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This is a discussion on INFJ Refusing My Love via My Love Language within the INFJ Forum - The Protectors forums, part of the NF's Temperament Forum- The Dreamers category; Help! I need help with this love language thing INFJ's seem to speak so well, and intuitively comprehend. So I ...

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    ENTP - The Visionaries

    INFJ Refusing My Love via My Love Language

    Help! I need help with this love language thing INFJ's seem to speak so well, and intuitively comprehend. So I am at this giant picnic, sand everywhere flying about, and I brought a ton of food to feed everyone along with other people who were also contributing their cooking. So my INFJ crush walks by, and I offer him something to eat, and he says no thanks I'll have an apple. AFTER cooking for hours, so I could feed everyone, ESPECIALLY HIM, and he rejects my gracious offering. Now feeding people is my way to express love or my love language apparently, as I'm a Euro chick raised right. At least that's what I've been told by friends, since I am clueless about love languages. Was he rejecting my love, had something to eat and meant nothing offensive, or just not fond of that particular dish? Help me, I am somewhat neurotic right at the moment
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    INTP - The Thinkers

    We've had a couple love language threads in here, and giving/receiving gifts never seems to be anywhere near the top for INFJs. (My top two are Quality Time and Physical Touch.) I wouldn't read into it too far. Maybe he wasn't very hungry; maybe, as you say, he wasn't particularly fond of whatever dish you prepared. I sincerely doubt he was trying to slight you by refusing to eat your food, though. Chances are he never even saw it in that light.

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    It looks like something I would do. I don't usually accept gifts or food from people, maybe because I'm a bit shy when it comes to things like that.

    You definitely shouldn't take it in a bad way, maybe he was just oblivious to what you were trying to communicate.
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    INFJ - The Protectors

    As for your specific situation, I'm not sure what was going through your INFJ's head, but my guess is that it wasn't a rejection of love. Probably just didn't mean a lot to him, and maybe he wasn't hungry.

    As for the love languages thing, I encourage you to read "The Five Love Languages" by Dr. Gary Chapman if you can get your hands on it. It goes into each of the languages very deeply--and it helped my ENTP, who really didn't get it, understand it very well. :)
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    I agree with everyone else. Up until I turned 23 I would deny food or any kind of gift given to me from anyone. I was too shy to accept anything. Now I will accept anything given to me. But I wouldn't take his lack of acceptance of your food as an insult or rejection.
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    INFJ - The Protectors

    Lol maybe he just wasn't that hungry? Maybe he just wanted an apple? Idk maybe you OVER-analyzed it lol?

    Im just adding some perspective haha, honestly that's the first thought that came to mind. Hope it helps!
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    INFJ - The Protectors

    Lol, you're cute check_mate. Next time you have food ready for the INFJ, don't ask him if he wants it. Force it on him. Say " HERE INFJ! YOUR PLATE IS READY!" He may be shy, doesn't want people to view him stuffing his face or simply not hungry as already stated. He won't refuse an already prepared plate made for him and will probably be grateful because he wasn't in a position where he had to say "sure, feed me". If you want him, food is not the answer. Straight forward honesty is.
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    ENTP - The Visionaries

    Quote Originally Posted by Mav_ View Post
    Lol, you're cute check_mate. Next time you have food ready for the INFJ, don't ask him if he wants it. Force it on him. Say " HERE INFJ! YOUR PLATE IS READY!" He may be shy, doesn't want people to view him stuffing his face or simply not hungry as already stated. He won't refuse an already prepared plate made for him and will probably be grateful because he wasn't in a position where he had to say "sure, feed me". If you want him, food is not the answer. Straight forward honesty is.
    Okay, I get it. I'll be honest and straightforward, and there are times he will just have to go hungry....while I'm being honestly sincere.

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    ENTP - The Visionaries

    Quote Originally Posted by Mav_ View Post
    Lol, you're cute check_mate. Next time you have food ready for the INFJ, don't ask him if he wants it. Force it on him. Say " HERE INFJ! YOUR PLATE IS READY!" He may be shy, doesn't want people to view him stuffing his face or simply not hungry as already stated. He won't refuse an already prepared plate made for him and will probably be grateful because he wasn't in a position where he had to say "sure, feed me". If you want him, food is not the answer. Straight forward honesty is.
    I have no problem force feeding people. Correction, ........assertively feeding....people.

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    ENTP - The Visionaries

    Quote Originally Posted by DirtySmilez View Post
    Lol maybe he just wasn't that hungry? Maybe he just wanted an apple? Idk maybe you OVER-analyzed it lol?

    Im just adding some perspective haha, honestly that's the first thought that came to mind. Hope it helps!
    Honestly, I have just recently discovered I do not analyze things enough. So a big NO to that thought.


     
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