I'm not used to asking for help in such matters so here it goes. (ESFP GUY)
SO there's this girl (INFP)
It had been a two weeks since we had really talked but today she calls me and asks if I wanted to go out to dinner. It seemed like a great night. On the way home :
She asks me "Why is it that you like me"
and I tell her "I think you're innocent, and you've been treated like shit and taken advantage of, but you deserve so much better"
In all honesty that was probably not the best thing to say. I was holding back because I didn't want to feel too vulnerable but I was blind sided with that question and that's what came out.
her -"I just can't believe that you can possibly like me; I think you're just being delusional"
I didn't know what to say, that hurt pretty bad. I don't know why insecure girls make me close up like that, sometimes I become a little insecure myself. I was a little angry that she could easily dismiss my feelings for her to be simply delusional.
"What else do you like about me? I bet I can prove you otherwise"
Me - " I don't even want to tell you now if that's all you want to do"
I was flustered, and driving, and couldn't find the words to say what I wanted to say anyways. Why would she say something like that?
I wanted to tell her why I thought she was incredible, that her curiosity about life and philosophy intrigues me and that I love listening to her talk endlessly about what ever she comes up with on her mind. I think shes naive, innocent, and beautiful and I'm attracted to that. I like making her laugh and talking to her all night. I didn't tell her any of this
Should I even bother to tell her or is it even enough for her? I have a problem with dealing with introverted girls because I tend to be too clingy and needy. I don't want to put myself out there in the open just to feed her curiosity and I don't know if she just wants me to confirm to her that I really do care about her either.
She hasn't told me how she feels about me, she just says "I don't know"
the night ended... unresolved like most nights.
is this just a patience thing or am I just fooling myself with her?
I'm at a loss of what to do.