely?

    Even before i know their types, i can always peg infjs because i'm so fucking attracted to them (moth to light kind of thing). Earlier in the semester, i was introduced to this wonderful guy. made him take the test to prove myself right (infj). right off the bat, he started telling me about his depression and loneliness, and the more we've gotten to know each other, the more he's divulged. partly bc, like i said, i'm obsessed with you guys and dig it out of you any way i can. partly probably bc he's genuinely lonely. and he doesn't really understand what peole to try and be personal with, and what people not to. (he's slightly? autistic, self-admittedly)

    so how do you tell if an infj likes you or just likes not being lonely? how do i tell if he likes likes me, or likes the attention i give him?

    in person he's endearing and warm and gives me these ridiculous googly-eyes like we've been married two months, but he's only initiated hanging out once (at the beginning). i asked him if i scared him, bc of how intense i am, he said no, but he admitted that he's bad at distancing himself from new friends bc he's used to people doing that to him (so it's a defense mechanism, to fight that blinding infatuation).

    i could go on and on. i'm smitten. i adore him. he's warm, he's kind, i want to protect him, i want him to get to know me, i want to have his babies. ok but seriously i really like him.

    oh i almost forgot - he said he definitely wants to be friends, and he called me very pretty in spanish, and we're pretty sexually flirty

    edit 2 - and ive caught him staring at me, checking me out, and darting his gaze to my lips
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    INFJ - The Protectors

    I think if I tried to spend time with someone that I didn't really care about just because I was lonely, it would just end up making me feel even more lonely.

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    INFJ - The Protectors

    Well, for one- INFJs will not tell you anything personal unless they knew you very well.
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    INTJ

    Quote Originally Posted by Emerald Legend View Post
    Well, for one- INFJs will not tell you anything personal unless they knew you very well.
    and for two?
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    INFJ - The Protectors

    Quote Originally Posted by Eppi View Post
    and for two?
    Even if lonely most would not make the investment of getting to know someone because a lot of things are involved.
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    INTJ

    Quote Originally Posted by Emerald Legend View Post
    Even if lonely most would not make the investment of getting to know someone because a lot of things are involved.
    then what are the chances of him liking me romantically?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Eppi View Post
    and for two?
    This made laugh, a lot. The nerve. Ha.
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    INTJ

    Quote Originally Posted by WhoPutsTheirFaceOnABus View Post
    This made laugh, a lot. The nerve. Ha.
    Who do you think im not

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    Okay, well for starters... the guy who just brought pizza to my door.
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    INFJ

    Quote Originally Posted by Eppi View Post
    then what are the chances of him liking me romantically?
    Imma jump in here and say that no one here could know for certain. Too little info, and all that jazz. I can tell you for certain how you'll never find out, though, and that's if you don't allow yourself to have the courage to ask him and find out. Now when I say have the courage to do that, I don't mean prep yourself for if he says he doesn't, I mean to prep yourself for if he says he does. We humans get so damned used to the idea of rejection that sometimes the scariest thing we ever have to confront is the idea that something life changing and dramatic might actually work out how we want it to.
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