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    Tips for having a highly extraverted career?

    I got a new job—yay! Still a band directing and elementary job, like my previous one, but I will be the only music teacher in the school district. I think it will be better for me because I hated working with the lead band director at the other school. Now I am (somewhat) free to do what I want with the program, and I don't have to work alongside someone who hates me.

    Anyway, the day I accepted the job at the school board meeting, I got lots of social media friend requests from parents and Messenger requests, some even at 10:30PM, and I freaked out a little bit. I've been excited, but also a bit of a wreck—it occurred to me that everyone (3000) in that small town will know of me.

    I will teach music to every kid in that town and have communication with each kid's parent(s)/guardian(s). I'll have to know every kid's family situation because it will help me do a better job at reaching them, and everyone will think they can come talk to me and that I'll be their friend (or they'll think I'm the Spawn of Satan). In a few days, whenever I can actually get the information, I will have to make phone calls to every band family in the district to introduce myself and let them know about when our summer marching band camp will be. They'll all get my phone number, and I will get lots of calls, texts, and emails asking questions about stuff I don't even know yet.

    Everyone I've met has been really friendly, welcoming, and genuinely excited, but I spent a lot of last night crying hysterically and feeling like I live in a dark hole. It's just a lot, and I'm overwhelmed. I know I can get through this, and I know that I can do my job, and I know I'll do the best I can do (if it kills me),
    but I was wondering if any INFPs here (or other types) have experience with having to be so on for people. What advice for survival do you have?
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    Take it one day at a time, or one situation at a time. Stop thinking of the future extraverting you'll need to do, that's just gonna stress you out.

    You may also want to set some boundaries. No calls after 10pm or before 7am (or whatever times) unless there's an emergency. If you're very sweet about it, people will (usually) not have a problem.

    Nobody wants to be "on" all the time, believe me. But all you can do is your best and you will. Congrats on the job. You'll do great.

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    Meditation between little moments to yourself. Dunno how you feel about meditation or any of its benefits etc but that helps for me. Seems like you're also burdened with the reality of your position, but you also have experience working with this sort of stuff as well, just not as many interactions? IDK, but I'd try to think of the whole scenario one day at a time.
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    Sounds like a dream come true! I don't understand why are you so worried. I don't understand why you think you won't be able to do it. I am trying my ass off to reach where you are. Congratulations. Don't f*** it up!
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    Quote Originally Posted by ButIHaveNoFear View Post
    I got a new job—yay! Still a band directing and elementary job, like my previous one, but I will be the only music teacher in the school district. I think it will be better for me because I hated working with the lead band director at the other school. Now I am (somewhat) free to do what I want with the program, and I don't have to work alongside someone who hates me.

    Anyway, the day I accepted the job at the school board meeting, I got lots of social media friend requests from parents and Messenger requests, some even at 10:30PM, and I freaked out a little bit. I've been excited, but also a bit of a wreck—it occurred to me that everyone (3000) in that small town will know of me.

    I will teach music to every kid in that town and have communication with each kid's parent(s)/guardian(s). I'll have to know every kid's family situation because it will help me do a better job at reaching them, and everyone will think they can come talk to me and that I'll be their friend (or they'll think I'm the Spawn of Satan). In a few days, whenever I can actually get the information, I will have to make phone calls to every band family in the district to introduce myself and let them know about when our summer marching band camp will be. They'll all get my phone number, and I will get lots of calls, texts, and emails asking questions about stuff I don't even know yet.

    Everyone I've met has been really friendly, welcoming, and genuinely excited, but I spent a lot of last night crying hysterically and feeling like I live in a dark hole. It's just a lot, and I'm overwhelmed. I know I can get through this, and I know that I can do my job, and I know I'll do the best I can do (if it kills me),
    but I was wondering if any INFPs here (or other types) have experience with having to be so on for people. What advice for survival do you have?
    First off, congratulations! Freedom + solitude [in a job position] = INFP dream.

    For survival, boundaries are a must. You say 'everyone will think they can come talk to me'. Can they? Ought they? Are you able to say that you are free from x time in morning to x time at night? Are you expected to be on call 24/7? That sounds like a surefire way to burn out and resentment to build. // Additionally "that I'll be their friend". What are the expectations here? Is being professional and polite all you need to do, or will you be expected to perform 'friendliness' over what you are comfortable with?

    It sounds like organization of this system is going to come down to you. On the practical side, I would start making templates / scripts for different situations so that you can plug in names and personal information and send off emails quickly [and make phone calls]. Also be frank and honest [to an extent]: "I will get you that information as soon as I can" in regards to something you don't know, etc. I would hope everyone involved is not expecting you to know everything in a snap, but as long as you are being proactive I think you will do really well!]

    As far as being on for people, any time you're not in front of a student / parent / colleague, try to get some you-time in there. Don't let the role consume you, if that makes sense. Work is work, play is play. Don't think too far ahead, and also be reasonable with yourself. There will surely be an adjustment period, but you'll figure out the percentage of energy you need to give to do well at your job and not burn yourself out.

    Good luck!
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    Phones calls

    My gut reaction

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