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This is a discussion on Avoidant Personality within the INFP Forum - The Idealists forums, part of the NF's Temperament Forum- The Dreamers category; Hi! I think... Or I know, that I have serious problem. Today was my first PE lesson at university. I ...

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    Avoidant Personality

    Hi!
    I think... Or I know, that I have serious problem.

    Today was my first PE lesson at university. I hate it already (I'm studing history and I want to leave studies and change it for geography or art) so I was pretty sad.

    I didn't eat anything for 2 days and I was pretty sad when I found my PE building. I came in and suddenly left. I couldn't stand so many people in there. I just left and run away to the nearest church, where I could sit (and cry) in silence.

    I just want so much to be more open for people, but I can't. I already screw up.
    I really don't know why am I so shy of people but I want so much to be with them.
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    Does your university offer counseling? That might help. PE sucks in general; I hated it in high school. Fortunately, in college I could take specific sports/activities like Tennis and hiking.

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    Hahaha we were just talking about sports during lunch. I told my closest person there that i hated PE ever since. Never liked it

    I did enjoy bowling for a time but only because we had a company wide competition and i didn't want to lose so i practiced

    I think if needed be id be motivated enough to engage in sports though getting high / good grades werent enough motivation for me. I lost my dean's list in college because i got 1.5 in my pe class i thought i would fail so when i got 1.5 i was happy haha (0 is fail, 1 is the minimum requirement to pass)


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    Quote Originally Posted by JaketheDog View Post
    Hi!
    I think... Or I know, that I have serious problem.

    Today was my first PE lesson at university. I hate it already (I'm studing history and I want to leave studies and change it for geography or art) so I was pretty sad.

    I didn't eat anything for 2 days and I was pretty sad when I found my PE building. I came in and suddenly left. I couldn't stand so many people in there. I just left and run away to the nearest church, where I could sit (and cry) in silence.

    I just want so much to be more open for people, but I can't. I already screw up.
    I really don't know why am I so shy of people but I want so much to be with them.
    Hi Jake :)

    Don't worry, we all make mistakes at times :) Life's a wonderful journey, in which we learn all sorts of skills and go on all types of adventures. It might be difficult for you to feel comfortable with other people, right now, but that's okay. Take little steps, and you'll look back at this and laugh someday.

    It might be worthwhile finding a counselor or therapist on campus. He or she will help give you the confidence to make these little steps. Don't worry or stress about it. We all have our internal difficulties, but we eventually learn how to deal with them.

    Sometimes, we feel anxiety over situations, because we feel hopeless or sad about something. Just remember, these moments are temporary, and you can conquer these problems. It might take awhile, and you might make a few mistakes here-and-there, but don't fret. We're all struggling in different ways, and in that way, we can relate :)

    Good luck my friend :) Keep on trying :)
    Last edited by dlb; 10-05-2017 at 12:40 AM.
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    Were you home-schooled? I have hard time imagining you would survive through previous stages of public education if problem is as severe as you are making it to be, unless problem became more severe.

    Assuming that you did survive through it, you can either to:
    a)Attempt to work around it and force yourself through it and then find a job with little social interaction living like a hermit. Although judging by your desire for social interactions, it would be hardly satisfactory solution for you.
    b)Another solution is to get diagnosed and find a therapist you will feel comfortable with and pursue therapy in order fix the problem.This is probably the best solution for you, assuming of course you can afford it.You can also try to talk with a school psychologist but I can't attest for their reliability, so someone with an experience may give you better advice in that regard.

    Good thing is that problem can be fixed so you will live (probably) if you decide upon proper treatment.

    I hated PE, preferred exorcising in my home

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    Quote Originally Posted by JaketheDog View Post
    Hi!
    I think... Or I know, that I have serious problem.

    Today was my first PE lesson at university. I hate it already (I'm studing history and I want to leave studies and change it for geography or art) so I was pretty sad.

    I didn't eat anything for 2 days and I was pretty sad when I found my PE building. I came in and suddenly left. I couldn't stand so many people in there. I just left and run away to the nearest church, where I could sit (and cry) in silence.

    I just want so much to be more open for people, but I can't. I already screw up.
    I really don't know why am I so shy of people but I want so much to be with them.
    It's hard man, but one day your gonna see a kid who doesn't fit it and finds it hard to get along and is scared and anxious just like you are and your gonna want to help that kid, so I say just treat people how you would want to be treated if you were scared and anxious and feeling awkward. That helps to get over the usual hump of meeting people.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lord Pixel View Post
    It's hard man, but one day your gonna see a kid who doesn't fit it and finds it hard to get along and is scared and anxious just like you are and your gonna want to help that kid, so I say just treat people how you would want to be treated if you were scared and anxious and feeling awkward. That helps to get over the usual hump of meeting people.
    Damnit, I just read this and though "Dang, I should do that." Loooool
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    Quote Originally Posted by NagatoUzumaki View Post
    Were you home-schooled? I have hard time imagining you would survive through previous stages of public education if problem is as severe as you are making it to be, unless problem became more severe.

    Assuming that you did survive through it, you can either to:
    a)Attempt to work around it and force yourself through it and then find a job with little social interaction living like a hermit. Although judging by your desire for social interactions, it would be hardly satisfactory solution for you.
    b)Another solution is to get diagnosed and find a therapist you will feel comfortable with and pursue therapy in order fix the problem.This is probably the best solution for you, assuming of course you can afford it.You can also try to talk with a school psychologist but I can't attest for their reliability, so someone with an experience may give you better advice in that regard.

    Good thing is that problem can be fixed so you will live (probably) if you decide upon proper treatment.

    I hated PE, preferred exorcising in my home
    I was in public school from the very beggining of education

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lord Pixel View Post
    It's hard man, but one day your gonna see a kid who doesn't fit it and finds it hard to get along and is scared and anxious just like you are and your gonna want to help that kid, so I say just treat people how you would want to be treated if you were scared and anxious and feeling awkward. That helps to get over the usual hump of meeting people.
    Yes, I think you helped a little... But sometimes, I just can't imagine that. It feels so awful inside. I hope I'll have enough brave to fight it anyway
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    Single interactions don't have to define entire relationships. Even if you're shy or awkward in one moment, you have the potential to have a better interaction in the next moment. So don't worry about screwing up. We're all screwing up all the time, and it's ok. There isn't a person alive who hasn't made mistakes in social environments.

    You just to remember that you're worth knowing and other people are worth knowing, and you have way more to gain from these experiences than you realize.

    I would challenge you to go to back to this class, even if it's scary. Because if you do, you'll see that you have the ability to get over your fears and the ability to experience that shyness and doubt, and still stand up to it.

    You already have courage. If you didn't, you wouldn't have opened yourself up to us at all. But you did. And that's half the battle right there.
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