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    INFP : What types do you get along with and which ones you crash with ?

    I've already made a thread similar to his one for everyone https://personalitycafe.com/myers-bri...xperience.html
    but since I'm an INFP , I was just curious what other INFPs prospective was.


    Here's my list again.

    So what types do you get along with and which ones don't you get alone with , and even ones your indifferent of. According to your own personal life experience ?

    I'll start. And again , just my life experience so far. ( Might include assumptions but I'm just going off my experience )

    ( * Get along with ) ( *? Maybe / unsure ) ( - Personality clash ) ( ~ indifferent )

    INFP *: That would be my type. I have been another INFP who seemed more quieter than me but we warmed up quick.
    Dare I say that everyone's favorite type is going to be their own ? lol :P Whenever I read about the INFP , most of the time it's like looking in the mirror. DARN , this MBTI stuff is accurate.

    ENFP * : Meet a couple of ENFPs and they are like INFPs and the energy of an ENTP. As an introvert myself sometimes socializing would wear me out but it's a good warn out like a fun vacation. I think my partner is ENFP so I need to get used to learning more about them. I used to think I was ENFP and my INFP friend thought I was an ENFP. lol Nah , I'm an INFP.

    ENTP * : I think I had a science teacher who was an ENTP. He was absolutely hilarious. Many of my favorite comedy people are ENTPs. Plus I think I know of a friend who might be ENTP. Sure , lots of fun. I never really hung out with them for a long time personally but they seem like fun. Though I do worry about personally clashes but they seem awesome.

    ENTJ / INTJ / INFJ *?: I've read great inspirational things written by these types however I'm not sure what it's like to hang out with these types. I wonder if the J would trigger me , I don't know.

    ENFJ*? : Still not familiar with this type. I'm not sure if I ever meet anyone with this type. Maybe a nice teacher I had during school.

    INTP*: I have an INTP and hung out with him. As long as we talk about our like minded interests , it's cool. Usually something iNtuitive but if I start to become too Fi that might be annoying to him , I don't know. lol :P

    ISTJ / ESTJ - : NO ! I'll level with you. As an INFP in a situation I just want things to be as harmonious as possible. Sure I'm respectful , but yeah then I go off and write something like this. You don't know what's going on in my head ( unless you can relate to my type lol )

    ISFJ - : NO ! Slightly more tolerant and less afraid of. More irritated with sarcasm and rude remarks going on in my head. lol

    ESFJ - : My mother. lol

    ISFP / ESFP ~ & *? : I have a best friend who's that. I could maybe get along with them but something about the S. Whenever I'm talking intuitive stuff , it's BORING. They are great activity friends. You got a fun event , invite them. :)

    ESTP / ISTP - : I got bullied many times by these types. And I know I've meet many in my lifetime. Really they must be a majority type. To me and just from my experience , these are types who clearly have been arrested before for something. They are like a street fighter kind. They kind of scare me and make me feel uncomfortable. Just bad experiences I suppose. I might have meet a couple of life ones in my lifetime but as far as I know they went down hill.
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    It's easier to say that I clash with everyone on the planet xD
    Including my own self xD
    But ofc we all do.

    I can get along with everyone on a surface level, I make it work, no problem. Things get tricky with individuals if things get relatively deep.

    The type I clash with the most ime, when going "deeper", is INFJs. ISFJs too. I keep things superficial with them because I know that if we go past a certain point there will be drama, and nobody wants that, not me and not them.

    The ones I get along with the most, generally, are INFPs, unsurprisingly. Which doesn't mean that there aren't INFPs that I can't stand and who can't stand me. That's normal. But speaking generally.

    Everyone else, there's good stuff and frustrating stuff and angry stuff and lovely stuff, typical. Instead of saying I get along with this or that, I'd rather speak of types with whom I generally prefer to work with when we clash, like the shit sandwich I prefer to eat xD
    I enjoy working through my issues with INFPs, ENFPs, ENTPs, INTPs and ENTJs, it's not easy but it's worth my time and energy, for some reason, well maybe the reason is that so far I have found progress between us, and if there's progress there's life.
    I don't enjoy working through my issues with ESFPs, INFJs, ISFJs, INTJs, ISFPs, because I feel that our differences are irreconciliable, and that I can't talk to them, so I just play along and keep the harmony. Needless to say, I don't find that my relationships with these types have depth.

    I don't have enough experience with other types to talk about those.

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    Quote Originally Posted by entheos View Post
    It's easier to say that I clash with everyone on the planet xD
    Including my own self xD
    But ofc we all do.

    I can get along with everyone on a surface level, I make it work, no problem. Things get tricky with individuals if things get relatively deep.

    The type I clash with the most ime, when going "deeper", is INFJs. ISFJs too. I keep things superficial with them because I know that if we go past a certain point there will be drama, and nobody wants that, not me and not them.

