So I was thinking today, what would you INFJ types, be looking for in a close platonic friend relationship. This is theoretical, obviously. We can't walk around with clipboards all day and check things off with people as we meet them in day to day life. But, IF you could go shopping for a friend the way you pick apples at the market, what would be on your top 7 list? Also what is the big deal breaker for you?
I know I'm ENTP but it's my Curiosity with compatibility that has me asking this question.
Here is my top 7 list:
Similar Morality - can't get into stupid arguments with people if we both have similar maps
Reasonableness - if you can prove your point logically, then I might change my mind or at least see another point of view whether I ultimately agree or not
Humility - Goes along with the above, if you are wrong, apologize and move on, low drama is low hassle, low hassle=is low stress
Eccentricity - please be interesting, have interesting hobbies, original ideas, or at the very least, weird hobbies, or I will be bored into stupor. Be an uphill thinker. Life is very short, and I have a lot to learn and do, so I'm not just here for your entertainment. Go rent a movie if you want that.
Intelligence - demonstrated in expression, humour, and wit. In passionate discussions and intelligent actions.
Humour - please laugh if something is funny. Don't be a priss. No one likes a killjoy. If you're being funny, I will feed off that and our relationship will grow and thrive, platonically, obviously
Passion - Do you believe in something? Convince me. Be it by your work(s) or by your commitment, or by your sheer animated expressions. Show me you really believe that thing, or you will never convince anyone it is of any value whatsoever. Least of all me.
Dealbreaker - Intentional Selfish Deception and Duplicity - (aka disgusting)
I could forgive, but it would be difficult to trust again, or take a long time to anyway for me.