[INFP] How do you get angry?

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This is a discussion on How do you get angry? within the INFP Forum - The Idealists forums, part of the NF's Temperament Forum- The Dreamers category; I'm interested in finding out differences in how you express anger. Not what ticks you off but rather how do ...

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    How do you get angry?

    I'm interested in finding out differences in how you express anger. Not what ticks you off but rather how do you deal with and address that issue?

    For me, it's usually an angry rant where I call out the pointlessness of something and I'll probably throw in a funny metaphor or compare/contrast.

    E.g. recently I was told about a friend who couldn't go somewhere and I was outraged at first and then said "Imagine not being able to buy Smarties." It isn't dry humor for me, it's more being imaginative in how you give your outrage form.

    How do you express yourself when angry?
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    It really depends on specific circumstances that involve many different factor such as intensity of anger, consequences of expressing anger in specific form in given situation, cause of anger etc. Sometimes it may be criticism of person, methodology or an argument but I could simply roll my eyes, refuse to cooperate or not express it at all, of course when I'm during a task/project and something or someone is hindering my objective I may increase speed of work to the point quality of my work suffering in the process.

    Your topic name should be how do you express your anger, not how do you get angry as question is imprecise and could mean what makes you angry or what is intensity of your anger. Granted, you've clarified in the post but still bit misleading before someone reads the post.

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    I guess there's a few ways.

    Most normal way is to just get really silent and shut myself off to the person, what they just said, and my current surroundings. I become distant and just try to be cold and calculated because I don't want to risk letting my emotions out.

    A less severe ticked off anger I might rant, just rant about how stupid something is, a waste of time it is, all the reasons this thing is dumb, useless, and pointless.

    A more reactive and rare way is to blow up, this only happens when I do the first way too much or have had too much time to think about something that made me angry, then I just blow up and say everything I've been waiting to say really loud and harshly.

    One time my roommate washed his dirty clothes in my kitchen sink, at the time I just told him to never do it again, but inside I was enraged. Later that day I went off saying "WTH made you think it was a good idea to wash your DIRTY ASS clothes in the KITCHEN SINK?! Where we put stuff that we eat on!"
    And he was like "your still thinking about that" XD.


    That's funny that you get creative with your anger lol.
    Last edited by L P; 09-25-2019 at 09:56 PM.
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    Quote Originally Posted by L P View Post

    One time my roommate washed his dirty clothes in my kitchen sink, at the time I just told him to never do it again, but inside I was enraged. Later that day I went off saying "WTH made you think it was a good idea to wash your DIRTY ASS clothes in the KITCHEN SINK?! Where we put stuff that we eat on!"
    And he was like "your still thinking about that" XD.
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    So, you want to tell me that you confronted your roommate over said person washing a dirty object in a device suited for cleaning dirty objects and presumably you're using it in a fashion most people do, to clean a dirty objects. Unless for some reason you keep your clean dishes in a kitchen sink what's exactly reason you complain about it?

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    This is quite a question. I have not experienced anger within myself for years but others who have witnessed my outbursts have identified it as me being angry, however i do not feel angry. My perspective is i am not associated with the anger, that emotion only moves out of me through a prompt. Sometimes it is within my power to alter an emotions momentum but other times it cant be changed and moves out to be expressed. I have not dealt or addressed anger in its raw unhinged form for a long time as it is such an obvious counterproductive emotion that it can not exist next to my being. Although anger does feature in my makeup it is always remains an agent to love and works out of that. How i express anger is totally unpredictable but has a consistent quality to it some could call "passionate".
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    Well, it's interesting to me, because I can be very different, with who is in front of me.

    1. With husband: We just let the anger flow. Let's say we see someone do something stupid, usually political -- we will curse, yell, call them names.

    2. With everyone else, it depends. There is a weighing of the risk/benefit of expending "anger energy", reward, resolution potential and "is this person/issue worth it"? Some people can't be reasoned with, or they legally have an advantage over me. But neither husband, or I, like to be taken advantage of, or considered Doormats. As the years have rolled on, I've become more assertive with those in the service industry or doctors/nurses. If they do something to make me angry, there is a good chance I will address it. What made the difference, compared to when I was younger? A LOT of regrets about "man...... I should have done something about that or that person...I should have voiced my disgust/anger..a lot of drives home with husband where we say 'I should have smacked that person'....".

