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This is a discussion on Feeling lost in life within the INFP Forum - The Idealists forums, part of the NF's Temperament Forum- The Dreamers category; Well, you are ahead of me. I came out of college thinking I knew exactly what I should be doing, ...

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    Well, you are ahead of me. I came out of college thinking I knew exactly what I should be doing, started doing it, and was not until around age 30 I realized how lost I was, so congrats on some early life examination.

    (how does one adult, did i just not get the cheatsheet)
    You are so not alone in this, as a couple of other posters alluded to, such as adults are just large children with bills to pay. They throw different types of fits, want different types of toys, need different types of discipline, etc. This not feeling completely adult may never go away, and you may not want it too. When you've spent some time in the world you realize everyone around you is just getting by the only way they know how. So, don't stress about everything. If you go for a job interview just do your best, that's all you can do.

    If you decide you want to go into some other career, my only advice is try to start doing it by around 30 y.o. It can get harder to switch each year after that age.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Zeta 97 View Post
    So like I am in my last year at university and I am actually starting to freak out! Everytime I think about my future and having to get a job, or basically anything future related I have a panic attack...... like I'm not ready.... I just wanna chill in my cacoon at home away from akward social interactions, just have a breather from the most exhausting and challenging semester I have ever experienced in my whole life.
    I have no idea what I actually want to do with my degree (how does one adult, did i just not get the cheatsheet)...... at this point in time it feels like my life is meaningless and everything I do just doesnt matter. I just want to better people's lives and make them happy without having to actually really interact with them (does that sound crazy)

    It's like everyone around me is expecting me to be a "grown up" but what if I want to be forever young. I mean all my high school friends are here getting married and I cant even remember to feed myself properly every day. And also I want to make my mom and dad proud (and show that I didnt waste all their money going to uni)

    Has anyone else ever felt like this? Like I feel like I've wasted four years of my life studying to be something I'm not even sure I wanna be anymore. Do u have any advice for me. How does one with social anxiety even get a job?
    just face the reality. the world really isn't your oyster. you are going to be limited in opportunity. therefore you should take whatever arises that appears to suit you. your future is not a wide open space and it's most likely all predestined, so stop thinking so much. focus on your day to day and go from there. as far as not wanting to adult, if you'd be happy living with and depending on your parents for the rest of your life (if that's an option) then more power to you. you wouldn't need a job then. on a lighter note. work can be fun. don't think of it as a grudging obligation. think of it as an opportunity to expand your skill set and make some money.

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    Try to discover your passions and connect them to society as much as you can. If you are going to work at something for many hours per day, there has to be some personal interest.

    I would ready about play psychology and try to PLAY with your attitude and intentions so that even chores can become a source of small amounts of fun. Burnout is real for people and play helps to make what is "doing things as a means to an end" feel more like the means and the end are the same.



    Learn everyday meditation techniques and about Flow





    When you feel lost it's also possible to do everything as a means to an end and become addicted. This can happen to a lot of burnouts. So even spirituality and meditation can be a form of bypassing. Take care of your healthy needs and self-parent.



    That's a good start right there! Good luck!

    Remember that strong concentration removes a lot of stress compared to having a ruminating habit.
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    Convert to a religion like Catholicism or if you want then you could first try something like Zoroastrianism (The version that allows converts) atleast.
    Last edited by Peace Advocate; 06-16-2019 at 04:45 PM.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Anti-Fascist Knight View Post
    Convert to a religion like Catholicism or if you want then you could first try something like Zoroastrianism (The version that allows converts) atleast.
    Well I'm already catholic soooooo......

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    Thank you so much for all the advice and comments.

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    Damn am I so in this situation or what? I don't know what to say. It sucks. I don't want to be a part of this world almost all the time. I have a job already but it's not what I want. I don't know what I want. What I want won't pay the bills. What I need is what I hate. I'm afraid to grow older and hate being stuck. I wish I had a group of supportive friends to help me figure out myself. But I have to do it all on my own. The scariest part is trying not to mess up and just making others proud.
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