Get along with: None. Crash with: None, really
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Get along with: None. Crash with: None, really
I crash with sensors because they don't get me at all! They look too much into the superficial of things. They rely too much on what their senses are telling them without even trying to dig deeper. Unfortunately most of the population are sensors, and i really, really struggle when im with them
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Truthfully, I "get along" with everyone for the most part. Mainly because I am pretty reserved so there aren't opportunities to bump heads anyway So I'll just mark down the notable ones.
used the same marking system as OP:
( * Get along with ) ( *? Maybe / unsure ) ( - Personality clash ) ( ~ indifferent )
aaaaand I apologize for the lengthy descriptions...
ISTJ, ISFJ, ESTJ, ENTJ~
Probably have met some, but none confirmed so I dunno !
My closest friend is an INFJ. We definitely get along and, for the most part, "get" each other. We have a lot of similar interests and opinions. BUT where we clash is, she is more assertive with her opinions than I am. Meaning, if she likes something, it's "good", and if she doesn't it's "bad". Generally, everything is more fluid to me and she likes definitions. But we're EXTREMELY similar and have similar goals/interests/hobbies, we just go about things in different ways. It's hard to explain haha
& my momma bear also tested as an INFJ. I get along with her as well, and it's pretty much the same as with my INFJ friend where we clash on the way we present our opinions. when I visit home, we always watch movies together for hours. and she's very accepting and supportive, but can be highly critical (ofc because she's my mom so she would be, but my friend is the same way. where it's like "i love you and i want you to do what makes you happy bUT YOU BETTER DO IT RIGHT") and I swear she's psychic ......it's scary
One of my roommates/friends (best friend's boyfriend) is an INTJ. We are similar in a lot of ways like... hours spent in online forums and hours spent gaming. But we definitely clash in theoretical discussions. Everything he says is very "final" and I am all about open-ended discussions lol.
Hmm......it's a tough call. The only ISTP I've met was VERY unhealthy. I don't think it'd be fair to draw a conclusion based on them
I got along pretty well with ISFPs, in my experience!
I've only met one confirmed INFP irl, one of my college friends who graduated last year, but we definitely got along!!
I almost always get along with INTPs. The only type I don't tire out with my tangential and often aimless way of conversing lol. And we generally have a similar ideology where theoretical possibilities are "endless" and an interest in alternatives.
The only clash I maybe noticed with them was with my younger brother who is an INTP. sometimes I say things without "refining" them first, so my thoughts might not be said in the most succinct, logically sound way. His philosophy is kind of like "you should only make a claim if there can be no more questions in response to it". he hates when people fail to acknowledge the possibilities, even just for a second. of course that's slightly exaggerated but yeah idk if that's an INTP thing or just a him thing though LOL.
My other best friend is an ESTP. We are......EXTREMELY different from each other lol. She has a very wide circle of friends, which I'm somewhat a part of, but am very much on the outskirts of. But, we benefit each other in many ways. She brings me out of my shell and grounds me when I'm overthinking things. On the other hand, I keep her from making some rash decisions and am someone she can confide in about things she doesn't like to think or talk about. She's also very generous, and I'm like... really stingy lol. And even though our values are very different, we learn a lot from each other. She is so uninhibited and blunt, it reminds me that I DO sometimes need to stick up for myself/speak my mind haha.
My most recent ex tested as ESFP. I'm not 100% sure that's his type bc his F and P were slight preferences if I remember correctly but yeah. We definitely got along, and brought out good things in each other. Like he made me more confident, and I took him seriously (an ESFP can very easily be treated as a "clown" by people around them bc of how carefree and "entertaining" they are). His Fi made us agree on a lot of social issues, so that was good. But, he was kinda...idk the right word without it sounding negative. Needy I guess? Dating me is like having a pet fish...you LITERALLY just have to remember to feed me. but he needed more communication and affection (without having to prompt me to do so LOL) and I'm still working on that department lol
I think this is a type I'd get along well with in friendships (because we'd complement each other, and it wouldn't be as "personal" if there wasn't enough affection) but in relationships...I'm not sure.
A lot of my favorite celebrities are ENFPs. Like the kpop idol Jung Eunji... 10/10 would be best friends with!!!
And an ex from high school was an ENFP, we were good friends before dating and we still get along well/silently support each other. Definitely better as friends. But we were always having goofy conversations, writing poetry for each other, and we had the strangest nicknames for each other. I like ENFPs because of how similar we are, but that they bring me out of my shell and REALLY get me in touch with my goofy side. They seem to really complement INFPs well, at least for me they do. Like, just the dynamic of having the same 2 main functions, but swapped in order... it's like a creative explosion LOL.
