It's not an either/or. It's possible to be both/and. I strongly resonate with parts of both articles, although the latter is closer to the woman I aspire to be.
Just like MBTI, nothing is cut and dry, black or white. Personal experience and culture drives us to adapt and evolve over time. And it's not realistic to think your future partner will inherently know or care about these things, or even follow the advice of the writers... in my experience, those I have fallen for in the past do not care for these things. Maybe one day I'll find someone who does, but in the meantime, I'll be me.