I've been going out with an INFP for a long time. We were both pretty clueless to the MBTI assessment until recently (2-3 months ago). I just need some advice on how to make him feel better about himself and about life. I'll give some example of how he is some days. He gets into very deep moods and has unreasonable expectations of himself and others, it's not just me that thinks it because he will admit to being unreasonable. He focuses on every little detail which ends up getting himself frustrated. He starts to question everything (life, job, relationship, where he lives) when he gets in these types of moods. For years i've tried different things to cheer him up. It bothers me that i'm not able to do/say the right things. I just want him to be happy. If he was fine with being in those moods I wouldn't worry or be concerned, but he's said many times he wishes he wasn't that way. He gets really frustrated in these moods and feels like he wants to just give up on things. I know i've repeated "frustrated" a lot, but that seems to be his biggest problem. He gets soooo frustrated and wants to give up. When he took a few tests and read the results he said "this is totally me!!!!!!" I read it myself and was pretty in shock. The thing is, after he read it, he said he wishes he wasn't like that at all. He says because of his personality life has been hard, especially when it comes to his job and how he focuses on detail to the extreme.
A lot of my family and friends have told me for a long time now to start seeing other people. Not only because of his moods and other issues, but a few other big incidents in our relationship on his behalf. I truly love him, the person he is, flaws and all. Afterall, nobody is "perfect". Our relationship can get pretty rocky when he gets into his moods and I just want to try things I haven't already to make it better.
I would love to hear from the INFP's on what they do to get themselves out of that frustrated/question everything mood? What kinds of things do people do that help? I noticed some INFP's on here saying "growing up my mom knew just the thing that would help". What has your husband/wife bf/gf done that has helped? Is it just a matter of time for you to feel better? Does reading help? Music?
I would also love the hear from people that have experience with INFP's. What have you said/done that works?