We generally get along, I think my question mark here is....I feel like...though I like them, it's possible they don't like me. ya know? Also, I find it hard to match their energy, I'm not sure why (it could just be the ENTPs I've met, in theory the type sounds like one I'd really like)
ESFJ* but some -
One of my older sisters and my Dad is ESFJ ! We get along typically, but there are definitely clashes. One is how much they care about conventions, and how little I do. That and their focus on routines and WORK. omg. My sister truly goes to the gym every day and she's always been a star student (tbh the only one out of my siblings). And my dad is a workaholic to the nth degree lol. They're both inherently dutiful and where we clash is that I prioritize well-being, and they prioritize productivity
ENFJ*, some -
In my experience, I get along with them well. My other older sister and other younger brother (yes i have a big family lol) are both ENFJs. We are all very much "dreamers" even if it's stereotypical for our types haha. The only clash, I'd say, is again with the social conventions and that in comparison to them I am LAAAAAAZY and I often can't match the energy they have. We do clash, but I think slightly less than with my ESFJ sister and dad. (don't get me wrong though, I'm very close with my whole family lol)
I actually clash easily with everyeone. On the internet, i definitely clash with thinkers, mostly because i invade their territory, and challenge them, and than they attack me on logical inconsistencies and i have no idea what they're talking about.
In real-life: xSFP seems to be a type i clash often with. I also clash a lot with xNFP's. For some reason it's fire against fire. (Fi vs Fi). In general i like Fe-users more, since they're more comforting, and relax me. It balances my Fi out. Fi-users however attract me sexually, just like having Se or Ne is also a pro (I seem to like Se more, but than get annoyed if they are reluctant to try out new experiences ).
Many of my friends are xSTP's, and i surpringsly get along with them. It seems like they're more accepting of me than demanding SJ's or usually busy NF's. I think Se causes them also to be more approachable, and they have at least to do something together. Other types never have time.
I seem to clash / not like ISFJ's as well. Their inferior Ne annoys me A LOT. I however like ESFJ's a lot, and they could easily be one of the types i like the most.
I have typed 12 people in my inner circle so far, and only one of them is an xNxx - an INTJ probably, and is active in the Communist Party (he even encouraged me to join it, but I knew him already four or five years ago). When i went to college, i always attracted NT's, most likely INTP and also INTJ, but it's such a long time ago, that i would have trouble typing them accurately, and they're also not always a match made in heaven. I think i also knew a lot of ISTP people on college. ISTP, INTJ and INTP seem to be the types i attract the most.
I haven't met a lot of INFJ's and ENFJ's, that's clear. I might push them away, or i might be unapproachable for them or not interesting. ENTP seems to be a type i can't absolutely stand out. I typed a lot of bullies as ENTP's and they were indeed usually known as being popular and humorous. I even dislike ENTP's on the forums to a higher extent. They just like to make me into a scapegoat. I actually have to admit that i found my bullies hilarious, but they're not really people i'd respect and ofc. assholes in general. Even ENTP's that didn't bully me were usually people i disliked. I can't remember an ENTP i liked, and i can tell for certain, i probably met a lot of ENTP's in my life, and i've disliked them all
Types i get along with best: ISTP, INTJ and ESFJ, followed by ESTP and INTP
Types i get least along with: ENTP and ISFJ (though they mean it well, but it just doesn't fit) followed by ENFP and ISTJ.
I don't have experiences with many types, but my best friend is an INTJ, and it's really odd how we're so different and yet share so much of our peronalities... We have the same sense of humor, we both are a bit shy to talk about feelings, we both are smart but procrastinate way too much to achieve what we aim for... The diffrence though is that he will be relentless sometimes, pushing an argument despite the other person clearly having enough of him, and he will often tease others. I, on the other hand, try my best not to offend anyone, and if I do, I apologize and back away from any further discussion. Sometimes he'll also be very surprised to hear from me the things that to me are obvious, but not so much for him, and that's mostly when we're talking about interpersonal relationships. Still, best pal I've had, would recommend an INTJ.
Add ESTJ to the ones i don't get along with.
But good to hear that the general consensus is "yes"! I'm sure it's the same on the INFP side^^ I think why I felt like I bothered ENTPs is because I speak very...flowery? but we've always gotten along otherwise, and ENTPs definitely challenge me in a good way
our differences are a-ok lol
I will stand against authoritive alpha wannabe types which never had the character int eh first place to be one.