    3. My guess... my days go like this --->> 93% I'm pretty chill ----> 7% I'm ranting/angry to husband, about some stupid human or --issue-- or --foible--. It's always The Humans, that are sending me over the edge.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Negotiator View Post
    I'm interested in finding out differences in how you express anger. Not what ticks you off but rather how do you deal with and address that issue?

    For me, it's usually an angry rant where I call out the pointlessness of something and I'll probably throw in a funny metaphor or compare/contrast.

    E.g. recently I was told about a friend who couldn't go somewhere and I was outraged at first and then said "Imagine not being able to buy Smarties." It isn't dry humor for me, it's more being imaginative in how you give your outrage form.

    How do you express yourself when angry?
    1) Some variation 'What mess is this?'

    2) Silence. Externally, it looks like I have forgotten to complete my reaction. Internally, I am fighting thoughts of impulsive retaliation (berating the other side with a long list of 'wrongs' from the past 3-6 months).

    3) I share my course of action (loudly). No discussion, this is what I'm doing so deal with it.

    I don't think I've been 'angry' this year. I do get annoyed / bothered / perturbed a lot, but those have a different path. The anger route takes a lot out of me, and it usually means the end of the attachment to said person / situation. It's a last resort emotion for me. I can work through something when I'm bothered, but if I'm angry, watch out.

    Most people that know me have said they don't want to be on my bad side, and I think they're wise about it. There's usually a good reason for my anger (because it's too exhausting).
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    Quote Originally Posted by NagatoUzumaki View Post
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    So, you want to tell me that you confronted your roommate over said person washing a dirty object in a device suited for cleaning dirty objects and presumably you're using it in a fashion most people do, to clean a dirty objects. Unless for some reason you keep your clean dishes in a kitchen sink what's exactly reason you complain about it?
    That's exactly what he thought.

    Sometimes I leave dishes, cups and utensils in the sink. I don't want laundry detergent or bleach in my sink, I don't want body sweat and musk, hair follicles and other body residue on/in/around my kitchen sink. That's disgusting. There's germs on the rest of the body that don't belong in a kitchen sink.

    Let someone wash a pair of draws and socks in your kitchen sink.
    Last edited by L P; 09-26-2019 at 01:43 PM.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Negotiator View Post
    E.g. recently I was told about a friend who couldn't go somewhere and I was outraged at first and then said "Imagine not being able to buy Smarties." It isn't dry humor for me, it's more being imaginative in how you give your outrage form.
    That's totally something I would say not meaning it to be funny but people would laugh at

    I think when I get angry lately I get much more vocal than I did when I was younger. I was actually attacked on public transport a little while ago and instead of sitting there and taking it I pushed the guy back and started shouting and swearing to get attention from people. That's pretty unusual for me, usually I would just stay quite or try to get away.

    If I am angry with a person I usually don't say anything because I know if I do I will erupt and say things I will be embarrassed about later. So I bottle it up and become very quiet, which gives away that I am angry so usually I will have to get out of there before they ask what's wrong. So it's difficult, I either spew all my anger at someone or become frozen and can't talk to them at all.

    My anger is usually short lived and I have to let it run its course. I'm also very forgiving so when I stop being angry I will usually forgive the person (if they did something wrong).
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    Quote Originally Posted by L P View Post
    That's exactly what he thought.

    Sometimes I leave dishes, cups and utensils in the sink. I don't want laundry detergent or bleach in my sink, I don't want body sweat and musk, hair follicles and other body residue on/in/around my kitchen sink. That's disgusting. There's germs on the rest of the body that don't belong in a kitchen sink.

    Let someone wash a pair of draws and socks in your kitchen sink.
    Well, you're realize there are germs everywhere up including kitchen sink? I assume you clean those dishes that you leave in the sink. So there should be no problem especially if bleach was used as it's disinfectant, unless of course he decided to mix up bleach for some reason with dish soap containing ammonia what could be actually dangerous.

    I wouldn't really care, it wouldn't result in any negative consequence to me, so their business not mine if they want to wash it that way.

    Anyway, I'm going the off-rails so I'm not touching upon it further.


     
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