This is a discussion on Love love love. Oh, love you're a crock of shi...... within the INFP Forum - The Idealists forums, part of the NF's Temperament Forum- The Dreamers category; Originally Posted by Mr Anderson I feel like I need a man in order to feel happy, but not a ...
I'm starting to think this would be a good hook up thread. We all got lots of love to give to each other!
i'm probably way too young for anyone on here anyways lol
Tehee :) I feel the love already xD
"No matter how close two persons are, a world of difference separates them".
Sorry to be a downer, but the level of connection you want is certainly too much to ask. We're complex. Extremely complex. We can't share every tiny little bit of our soul, of our essence, with anybody else. Another person can only know as so much. They only know what we reveal to them (whether directly or indirectly). There will always be something from deep inside our core that we will keep from someone else, however big that fraction is; something that will keep them from truly "getting us". Even if that wasn't the case, and there was a way to truly open up completely to someone else, to let them stare directly into our very soul... chances are, they will find something that they "won't get", something that they won't understand.
No person in a relationship can even be sure at a 100% that their significant other loves them. If we can't even be completely sure of something as basic as that, how can we hope for a deeper level of understanding and of a connection? Using the example you mentioned about that song, maybe that person sees a deeper meaning in it than most people; but what if it differs completely from yours? And more importantly, how would you, or them, ever know exactly what significance that songs holds for the other person, and how it makes them feel?
When it comes down to it, we're all alone in this that we call life. No one can truly "get us". We can find likeminded people, people who have a similar way of seeing things as us, people with the same values, and so on. But such a deep level of connection is an ideal. And, like all ideals, unrealizable. We're the only people who can truly get us. Crap, sometimes even if that seems difficult! Who can say they get themselves completely, all the time, with no exceptions? Certainly not me :p