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This is a discussion on My Best Friend Betrayed Me {Advice please?} within the INFP Forum - The Idealists forums, part of the NF's Temperament Forum- The Dreamers category; Why was she your best friend? Sounds to me like you should take this golden opportunity and say good riddens. ...

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    Why was she your best friend? Sounds to me like you should take this golden opportunity and say good riddens.

    P.s. if you do she will probably realize that she has lost all control over you and try to regain your friendship (in order to regain control). Verbally kick her in the shins and leave it at that. She had her chance, she dun messed up, and unless she realizes her part in the situation she isn’t going to be worth having around. She is a toxic friend and you aren’t doing ether of you favors by putting up with that crap.
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    Quote Originally Posted by KasKas19 View Post
    Despite her terrible qualities, she had a few good ones, as does everyone.

    I wholeheartedly agree. It is really hard for me to make friends though. I know of a lot of people at my school and they are all two-faced. Something about my school just screams "Immaturity".

    I have been alone, more than I used to now. I think it is generally a good thing. I am learning to embrace being alone more. I am learning to be more independent instead of relying on others for my happiness. It is very hard, and
    I'm still not used to it, but I know I will get some good out of it I believe.

    The only thing bothering me is that she is going to be talking bad about me to people and making her seem like a good person. I hate that she feels like she has the upperhand.

    Thank you, Charly!
    Hey @KasKas19 , happy to help :)

    I know making new friends is hard, right now at my 30's I'm facing the same problem. But as you said being alone have a positive side, "it helps to embrace ourself and make us independent of others", thi is something extroverts struggle. So, what I'm doing to face the problem? well, I'm working on myself, Why? because if I enjoy and feel proud of myself, that peace of mind can transmit good energy to others. You said before people used to tell that you look angry(same happen to me), in certain way thats the energy you transmit even when you are not angry, in the same way if you work on yourself and get peace of mind about yourself you can transmit that good vibes. Note: When I say "energy or vibes", I'm talking about emotions, not about that crappy metaphysics theories

    You might be wondering how are you working on youself?, this is the hard part, being out of my INFP bubble. We INFP have a lot of good traits, but there are others which aren't and doesn't work well on the world that we live, I know is sad, but thats the reality. I'm working on being disciplined, organized, goal-oriented, less daydreamer more doer, less idealistic more realistic, less perfectionist more imperfectionist. This doesn't mean that I'm trying to be another person, I'm just leveraging my weak sides. My core values are still intact, I still daydream but much less than before because now I understand that "do" is more important. If you leverage you weaknesess you will feel proud of your self and then that energy will be transmited naturally to others, because you will feel confident about yourself.

    About she: Don't think too much about how others perceive you, again focus on your introversion and work on yourself first, If you like yourself first, then the opinion of others about you won't be important for you.

    I know many things I wrote might sound cheesy, and even when I'm using words like "vibes" "energy", try to read it in the most rational way, you will find a lot of sense.

    For you and anyother facing the same problem, I wish you success in your journey ;)

    Charly The Rabbit

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jonneh View Post
    Why was she your best friend? Sounds to me like you should take this golden opportunity and say good riddens.

    P.s. if you do she will probably realize that she has lost all control over you and try to regain your friendship (in order to regain control). Verbally kick her in the shins and leave it at that. She had her chance, she dun messed up, and unless she realizes her part in the situation she isn’t going to be worth having around. She is a toxic friend and you aren’t doing ether of you favors by putting up with that crap.
    You are so right! Thank you!

  4. #24

    Quote Originally Posted by Charly The Rabbit View Post
    Hey @KasKas19 , happy to help :)

    I know making new friends is hard, right now at my 30's I'm facing the same problem. But as you said being alone have a positive side, "it helps to embrace ourself and make us independent of others", thi is something extroverts struggle. So, what I'm doing to face the problem? well, I'm working on myself, Why? because if I enjoy and feel proud of myself, that peace of mind can transmit good energy to others. You said before people used to tell that you look angry(same happen to me), in certain way thats the energy you transmit even when you are not angry, in the same way if you work on yourself and get peace of mind about yourself you can transmit that good vibes. Note: When I say "energy or vibes", I'm talking about emotions, not about that crappy metaphysics theories

    You might be wondering how are you working on youself?, this is the hard part, being out of my INFP bubble. We INFP have a lot of good traits, but there are others which aren't and doesn't work well on the world that we live, I know is sad, but thats the reality. I'm working on being disciplined, organized, goal-oriented, less daydreamer more doer, less idealistic more realistic, less perfectionist more imperfectionist. This doesn't mean that I'm trying to be another person, I'm just leveraging my weak sides. My core values are still intact, I still daydream but much less than before because now I understand that "do" is more important. If you leverage you weaknesess you will feel proud of your self and then that energy will be transmited naturally to others, because you will feel confident about yourself.

    About she: Don't think too much about how others perceive you, again focus on your introversion and work on yourself first, If you like yourself first, then the opinion of others about you won't be important for you.

    I know many things I wrote might sound cheesy, and even when I'm using words like "vibes" "energy", try to read it in the most rational way, you will find a lot of sense.

    For you and anyother facing the same problem, I wish you success in your journey ;)

    Charly The Rabbit
    You've helped a lot! I will definitley be doing that! Thank you for the adice and supporting me! It is much appreciated!
    Charly The Rabbit thanked this post.


     
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