Oh, I love ENTPs as well. :)
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Oh, I love ENTPs as well. :)
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Exactly, like really? Are you sure you are being sincere? You just told me you loved me yesterday, tell me in three days. lol They do. My father, i strongly think hes ENFJ, because he always got mad that I didnt want to hang out with him or eat with everyone else or sleep with him when I got older (teens). And Im like, seriously? Im 14 now! that just sounds wrong. Plus the personal pace issue.....not gonna indulge into that though, but i totally get it. Pizza is the best. especially eating it alone with a good book or watching you fav tv show. Oh! Did you see the Smosh interview prank with tom hiddleston? that changed my view of him. When I would tell an ENFJ, my dad included, that its honestly not him or that I just need space, he gets offended and then says I need to change be more affectionate. That leaves me soooo confused......lol They just dont get it. Think my dad is the underdeveloped version of ENFJ. Sorry if I am ranting.....:/
I have an ESTJ or ESFJ friend and when we first start hanging out or within the first few minutes of meeting each other again, we really can't find anything to say to each other...but as the night goes on, we begin to honestly have such an incredibly good time together and enjoy each others' company so much so that I can say that I think we'd be friends for a very long time (and we have been already, despite time gaps e.g college, boyfriends, etc.). I think one of the only biggest setbacks in our friendship is our different music tastes...but it's hard to find anyone with my specific range and tastes. Because of her, I can definitely see myself dating an ESTJ guy, but I would need to be extremely attracted to him to want to make it work and do the things he'd want me to do in our relationship. I've heard they can be a bit picky and over-organized, but being neat shouldn't something I would argue against.
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A compatible NF, or anyone else compatible, which is very hard to find. :) I love myself, but am (I believe, from personal experience) very hard to fall in love with because I am such a weird/odd person (probably for just being myself). I honestly feel no one (but truly, very few people) can relate to me, but at the same time am writing this with a smile, rather than with a tear. It's OK, 'cause why I would want to change my wonderful self to be more "normal?" We all should be ourselves, and happily so. But in my case it just means that even the nicest, most welcoming people have a hard time adapting to who that is-I have totally embraced the idea that very few people are a good romantic fit (not due to my own personal fault, or THEIR problems, but just because we aren't meant to be together-much less am I complaining about being INFP, which I totally love!)
(Note that it's not that I am not likable, but more that it's kind of a love/hate thing-the rare person would find me charming and appreciate who I really am, while most will think of me as strange, despite my friendliness, open-mindedness, taking good care of myself, etc. I relish being myself, though, so why should I complain? Someone out there, far away, perhaps.)
I am wary of NTs, but am sure the right one would be a great fit-it just has never happened IME, and I have never been knowingly attracted to any (no offense to their wonderful selves.) I don't particularly admire "NTness" as many INFPs do, because I don't believe we (or them) need any "balancing"-we all just probably need the right person of any type. That said, I am usually attracted to people who end up being INFs, as we can relate better with each other, obviously enough.
She MUST be into the arts. She doesn't have to play an instrument or paint or do anything creative, just have an appreciation for it. Being an artist myself, this is nonnegotiable.
I also have to feel a powerful connection with her on many levels; intellectual, physical, psychological, spiritual, sexual ect. Those are the main ones that I really couldn't see myself looking past because all of those things are very important to me. And they can't just be sort of there, I have to KNOW right off the bat that the connection is there and that it is powerful. She also needs to be someone who is open minded and adventurous, in life in the bedroom, in whatever she does. I'm pretty adventurous myself and if she's not I don't think it would go very far. She also must be submissive. I compete enough as it is and I'm not going to compete for dominance in a relationship. I lead and she follows.
I'm a pretty ambitious person so she would also have to be someone who is supportive of my vision. Someone who is going to build me up and not tear me down. Someone who is going to bring value and joy into my life and not drama or headaches. I have enough things going on dealing with the day to day things, handling competition, reaching goals and pushing past barriers and I don't need someone who will just bring negativity into my life. At the end of the day I want someone who I can come to at the end of the day and relax with.
She also has to believe in herself just as strongly as I believe in myself. She must be secure in her own worth as a person. She must be feminine, loyal and strong. I never trust anyone completely, but I have to know that I can trust her with the same amount of trust I have for my family and my best friends.
Above all, she must inspire me. Whether that is artistic inspiration through song or writing, or whether she just makes me want to become a better person and a better man, she HAS to inspire me. If I am not inspired by her, then I probably wouldn't be talking to her to begin with though.
I'm not looking for someone to complete me and I don't expect anyone to. I'm looking for someone who will enhance me. Bring out the best in me. Show me things I never could have experienced on my own. I'm looking for someone who is going to allow me to do the same for her.