    The ones I get along with the most, generally, are INFPs, unsurprisingly. Which doesn't mean that there aren't INFPs that I can't stand and who can't stand me. That's normal. But speaking generally.

    Everyone else, there's good stuff and frustrating stuff and angry stuff and lovely stuff, typical. Instead of saying I get along with this or that, I'd rather speak of types with whom I generally prefer to work with when we clash, like the shit sandwich I prefer to eat xD
    I enjoy working through my issues with INFPs, ENFPs, ENTPs, INTPs and ENTJs, it's not easy but it's worth my time and energy, for some reason, well maybe the reason is that so far I have found progress between us, and if there's progress there's life.
    I don't enjoy working through my issues with ESFPs, INFJs, ISFJs, INTJs, ISFPs, because I feel that our differences are irreconciliable, and that I can't talk to them, so I just play along and keep the harmony. Needless to say, I don't find that my relationships with these types have depth.

    I don't have enough experience with other types to talk about those.
    Tell me about INFJs. I don't think I ever hung out with one before. What's the differences between the two ?
    And how come you can get along with an ENTJ instead of an INTJ ? Is there something that feels more comfortable to talk to than the other ?
    From my experience , I knew an INTP who was helping me out with something but I think it was him seeing if his method approach of solving problems mentally was going to work more than the issue with me on a feeling level. But that's just my take on it. INTPs like talking about stuff but don't necessarily like anything relating to heavy emotion unless it's intuitive and intellectual in discussion. I don't know if that's the same with most NT types ? They are problem solvers but not emotional nurturing types. But then again I could be wrong.
    I have an ISFP friend which I feel the same way. SFPs to me are like activity friends more than conversation friends.

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    This was a great thread: INFP-INFJ Reading other people

    In it, people (me included) discuss our 'problems' with INFJs, and INFJs their problems with us.

    1 And how come you can get along with an ENTJ instead of an INTJ ? 2 Is there something that feels more comfortable to talk to than the other ?
    2. Nope, I'm never comfortable talking about conflicts with anyone xD But ime I've never had an ENTJ put up a wall, or say "talk to the hand" (metaphorically), whereas INTJs have done that constantly. And it's surprising because my relations with ENTJs have been completely superficial, they exist in my orbit (friends of friends) and they don't have to give me the time of day cause we have no bond of any kind. So the fact that they would pay attention to me, a mere mortal in the orbit, is really nice. My relations with INTJs have been deep deep deep, but if whenever there was a conflict they would completely shut down, say "talk to the hand" and bury their head in the ground like an ostrich hoping that things get resolved with magic.

    1. I believe it's the E/I, simple, not congnitive functions. Remember, these are just my personal conclusions, not some scientific theory-thingy xD ime the extroversion in ENTJs makes them people-oriented, they're in touch with their surroundings, so me a human goes up to them and talks and they actually look at you, process you in real time, and they talk, and react to your presence. INTJs have no interest in people, people are like a burden to them, they live in their head and whenever I talk to them about anything non-happy they don't look at me, they're like Shooo shooo don't disturb my inner peace. It's like they have this veil over their face that separates them from the world, and they love this veil. Whenever they told me they loved me, those are only words coming from a badly-processed inner state (imo), their behavior has told me this ---> I love you only if you're happy and hyper and make me feel good, I want you in a great mood 24/7, don't be human, just make me feel good; if you're feeling off, shooo shooo go away, don't disturb me, and come back when you feel hyper again so I can feed off this happiness that is beneficial to me.

    So whenever there's been conflict between INTJs and I, it's never been resolved.
    On the other side, 100% of conflicts with ENTJs have been resolved because they never ShoooShoooo'ed me, they were like "Oh..." *interested in human* And they don't have to do that because, like I said, we're not even friends, just acquaintances. I imagine that if we were actually friends, they would continue to be interested.
    Ofc I've encountered ENTJ acquaintances who were jerks, but guess what, they didn't dismiss me either when in conflict, they pushed for conversation xD And I was like No no no I don't deal with this kind of offensive language, go away until you can talk rspectfully, and they wouldn't go away! They'd keep pushing for conversation until I got to that point of uuuggghhh leave me alone! And even in those anxiety-inducing situations, I prefer someone who talks and expresses stuff, than someone who is a mute and secretive (INTJs).

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    Quote Originally Posted by entheos View Post
    Ofc I've encountered ENTJ acquaintances who were jerks, but guess what, they didn't dismiss me either when in conflict, they pushed for conversation xD And I was like No no no I don't deal with this kind of offensive language, go away until you can talk rspectfully, and they wouldn't go away! They'd keep pushing for conversation until I got to that point of uuuggghhh leave me alone! And even in those anxiety-inducing situations, I prefer someone who talks and expresses stuff, than someone who is a mute and secretive (INTJs).
    What... it's a good plan! Lol... what are the alternatives?!

