"Do people actually like the INFP?" - threads I've read a lot about
(Okay, this is completely out of my own experiences, and perhaps a little bit of paranoia.
I could just be narcissistic, but this is how it seems to me...)
People like my brother, an ESTJ, see many characters on T.V. portraying the exterior of an INFP: curiosity and shyness. But, when encountering people like this in real life, he sees them as ditz and unreasonable. I guess some people could say we are, but I think that's there's way more than what meets the eye. We have values and rules just like any other personality, and now I'm speaking for myself, it's just that sometimes we/I get lost in my own world. This thought of us being day dreamers floating or drifting away with the clouds, is it good for us or bad? People have said that they admire INFP personalities, but they don't think that I'm a complete INFP... Well, I am... I just think people should get this idea out of their head. I think people are beginning to like the thought more than the actual reality of it.
1) INFPs aren't going to grow fairy wings and fly away. So, you don't need to keep an eye on us to avoid that from happening.
2) We're most likely, hopefully not going to chase the butterfly that'll lead us off the cliff. So, you don't need to stick around to 'save' us.
3) We don't need saving, especially if it's from other people's opinions. That's what our customized imaginary captain-america shields are for; to defend us and throw at people's heads when they're looking the other way.
I know I don't sound serious about the topic, but sometimes those really unhealthy INTJs and mean ESTJs, they can really get me upset. There was an INTJ who had no idea about the myers briggs personalities, but he had a theory that people like me watches and reads too many books and movies. He said that those 'ditsy' kind of people should stay in the screens, and they should stay in the books because people who act like that are going to get themselves killed. Right there, he crushed pretty much all of my INFP beliefs; that we don't need rescuing, and that we are not ditsy. We're really not stupid, okay? Yes, we're dreamers, but aren't all geniuses dreamers? Or, something like that..?
I don't know. All I know is that I wanted to say something to that INTJ, and I was so close to too! But, then I thought, and raising my hand to argue was like admitting I'm ditsy. He called us the ditsy people. He could have been talking about any personality, right? But, then he goes on about how curiosity is a horrible trait and getting their heads stuck in the clouds and yada yada yada. I defended the curious people as reasonable as I could, (going out of my comfort zone) but then he refers to the bible saying, "Eve was curious and look where that got her..."
"This kid..." I'm thinking, "He doesn't even believe the bible!" That's the thing about T's... they attack you in your weak spots. I went home that day, hating myself. This particular INTJ and I have been getting into fights since God knows when. He's such a pest. I can never win with him. I feel like he rehearses exactly what he's going to say before he says it, and he always stabs me in the back. I don't hate all T's though I've had really bad experiences with most of them, especially ESTJs.
Let's not digress, does the thought count? Like, them thinking that we're 'ditsy' people and feeling bad for us, is that fair? I blame those television shows for always making us either too much of something or too less. I mean, in heroes, the main character (can't remember his name) is like the perfect description of how I want to be seen. But, sometimes it's too much. I know I'm not like him, and I don't know if I ever will be. He seems so perfect on the screen, and people like him when watching the show, but in real life... It's people like my ESTJ brother that get all the credit...