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    Doomed in love?

    Ever have a feeling you'll never be in the perfect event, you'll never meet the perfect person, you'll never be fully happy-and you live day to day like this, knowing that you'll probably never be fully satisfied with anything?

    Duality Shmuality.
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    INTP - The Thinkers

    I'm afraid my INFP feels like this sometimes. He's gone through more girlfriends than I have boyfriends and has admitted to jumping into some bad relationships because he had the emotional need to be in one. Sometimes I feel like he finds it hard to be satisfied and feels the need to keep looking for an idealized "perfect relationship"...

    But my advice on this is- if you do find someone who'd bend over backwards for you, who's willing to listen to and discuss everything and work on themselves so that, even though they're not perfect for you, they're trying to be close...that's a pretty rare and beautiful thing, too.

    Sorry- this INTP crashing your forum has a tendency to offer words of pragmatism, which I understand may be disillusioning and unhelpful. But I'm head over heels in love with an INFP who's experienced this hopelessness and I really, really want to know how I can fill it for him. ...And I've had my own emotions toward realizing perfection is impossible. :-/

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    Quote Originally Posted by minavanhelsing View Post
    But my advice on this is- if you do find someone who'd bend over backwards for you, who's willing to listen to and discuss everything and work on themselves so that, even though they're not perfect for you, they're trying to be close...that's a pretty rare and beautiful thing, too.
    I'm usually the one doing that for others, but they don't reciprocate. =/
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    INFP - The Idealists

    Quote Originally Posted by StaceofBass View Post
    I'm usually the one doing that for others, but they don't reciprocate. =/
    I know that feel ;-;

    I always felt like if I managed to get someone to love me who I felt the same about then I would stop holding back and give all that I could to treat them right - I then did this and it didn't work out *sigh* I ended up feeling like they only cared when it suited their needs and that they would never truly understand just who I am and what my life is all about.

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    INTP - The Thinkers

    Quote Originally Posted by StaceofBass View Post
    I'm usually the one doing that for others, but they don't reciprocate. =/
    ...Yeah, then I totally feel you. ): I may be a Thinker, but I'm not a robot- I'm prepared to throw everything aside for people I fall in love with and sometimes it feels like they don't even notice. And it's like...they don't have to drop everything for me, but I'd just feel a little better sometimes if it felt like they noticed the way I do it for them.
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    INFP - The Idealists

    I try and pretend I'm okay being alone and that love sucks anyway and then sometimes I'm just like "...I don't wanna be alone anymore..." And then at the same time I'm pretty sure I've met the perfect person who felt the same for me but we've fallen out of touch and it's just a weird dynamic and I keep looking for someone JUST. LIKE. HIM. but it never happens o.o Because they're not him D: Nobody will be him. Which sucks. But I keep having faith we'll find each other someday again~

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    INFP - The Idealists

    Quote Originally Posted by CaptainShawnee View Post
    And then at the same time I'm pretty sure I've met the perfect person who felt the same for me but we've fallen out of touch and it's just a weird dynamic and I keep looking for someone JUST. LIKE. HIM. but it never happens o.o Because they're not him D: Nobody will be him. Which sucks. But I keep having faith we'll find each other someday again~
    This. :)
    Having a quite hard time right now getting over my first love (I'm only 15 though, but still. *sighs* ;) ) who's abroad for the next nine months and had refused to contact me for about the previous three weeks. Still no sign from his side and I guess he just doesn't care anymore ..
    Probably due to his new girlfriend. We stayed in contact for the first three weeks he was abroad and texted each other about twice a week asking each other how things were going, etc. After two weeks abroad he texted me in a "by-the-way"-kind of way that he had a girlfriend there. We haven't been in a relationship before he went abroad but have been dating for about four months. And he knows what I'm feeling for him.
    I feel like I desperately need to find someone new and get over him but everytime I'm with a new nice guy I realize that the feelings I have for them just can't compare to the feelings I have for HIM. The spark is missing. :S
    And this definitely freaks me out! It just hurts so much to be rejected. And I have no clue how I could ever forget about him. :(

    I don't know about you INFP-fellows but for me it's very hard to open up to people. But as soon as I know someone better and I feel trust between us I kind of .. feel save and get attached to them easily. They become very important to me and I definitely care very much about them. And if somebody that important leaves me .. I feel somehow empty for quite a long time and really miss them even if they already forgot about me. :S

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    Unknown Personality


    So many feels in this thread
    I can't relate to it.
    (Or can I?)

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    INFJ - The Protectors

    I want someone to be utterly enthralled by me. Whoever choses to accept me as I am from my head to my toes will be my hero. He would be honest to me and compatible with me. I have no idea how he is going to look or even he exists....but I hope he has a bit of pretty features like myself. :)
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