@fmliminfp Alright, though i'm still curious. How much in-between time for the self will you take if you leave? And again have you explicitly told INTP you would leave him? And if/when you do, will you stick with him too until he found alternatives for him to find a hold-on or fulfilment. I mean the longer you stay with INTP (and leave him in the dark) and the more you get involved with INFJ, the more it seems like you will have a decent option B to distract your heart and mind with. Will you grand INTP time to process and redirect is heart and mind as well?