This is a discussion on Male INFPS within the INFP Forum - The Idealists forums, part of the NF's Temperament Forum- The Dreamers category; Marry me....
I'm an INFP male and I know I'm hard to really get to know. It takes time for me to get comfortable with someone (and that's probably why only once ive kissed a girl I just met in a club, the other girls Ive kissed ive known for at least a couple of months). We're also pretty good at adapting to people and situations - like a chameleon - so that's another reason it's hard to find us; we blend in.
I do think, though, that you can distinguish us from others. We're (sometimes just slightly) more reserved , we care a lot about people and we think differenly, that's why we may sometimes come up with a very spontaneous idea and nobody understands.
You just have to look carefully;)
I tend to notice how girls love to talk about how caring and sensitive a man is "supposed" to be (because Notebook was sooo good!) but in many cases, they fall for a type that is so far away from an INFP (for example because INFPs is the "idealists") that it becomes ironic. In my experience, NT guys had the most luck with girls in school and such.
I truly think that INFP male is the least desired type, not that there aren't girls that would love "us"(at the end of the day, we are individuals as well so I'm generalising). Just like INTPs is the least desired girl type. People might not want to admit this but I think it's true.
But then there are other parameters. Good looks and confidence makes a big difference wether you're an ESTJ or an INFP.