Liches are crack! *nods*
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Liches are crack! *nods*
Of the one friend ive managed to keep I make him come to my house. The only other time was once when I actually organised........*deep breath* ORGANISED to go to a less well known friends house to play a fantasy tabletop game, I wouldnt normally go out on a limb like that, but I love my hobby and I wanted a game in the week rather than just for 2 hours at the weekend.
Besides, he was even shyer than me. If I didnt take charge id never get a game, but it's rare that I do something like that.
I can never get enough me-time, but I love spending time with friends from time to time as well..
but yeh, I am very picky about who I'll hang out with. Usually I gravitate to intelligent and/or adventurous people..
If someone attempts to cling to me like I am some sort of living life preserver, it will annoy the hell out of me, and I'll eventually distance myself as much as necessary..
This happens often enough that it's starting to worry me.. I need to be more assertive and straightforward. >.>
You aren't understanding introversion right.
-liking small groups or one on one contact
-preferring fewer, deeper contacts as opposed to a wide, shallower circle of friends
-opening up in "safe" areas such as familiar interests or people while extroverts adapt
-needing time alone to recharge after social events
These are all true of me, but I don't really like being alone it's just necessary to me. If I am alone TOO long, I start to feel lonely!! So for me it's a constant balance. I try to see people often but I always end up leaving after a couple days or at the end of the party and lock the door and spend the rest of the day alone, and I enjoy that because all the thoughts that have been building up in me and this exhaustion just unloads. The contact I had before this time will tide me over because my contact meter is full and it keeps me socially fulfilled and happy for a day or so.
So for me the question is more, do I like being in their company or not?
Also, I really like going over to my friend's houses, but I would never invite myself over. I like seeing how different people make their space and I like seeing how different people eat and their different rules and expectations... well, I sometimes go over for the evening and keep extending how long I'll stay till four days before I feel like I should stop eating their food and go. The longest I've spent with someone was two weeks at which point I became intolerable to be around.
Last edited by perfectcircle; 11-07-2011 at 08:02 PM.
I love hanging with my friend and I'm generally pretty open about my true self, it's always voluntary. If I don't want to see them I call them up and say I'm tired, and that's happened only a few times and I never didn't want to see them I just hadn't slept the night before, I'm usually too excited about seeing them and getting my mind off myself for a few hours.