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    Developing Te

    My INFP best friend wants to be more organized and I'm trying to think of what to tell her but failing.... alternately, an INFP 4w5 desperately wanting to integrate to 1.

    What have been your methods for, and experiences with developing your Te? Things like time management and organization and general level of motivation to get shit done.
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    ISFP

    Usually it comes with time. The inferior function is usually pretty chaotic until you get to your 30s or so.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kito View Post
    Usually it comes with time. The inferior function is usually pretty chaotic until you get to your 30s or so.
    I suppose, but if one keeps on with the same behaviour then time would be inconsequential :S

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    ISFP

    Quote Originally Posted by turmauge View Post
    I suppose, but if one keeps on with the same behaviour then time would be inconsequential :S
    Not necessarily. There's bound to be loads of INFPs out there who haven't even heard of typology, and would therefore be unaware of the functions or anything. And so they will continue acting the same way but they'll still develop their inferior function later on.

    I would just recommend doing what comes naturally, unless it's having disastrous consequences (in which case I'd suggest she reconsiders her situation).
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    Quote Originally Posted by Kito View Post
    Not necessarily. There's bound to be loads of INFPs out there who haven't even heard of typology, and would therefore be unaware of the functions or anything. And so they will continue acting the same way but they'll still develop their inferior function later on.

    I would just recommend doing what comes naturally, unless it's having disastrous consequences (in which case I'd suggest she reconsiders her situation).
    Well I guess it's just that I feel she's forcing herself to be more Te but I'm not sure if she's actually getting far with it. What comes naturally to her is being a mess lol.

    Incidentally she's the one who got me into MBTI in the first place.
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    When I have tried to develop Te, it usually turns out to be a pretty ugly affair because I get too focused on embracing all that is Te which of course is polar to Fi. I might be able create lists etc but something happened to me when I was too intent on the use of it, I started becoming a few things that started making me not feel like myself like getting way too critical, sort of robotic, thats at least how I felt and from this experience it seemed that Te had gripped me. Now im not saying to not get in touch with your inferior but I think some underestimate its usage or some of the consequences if not approached carefully. I do not know the best way to approach Te in a way that fits best with my character as an INFP and so all I can suggest is to think carefully how you are going to implement it into your life because its not normally a function that is going to be comfortable to use and with say the same grace as an ESTJ. Maybe speak to some ESTJ's or observe them, see how they use Te.
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    I think visual clues are a big help. I completely forget somethings, its not that I dont want to do these things. They just dont enter my mind. If my mum wants me to do something specific during the day she leaves a note on kitchen bench.
    For your friend she could get like one of those mini white boards with a white board marker so she can write what she needs to do the next day or what ever and see it when she wakes up.
    Something that she can write what needs to be done that's out in the open so she always notices it and goes oh yeah need to do that.

    As for motivation well I dont think most people are too disciplined when they're younger. Like being able to force yourself to do something even when you dont want to. Thats a bit harder to learn, well at the very least timely, but obligations and things one enjoys doing are good enough reasons to do something


    ALSO, as for the functions side of things. I've heard one theory that to have your inferior functions be better you need to focus on your primary and secondary. Use your strengths and it's like everything gets upgraded. It's like you're as strong as your strongest function.
    Ive also heard of people describing they can get tired by using one function the most, like stories of INFP's who use Fi and Ne a lot tend to use Te to relax. They do things like organizing their things at home and do puzzles.
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    ENFP - The Inspirers

    Two action oriented Te enhancers:
    1) Everything you can do within 5 minutes, try to do it now. Like payng online bills, put back clothes in the drawer, ...
    2) Bundle activities so you enhance efficiency e.g. when you lend a car from a friend to go to the mall, figure out what other stuff you can do too while having the car, like posting that letter, transport other stuff from A to B,...

    Hope this helps. Good luck!
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    INFJ

    - To do lists are amazing, especially if you have it handy with you all the time (to add and scribble things off).
    - Subsequently, don't give yourself too large a task and instead break it down into various smaller goals that you can do step by step.
    - Try to do it in the morning as a routine as it gives you a greater sense of accomplishment throughout the day.

    I find what helps kick start it for me is just cleaning and organizing things in my work/play area. What's especially helpful is if you take a long time to de-clutter (donate, recycle, re-locate, or throw away) possessions that have minimal personal value or may be of better use to someone else. Do this enough times and you evaluate everything you come across differently and organize it as so.
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    INFP - The Idealists


    Quote Originally Posted by turmauge View Post
    My INFP best friend wants to be more organized and I'm trying to think of what to tell her but failing.... alternately, an INFP 4w5 desperately wanting to integrate to 1.

    What have been your methods for, and experiences with developing your Te? Things like time management and organization and general level of motivation to get shit done.
    Emotional memory bank?
    Encourage her and praise her when she does something right ?

    Remember Fi leads Te. Fi > Te. Not Te > Fi.
    So, I used to be pretty disciplined, I follow my feelings for family and I work SO hard for them. I even apologised to my mother when I no longer could fulfill the action. I feel "guilt". Even now, I am also the same too. I apologise to companies if I cannot delivery something on time, or work on time etc. This is a kind of personal pride.

    Let her NOT buy more things. (Yes, we are frugal...)
    Yes, I agree with the point about recycling and reusing things. Cos INFP are almost ethical and sustainable, and think the wider picture. So.. always recycle. Always think about other people too, whilst she lives her life. My unwanted things, I wanted to donate or give to those who values it and it does add something to their life too.


    Time management. For me, I have a big picture in my head. It fails, when there is pressure and negative emotions ensue, but I always often hit the spot, when my motivation is high, and my mood is a happy one. So I MUST always be in a happy mood. Happy mood is either achieved for me, if I did something for someone and they show appreciation for it. I am happy if I delivered something for someone, without killing myself for it. I am also happy if someone took the time to care a little bit about me and "banter" through the day.

    Like, one example, this lady on the phone, we was indeed in a big pickle and I told her information and she said to me, that she wanted to kill somebody, and I said "no, we don't kill people in this company". I was leading her to the answers and to show her where things are. It helps her role. A LOT. So, this kind of funny and appreciative answers, is something I totally dig ! It is a case of "job well done". But you have to MEAN it, don't say it to humour me, cos you are macro-managing me. I hate this. I want genuineness from you and if I have helped you in any way.

    Fi > Te.... Fi > Te...

    The other way can work too. If I have a negative emotion, and someone offered help that would get me out of the situation, I am also grateful too. i.e. if I am upset that I could not do something, and if someone offered a little bit of help to encourage me along or to reduce my workload or whatever,... I am grateful. (OMG. I just had an eureka moment. :) Erm... anyway...)

    Yeh... that. lol. Sorry for the waffles.
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