This is a discussion on INFP Fashion within the INFP Forum - The Idealists forums, part of the NF's Temperament Forum- The Dreamers category; Originally Posted by katierose since i'm constantly broke i wear what i can find in a second hand store or ...
My actual style is completely different than what I actually wear.
I've never liked my weight, and I always feel perpetually broke even though I have an okay job, so I usually rotate the same clothes that I've had forever that hide my "unfortunate blobs" and try to rearrange or pair them with other things to look new. Most people think I'm just a jeans and t shirt person.
What I wish I could wear though is bohemian tomboy. Flowy and natural but also casual, minimalist, maybe even a little masculine sometimes. I see style as something that reflects a person's personality and feelings, I see what a person is wearing as a hint at who they are and usually start conversations off of it. That's what I love about fashion, seeing how everyone is different, how everyone could wear the same dress multiple different ways, how the same color looks different on varying skin tones. I would love to wear overalls and graphic tees, blazers and shorts, harem pants with tight tank tops or loose fitting tees, peasant shirts or muscle shirts, leather jackets and army boots, flowing cotton dresses or crisp v-neck blouses, flannel or something off the shoulder. I love lace and comfort and experimenting with how two patterns, textures, or colors can work together to tell a story. I'm drawn to earthy colors and rich jewel tones, flower crowns and bandanas, and delicate, simple accessories that remind me of nature or a fandom.
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When I'm at home I wear pajamas because their comfy and I feel relaxed wearing them all day. If I'm hanging out with a friend, I usually wear something casual. Pants and something comfortable fitting. Lately I've been loving the bohemian style and I love wearing other shirts that I find at thrift stores that speak to me. If I'm wearing a dress ever I make sure I try it on first before I purchase it. I hate clothes that are super tight on me. Love being comfortable in what I'm wearing. When I'm at my house however I put on a t-shirt and comfy lounge pants or pajamas. When it gets cold outside, I put on a hoodie. My favorite hoodie: It's gray with floral roses on the sleeves.
The real trick to reinventing your style like this is that it has little to do with your weight or your disposable income and a lot more to do with your confidence. (Even as a guy, I am still learning this.) Anything you can do in this direction to help you learn to "own it," to walk around like "**** what the rest of the world thinks"--despite the fact that it actually does matter, you want to portray that you're not concerned with it--every tiny step in that direction builds confidence that helps you pull it off more the next time.
It's easier said than done. But grabbing even a couple of intriguing items from a thrift store and figuring out how you can feel comfortable wearing them would be a great step toward developing this confidence.
Again, I'm hardly speaking as someone who's solved the riddle of INFPness... but I do know that even a small "daring" step just feels sooooo empowering.
Do it! It'll look great.
fashewn? wtf is that?
Like I said in some other thread about fashion, I do like the idea of it. However what I have in mind and what lines up with reality doesn't usually match up. There's a part of me that genuinely doesn't care what I wear or how I look. I often step out of the house to make short errands with my hair sticking out all over the place, in run down clothes. (Not to say that I don't feel a little self conscious about what people may say. I just don't care what I wear, clothes are clothes.) Then there's another part of me that wants to reach the fashion level of "normalcy" ( I don't need to look like a fashion diva, I just want to look like "them." I often feel like an outsider or that something is wrong with me for failing to reach a level that seems to be common for quite a lot of people. I just want to belong. Then there's the part of me that likes floral tropical patterns that remind me of the sea, or sunsets or flowers or anything that relates to my island, edgy stuff, tribal stuff, eclectic pieces of jewelry, simplistic yet unusual appeals to me. I love plain t-shirts and sarcasm t-shirts with jeans. Then there's that other part of me that wants to look elegant and aristocratic and somewhat like a snooty librarian (Imagine the "looks" alpaca/llama from the bank and Nana in Sing.) Kinda got that down a little already thanks to my mom, she had a look made you question yourself. It was like you could hear the unspoken "you can't be serious or I disapprove." and my siblings and I all inherited it to differing degrees. I love my mom.) Anyway sorry for straying. I like neutral and bold colors and reserved lady-like styles. I've been called "granny" because of my taste.
anything that's telling a story, offering a dream, selling a vision.
- long skirts and dresses with pockets!
- open backs
- geometry motives
- mostly black and grey, if colors then toned down, never too flashy and bright
- lace, leather, satin, combining heavy and light materials; zippers, a chain-or-two
- styles: military, brutalist; always mixing styles but never too floral or too "girly". never straight sporty or straight elegant, i like having a detail or two that doesn't match so it breaks the dominant theme
- make-up always the 50's film noir style. eyebrows are important,eyeliners, long lashes, natural but enchanced. no lipstick though
- too cheap looking jewelry.
- leather jackets that have cotton hoodies and wrist-length sleeves. that's just ridiculous
- the new summer fashion of sandals that look like kids' sandals, with lots of fluffy "pendants" hanging
- checked motives (which are awesome for mountaneering and...mountaneering)
- the summer sandals that have strings to tie high up the legs so your legs look like sausages
- converse all star. i just find it absurd how they make the foot looking too long and narrow (especially on guys, wtf) like rabbit feet! i respect the brand and philosophy but they are so ugly to me.
- uggs boots (outdoor slippers!)
a few photos (if i was rich lol)
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i can't stop i have to show you more :D
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i know these are all very expensive and out of reach for mortals, but they can be reconstructed and the message, the statement they send can be done in details and with some effort.
i don't understand when women settle for looking average, dressing average, put no emotion in it or as if they're scared of looking too good, too much. the dress is only 50% of the look, other 50% is attitude that completes it. can make it better or worse.
even a completely sportish look can be extraordinary if don't go with "this will do" attitude.
tbh I only really dress in average kinda clothes; jeans, blank t shirts, hoodies and trainers, though I am starting to gain interest in fashion. I like a lot of the small independent garms businesses that are about lately.