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    1 From my experience , I knew an INTP who was helping me out with something but I think it was him seeing if his method approach of solving problems mentally was going to work more than the issue with me on a feeling level. But that's just my take on it. INTPs like talking about stuff but don't necessarily like anything relating to heavy emotion unless it's intuitive and intellectual in discussion. 2 I don't know if that's the same with most NT types ?
    1. Oh yes! That's been my experience with INTPs as well. I got the impression that they were psychoanalysing me, which made me feel... too vulnerable, and like they were judging me, I hated the feelings it gave me. But!!! they weren't actually judging me, imo, I'm pretty sure it was a projection I was making, from feeling vulnerable.
    When I'm not taking it personally, I enjoyed seeing their mental concoctions, just for fun.
    There's definitely been a lack of empathy from INTPs, which made me retreat and stop telling them about my emotional stuff. However, there's 1 who is... weird, lol. I can't figure him out. He's empathetic (so far) and really good with words of comfort, and the thing is that while those words sound good, they don't actually affect/comfort me, it's super weird. He sounds robotic, like he's telling me what he thinks I want to hear, and I don't know how to respond to that. Typical Fi/Fe "you are fake" dilemma. But since I appreciate his effort, this has brought us closer.
    Same thing with ENTPs. Their Fe irritates me, cause they tell me what they think I want to hear, and sometimes that's comforting and sometimes it isn't. It's comforting when they express a value that I hold, for example:
    Months ago I had one of those aggressive job interviews (you can google them, it's a style of interview that has become popular in recent years, they test your ability to perform under high pressure) and the interviewer was insulting me, bullying me, really hardcore stuff. ENTP in my family prior to the interview was like "You have to do everything in your power to get the job! Be a sneaky snake, do what it takes", post-interview I told him how it was, the language they used, how they treated me, etc, and I was recounting it in a "They couldn't take me down, HA! I stood my ground!" and ENTP didn't care about my good performance, he got caught up in the bullying part, made him furious and screamed at me "I'm going to go there and punch them in the face, that is disgusting! You are NOT taking that job, don't you dare go there ever again!"
    Later on I got a job where my boss was an ENTP, and he was going through interviewing new peope and I told him about the agressive style interview, that's very popular now, and I told him how they put me through it, I explained it very Te, very factually "They do X, and the reasons are they're testing performance under high pressure, the results wanted are XYZ..." and ENTP boss wouldn't even let me finish, he screamed "That is disgusting! Who the f*** would do that! And they did that to you??? You went thru that shit? I'm glad you ended up with us, not with that scum. People who think that's okay are only scum of the earth" and I was like... Oh wow... okay...
    So one minute the ENTP creature is saying "I will do anything to get what I want, I'll be a sneaky snake, I'll kiss ass" and the next second a button gets pushed and they're like "I won't do that shit! No matter how many trophies I get, that's scum of the earth" lol

    And about emotional stuff. I can't speak about all NTs, cause I don't know. Older ENTPs are surprisingly sensitive. And they're people pleasers; if you're not pleased, they feel bad that they can't please you and they overthink and worry, get really invested in the emotional side, at least ime

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    Quote Originally Posted by HotDogg View Post
    What... it's a good plan! Lol... what are the alternatives?!
    Proper language. That's all I know from those experiences.

    Whenever they communicate like this:
    "This dumb shit... your friend is a moron, you need to stop hanging out with morons..."
    My buttons get pushed, entheos screams ---> "Stop calling people morons and dumb shit! People are humans!"
    ENTJ says ---> "No, your friend is a moron and dumb"
    entheos ---> *clams up* *goes away* "My friend has flaws and all, but nobody calls him/her names... s/he's a human"

    Name calling and harsh judgmental language is a NONO. Language needs to be calm, as neutral as possible, etc, if not, ENTJ will encounter a frikkin Fi wall of values for respect and decency.
    Other than this... I dunno.

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    Oooops, I meant "pushing for conversation"... not the offensive language part, I should have clarified.

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    Quote Originally Posted by HotDogg View Post
    Oooops, I meant "pushing for conversation"... not the offensive language part, I should have clarified.
    Ooohh oki.. weeeell, if I don't want to speak with you I just won't, so... I don't see an alternative.

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    I don't know everyone's type IRL so I'm not entirely sure, but generally speaking NPs are my unicorns, followed by NTJs, other F types and lastly STs.

    Can't express just how sad it makes me that me and my ENTP sister don't get along very well. She has almost nonexistent tolerance for F and she quickly projects thought patterns on me that have nothing to do with reality and I know that because many times I can just point her to facts that speak otherwise. Anyway, I digress.
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