Mmmh... this really gave me food for thoughts.
Reading, I was wondering if asking for people to answer these questions was a way for me to avoid answering. After all, talking about ideals also mean talking about our desires, our needs. What might be currently missing in our lives, and also our vulnerabilities. Getting in touch within, and having the courage to disclose it. I still feel so weak with emotions... Thank you everyone for sharing these touching, intimate parts of yourselves.
I suppose it would be quite unfair to you and me if I didn't do the exercise and share my answers. So here's my contribution.
What would be your ideal romance ?
A relationship full with love. Warmth, cuddles, affection and a sense of playfulness. A continual give and take between me and my partner, both acknowledging each other's importance in each other's life.
What would you expect from your partner ? How would s.he contribute to your happiness ?
A sense of competition, or rivalry, while never being against each other. To stimulate each other mind, to push each other to go forward in the path we've chosen. Seeing the other grow while growing by his side.
What needs would fill a romance, and how ?
My security needs, and my self-esteem needs. To feel cared of, to feel nurtured, to have someone by my side, even when we're far away physically. To sense that "there's someone I care for, here in this world, and this person cares for me". To exist for one another, to feel that our existence matter, which give us a sense of meaningfulness.
What would be your ideal plans for your future ?
To continue what I'm doing right now. Following my path, without being worried about my partnership, while my partner does the same. Our path will cross by itself if future decides so, and our individual experience spent far from each other will only make the relationship richer.
Your ideal lifestyle ?
A life where I can take the time to think about what's important, and where I have the time and power to do what's important. Whether I'm in subordination or a free atom it doesn't matter so much, as long as I can do what's meaningful for me at each moment and be here to support my loved ones.
edit : added question. After death ?
If I was to die first, I wish to find a mean to still be here to contribute to the well-being of my partner and those we cherished. Whether it is financially, through works I would have left behind me, or other means I would have found in between. If I were to loose my loved one first, I would love to cherish the experiences and wisdom he passed upon me, and make a memento to always remember it.